Quote: (12-18-2018 06:22 PM)Thot Leader Wrote:
Same here, though it has happened once or twice. If a woman from your past contacts you, she definitely wants something, and no "closure" isn't something women lie awake at night pining for.
Sounds like that Tinder chick had a not so great head for decision making. Glad you put a wiser head into her.
On that note, I got a text about a month ago from my first girlfriend that I haven't seen or spoken to in almost 2 years, and haven't dated in about 3. It made me think a little bit.
On one hand, I see the argument that exes should be left in the dust and never returned to. On the other hand, once you're stoicism is rock solid, it can be a ton of fun to hit some retreads when you're traveling or what have you.
With exes, I agree that once she's out, you should never interact with her emotional BS on any level. If she starts even implying anything emotional, it's drop and run. Don't give her the time of day, because if you left, it was for a reason. The same is true in reverse.
I went back home to visit my family for Thanksgiving, and my ex popped into my head. She had sent the aforementioned text message two days prior and I hadn't responded yet. She had said she was thinking of me, and hoped I was doing well.
I replied with "drinks?" and she accepted. We ended up having a drink, we talked about casual shit, and then I brought her back to my hotel and banged her twice. The sex was still great, and I enjoyed it. She seemed to enjoy it, but that didn't really matter.
When I got back home, I went through my old journals to take a look at my mindset after we first split. As you can imagine, a pre-Roosh IB was pretty torn up, and there was a lot of vitriolic fire poured on those pages. I was strongly against anything that involved exes.
The truth was, I was still wrapped up in emotions relating to her. Once I got over that, and stopped deriving my success in life from my successes with women everything changed. Besides the subset of women with tons of serious red flags, I get the impression that a lot of the guys who are strongly against anything to do with exes are still hurting deep down from that one girl who really burned them. It's easy to shy away from that by shrugging it off and continuously banging new women instead of dealing with the hurt for good. That said...
For players who are new to the game I always recommend staying away from exes until your confidence and outcome independence are rock solid. They invite a ton of problems, don't foster growth, and the rewards are relatively minimal compared to the risk.
However, I don't see anything wrong with an experienced hustler putting a shine on those old shoes if it takes next to no effort, and she doesn't throw drama. Honestly, banging my ex was great in that I suffered no emotional damage, had some very effortless sex, and as a bonus I felt very motivated to get back and start sarging when I got home. Had I been in a highly emotional mindset, I would have missed out on the opportunity.
Totally unrelated, but she was also cheating on the guy she had been seeing for the last two years. AWALT.