[wonderer1]

Ive been thinking about this topic lately and I'm confused.

I know some of you give a girl one strike and others three and so on, but can we be that specific? Girls get horny, emotions change, circumstances change.

Ive blown girls off after one flake to get them running back, I've had them come out after trying twice. Last week I bumped into a girl who had flaked on me several times after an initial date to find out the reason was she had a bf, now they're not together and we met up and banged.

Sometimes my ego is too big and I have enough girls to not give too much of a shit, but then sometimes when Im bored I think why not ill hit up girls who flaked from >month ago.

How do you deal with this and what are your thoughts?

[Rocha]

Flaking is normal. I would have much less notches if would be pissed off and deleted girls numbers after a flake. Women are moody and irrational human beings, what they want today is the opposite of what they want tomorrow. Have always a backup plan, even if it is drinking a beer with your buddies, going to the gym or getting an haircut. Just dont stay home rationalizing the flake.

[XXL]

Your ego would barely notice a random girl flaking on you if you had other girls one call away or more interesting things to do.

Stop caring start living.

[MaceTyrell]

I second Rocha's statement. But then again, there is a threshold. I believe in a two strikes (and when they flake they fail to suggest an alternate time to hang) sort of rule.

[RatInTheWoods]

Once they flake on you, don't delete them, but do not chase them.

They have to chase you after a flake.

This keeps the door open to bangs, demonstrates you are are quality man that doesn't care she flaked and protects you from a future flake of hers.

If she gets in touch again, frame it like "what are you going to do to make it up to me?"

[bgbusiness]

(09-05-2017 01:11 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  

Ive blown girls off after one flake to get them running back, I've had them come out after trying twice. Last week I bumped into a girl who had flaked on me several times after an initial date to find out the reason was she had a bf, now they're not together and we met up and banged.

That has never happened to me, which surprises me a little bit, but I keep hearing that it's possible and I know it's possible. Did you end up talking to her later on thru text or did you set up meeting her in person when you ran into her and found out that she broke up?

What was your attitude and vibe? Obviously nonchalant, right?
You were just like "What's going on with you?" or could you give a gist or what happened if you don't mind, super curious.

(09-05-2017 02:50 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

Flaking is normal. I would have much less notches if would be pissed off and deleted girls numbers after a flake.

Can you explain this?
What kind of scenarios are you talking about?
Is this social circle game, online game, or cold-approach day game? or Above all?
I feel like if a girl that I just got a number quickly and maybe met once or never DIDN'T reschedule the date, I am supposed to move on and talk to other girls? I feel like it's extremely rare to text a girl that either didn't respond to my text or flaked the last min and get a lay.

[Rocha]

(09-06-2017 08:22 PM)bgbusiness Wrote:  

(09-05-2017 01:11 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  

Ive blown girls off after one flake to get them running back, I've had them come out after trying twice. Last week I bumped into a girl who had flaked on me several times after an initial date to find out the reason was she had a bf, now they're not together and we met up and banged.

That has never happened to me, which surprises me a little bit, but I keep hearing that it's possible and I know it's possible. Did you end up talking to her later on thru text or did you set up meeting her in person when you ran into her and found out that she broke up?

What was your attitude and vibe? Obviously nonchalant, right?
You were just like "What's going on with you?" or could you give a gist or what happened if you don't mind, super curious.

(09-05-2017 02:50 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

Flaking is normal. I would have much less notches if would be pissed off and deleted girls numbers after a flake.

Can you explain this?
What kind of scenarios are you talking about?
Is this social circle game, online game, or cold-approach day game? or Above all?
I feel like if a girl that I just got a number quickly and maybe met once or never DIDN'T reschedule the date, I am supposed to move on and talk to other girls? I feel like it's extremely rare to text a girl that either didn't respond to my text or flaked the last min and get a lay.

I don't or barely do online game. But I can't consider a flake if I had not met the person previously, seriously, when I talk to someone online eg. in a dating app, to me it does not feel like a real interaction with a real person...and most of the times actually is not the real person I think I am talking to, since online profiles can be very deceiving...So usually the scenario is simply cold approach, does not matter if it is day, evening or night, street, mall, bar, restaurant or club. I think your question is whether you should talk to other girls while still making plans to meet another, if so, then the answer is yes, you need to have options, even if like I wrote, the option is another activity that does not involve girls. The moment she flakes, you have the upper hand because she failed you and you already knkw she is flakey. But very important is to distinguish if it is a dead end situation with the girl, in which she just gave you her number to get rid of you, or if on the contrary there where at least some hints that it might go somewhere. I had girls whom I spent amazing nights dancing and kissing, then flaking, and had girls who seemed cold when I met them, and then showing up and banging that night.
Most important, if flaking is very common to you, you must be doing something wrong.