[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Last summer I was in a mini relationship with this chick I met on tinder. We we're going out for a few months while she interned in the city where I work. Things got pretty serious to the point where she said she loves me and wanted a relationship to which I said that I didn't want one due to her leaving in a few months.

After summer ended she left and we stayed in touch consistently for a few months. More I love yous, sexting, etc.. I was going through a rough time personally in my life that autumn and she helped me out a lot emotionally. I told her during this time that I was open to starting a relationship with her(I bet you can sense where this is going).

She said she didn't want to be in a relationship because of the distance between us and she started to become more distant in our contact too. It came to the point where she wouldn't even respond to my calls/texts just to see what she was up to. I was genuinely just curious because we had such a strong connection that I wanted to see how she was. She then eventually moved to my home city for work.

Anyway fast forward to this week. I come home to visit family a put a few snapchats up of me being home which she sees. She texts me saying that we should meet up sometime. I said that it would be cool and we arrange a date to meet which she then flakes on a few hours before it was supposed to happen.

I go silent and hit her up a few days later saying that I'll be close by where she lives if she wants to meet. She replies saying that she can't meet until mid week next week.

Now I know she doesn't want to meet up because she literally can't take an hour out of her day to come see me. And she's a young chick not CEO of a fortune 500 company so I know she's not that busy. My question is why would she even hit me up in the first place if she had no intention of meeting me or make me such a low priority?

I'm not even trying to bang I really just want to catch up with her. I'm not gona lie, I have feelings for her but I'm trying not to come off as needy but I would actually really like to see her. Any advice would be appreciated.

[General Stalin]

You can't make a girl do something she doesn't want to do - and if she wants to do something she won't make it that hard for you.

There could be any number of reasons why she hit you up then flaked. Assuming you didn't do/say anything really weird or needy between when she setup a date with you and when she flaked, then the "why" doesn't actually matter. You are clinging onto something that you have no business continuing to waste time and energy on. This girl is not adding value to your life anymore at this point.

The best advice I can give you is to move on.

[RatInTheWoods]

Just be cool and say "hit me up if you want to catch up" then go radio silent, ball is in her court.

Worth a reunion bang I think.

[Uhondo]

Your experience with this girl has all the hallmarks of a chick who's banging someone else. As Stalin said, a woman that wants to be with you will find ways of doing so.

No one on this forum has any way of knowing what's really going on with this girl.

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I'm not even trying to bang I really just want to catch up with her. I'm not gona lie, I have feelings for her but I'm trying not to come off as needy but I would actually really like to see her.

But it really is beginning to sound like you need her more than she does need you.

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My question is why would she even hit me up in the first place if she had no intention of meeting me or make me such a low priority?

Maybe you're too available; maybe when you were together she picked up on something that put her off; maybe she'll come back once she's done sucking off her current dude; maybe, maybe, maybe....

I would stop chasing this girl. Not in a butthurt kind of way, but i would quietly slip off of her radar. If she doesn't hit you up that's okay. If she does, then any move forward should be on your terms.

Good luck.