[bewater]

Very basic question, but since I'm out of hand lately, your opinion will worth it.

Made out with this girl on Thursday night. Cute girl, kinda strange, studies veterinary medicine and has 3 cats - yea, crazy flag, but sex might be really good - a 7.

Mainly for logistical reason, I didn't even tried to get her back to my place. However, I also sense that the attraction decreased over-time, mostly because my poor game.

Had a short text message combo in the next 2 days:

me: So you still don't remember my name?
her: (bullshit reason that he has exams and couldn't memorize because of that), but you can introduce yourself again
me: Oh, poor little you. (referencing some funny thing we talked) You didn't memorized this as well? )
her: (gets pissed, gives some logical bullshit explanations)
me: Easy girl, i was kidding, you seemed like a fun girl who knows to take a joke. To end this, my name is x.
her :Thanks See, it wasn't that hard.

I haven't responded...I said to give it at least 3 days.

However, I feel like this bitch was either playing me, not interested or just strange.

In my opinion it's a dead lead, but how would you continue after this ?

[Svoboda]

Delete her number.

[Latan]

If she had been into you, she'd remember your name.
You fucked up this time, do better with the next girl you meet.

[subterfuge]

(06-25-2017 04:53 AM)bewater Wrote:  

However, I also sense that the attraction decreased over-time, mostly because my poor game.

What do you think you did wrong?

[bewater]

(06-26-2017 02:21 AM)subterfuge Wrote:  

(06-25-2017 04:53 AM)bewater Wrote:  

However, I also sense that the attraction decreased over-time, mostly because my poor game.

What do you think you did wrong?

I'm not really sure, probably I should have been more sexual. She IOIed me, opened up easily, was interested for about an hour, after that I felt the attraction decreased after I kissed closed. Probably I'm not a good kisser...who knows.

However, she was quite strange, she talked very fast in short bursts, than she was very quiet. I haven't meet girls like that... maybe she has some issues, i don't know. I continued just because she has a hot body.

I'm not sure how much I fucked up because o me or because of her, probably both....it's not a normal girl for sure.

I also didn't remember her name, but I looked on FB, you can put the phone number and will show the account. She asked for my name when I gave my # but I said she has to remember it.

[Investment Bro]

You identified her attraction dropping and then went for the makeout without the logistics to back it up.

Save the make out for when you can escalate. Otherwise it can provoke a case of pre-sex buyers remorse and you've lost the girl. Though this one didn't seem very interested past the initial window from what you are describing. Sounds like you spent too much time talking, which is why the conversation went down. If she's buying what you're selling, you should either be making moves to get her back to your place, or to get the number and bail before you say something stupid. If the logistics aren't working for sex, keep it to 20 minutes max then bail.

Keep in mind, this bitch has 3 cats while still in school. I can't imagine she's a stimulating conversationist. Lose that number, you're only asking this question because she's hot. Plenty more like her my friend.

[Investment Bro]

You identified her attraction dropping and then went for the makeout without the logistics to back it up.

Save the make out for when you can escalate. Otherwise it can provoke a case of pre-sex buyers remorse and you've lost the girl. Though this one didn't seem very interested past the initial window from what you are describing. Sounds like you spent too much time talking, which is why the conversation went down. If she's buying what you're selling, you should either be making moves to get her back to your place, or to get the number and bail before you say something stupid. If the logistics aren't working for sex, keep it to 20 minutes max then bail.

Keep in mind, this bitch has 3 cats while still in school. I can't imagine she's a stimulating conversationist. Lose that number, you're only asking this question because she's hot. Plenty more like her my friend.

[bewater]

(06-26-2017 06:47 AM)Investment Bro Wrote:  

You identified her attraction dropping and then went for the makeout without the logistics to back it up.

Save the make out for when you can escalate. Otherwise it can provoke a case of pre-sex buyers remorse and you've lost the girl. Though this one didn't seem very interested past the initial window from what you are describing. Sounds like you spent too much time talking, which is why the conversation went down. If she's buying what you're selling, you should either be making moves to get her back to your place, or to get the number and bail before you say something stupid. If the logistics aren't working for sex, keep it to 20 minutes max then bail.

Keep in mind, this bitch has 3 cats while still in school. I can't imagine she's a stimulating conversationist. Lose that number, you're only asking this question because she's hot. Plenty more like her my friend.

Anyway, I'm meeting with her tonight(if she doesn't flake) and I'll see.

The main problem is that I can't go for the bang for logistic reasons and I'll be able to try again only in 3 weeks since I'm going on vacation.

How do yo suggest to handle it? Make her super horny?

[Jetset]

Between the cats and the nervous/anxious conversation (not sure what to do, then forcing it out), she sounds more awkward than nutty.

In my experience, women in medical studies are too focused on their personal ambition - and veterinary studies are the worst, since they're doing doctor work knowing they're not going to get paid doctor money. I wouldn't think it was worth my time.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

You needlessly made the conversation about your fucking name.

Sure - possible that she did not remember it, because you were not impactful enough or she did not hear it well - she may have been too drunk as well.

This name-riding was utterly useless.

Also stop of escalations when you have not logistics down pat should not deter you to make out way more heavy. Sometimes you get the bang without any logistics - toilet, car, side alley.

[bewater]

Just coming from the date with this girl. She's so inexperienced, shy, a bit awkward and not so hot as I remember...my sexual attraction was very low. She seemed really into me though. When I'm not really attracted to the girl I'm very aloof and the girls enjoy it a lot more...unfortunately, I can't be like that with the girls I'm strongly attracted.

[General Stalin]

Sounds like you are trying too hard, especially judging from your texts. I get you are trying to be playful, but remember the 2/3 rule. She should be texting more than you and longer messages generally. Your game feels unnatural.

Your restart text should not be "So you still don't remember my name?" Sound lame, qualifying, and coming from a place of weakness. A simple restart could have been "Hey lady" or "Hola chica" to add a little fun language flavor.

At any event you said you felt the attraction waning due to poor game and she was getting frustrated with your round-about replies. She is likely a lost lead but you can always say "we ought to get together again this week" and see if she bites. At this point you can't convince her to be attracted to you but you can always ask and see if she's still warm.

[PapayaTapper]

(06-26-2017 04:04 PM)bewater Wrote:  

Just coming from the date with this girl. She's so inexperienced, shy, a bit awkward and not so hot as I remember...my sexual attraction was very low. She seemed really into me though. When I'm not really attracted to the girl I'm very aloof and the girls enjoy it a lot more...unfortunately, I can't be like that with the girls I'm strongly attracted.

Welcome to "The Rub", friend