Hey everyone, I'm a long-time lurker who only just decided to post, mainly because I've been having this problem for a while now and only now have I decided to search for answers.
Quick background info: I'm a male from the middle east, 5'7, body well above average, and with a face that would be slightly above average. Just graduated and spending the summer trying to make money and get laid. Only problem is getting laid is really difficult here where I'm from, so I have to resort to mainly online methods (eg. social media, group video/voice calls, etc).
Here's the problem: I have no problem attracting a girl initially; I'd say I'm quite good at that for a beginner, as I beat many other local guys at this since they generally suck at game. My problem arises AFTER this, when she clearly or blatantly indicates her attraction to me. My brain has this habit of stressing me out and telling me not to fuck up. This pressure of "don't fuck it up this time" builds up slowly over time until I eventually lose my charm (not all of it, but a lot of it). I stop cracking jokes and teasing as much, and I started getting nervous of the competition (despite most of them being crap) and I eventually lose her. I'm 17 years old and have had a good number of opportunities with girls that were genuinely interested in me and above average in looks, but this has caused me to fuck up gloriously, and as a result I am still a virgin.
What can I do to rid myself of this mindset? Does it go away over time?
Thanks
Quick background info: I'm a male from the middle east, 5'7, body well above average, and with a face that would be slightly above average. Just graduated and spending the summer trying to make money and get laid. Only problem is getting laid is really difficult here where I'm from, so I have to resort to mainly online methods (eg. social media, group video/voice calls, etc).
Here's the problem: I have no problem attracting a girl initially; I'd say I'm quite good at that for a beginner, as I beat many other local guys at this since they generally suck at game. My problem arises AFTER this, when she clearly or blatantly indicates her attraction to me. My brain has this habit of stressing me out and telling me not to fuck up. This pressure of "don't fuck it up this time" builds up slowly over time until I eventually lose my charm (not all of it, but a lot of it). I stop cracking jokes and teasing as much, and I started getting nervous of the competition (despite most of them being crap) and I eventually lose her. I'm 17 years old and have had a good number of opportunities with girls that were genuinely interested in me and above average in looks, but this has caused me to fuck up gloriously, and as a result I am still a virgin.
What can I do to rid myself of this mindset? Does it go away over time?
Thanks