[kaotic]

Son, we need to sit you down and have a talk.

(05-17-2017 01:46 PM)Imperator.Morpheus Wrote:  

Women will take your heart, rip it out, put it on slow grind blend in a blender, and drink it's contents if we let them. I can come across as pure Alpha when I am in "state" but am at best, a "greater beta." I still get attached, if I like the girl. Prone to "oneitis" as are most of we.

Women will take WHAT THEY CAN GET - meaning you don't give that shit in the first place.

If you talk about Alpha, and claim you're Alpha to random men on the internet online.......you aren't Alpha.

Most of us here aren't prone to oneitis (we learned from our mistakes), we learned to handle it, and we learned to use it to our benefit.

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We're programmed to sacrifice ourselves for women after all. Only with the girls who I don't like can I be pure "Alpha." If I don't like a girl, I can hit on her very effectively and be in a relationship with her keeping her attracted indefinitely until I tire of her.

No we were never programmed to do so, we were programmed TO SOW OUR SEED IN AS MANY WOMEN AS POSSIBLE.

Once again, see my statement on "alpha"

The girls you don't like SHOULD NOT MATTER to begin with.

Why the fuck would you want to be in a relationship or tire of a girl you don't even like to being with ?

What a waste of time.

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As for approaches and trying to game a girl I already like, I get highly invested in the outcome and it fucks me almost every time (all but preventing me from summoning the balls to win her to begin with), other than rare occasions wherein I somehow just "go" aloof and become detached from myself. Wish I could do that on command.

You CAN do it command, I do, even when I see a cutie in person or when I match a hot girl online.

You need to learn to MASTER your emotions and your thoughts.

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Trying to tell you, I feel you about having become emotionally invested with some attention whore (as they all are) who will gladly exploit you for nothing in return. Women are so incredibly vain and nowadays it's an outright dystopia (to me) with snap chat and their smartphones.

You don't get emotionally involved with a woman for quite some time, by that I mean the whole "love" thing. This doesn't mean you can't enjoy the woman you're with and have fun.

What it sounds like is you need a better filter on what girls you keep around.

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It seems all but impossible to find one capable of keeping my attention or I theirs for any meaningful period of time. As I am sure you are aware, the worst cruelty you can bestow upon a woman is to ignore her, especially an attractive one. Pathetic she's "re-discovering her youth" at age 28. Our women are out of fucking control! Best of luck to you, and thank you for your time.

Women shouldn't be keeping your attention, they should be complementing your life from the start.

But you're absolutely right that not giving a hot and egostitcal woman the time of a day can kill her vibe, BUT the biggest problem is, there's a 1000 dudes to your 1 who will thirstily reach out to her.

Women might be out of control, with the right game and frame, you can reel them into your world and have them doing things they'd never thought they'd do with a man.

[BrandonCodi]

I think you should create a group chat on Facebook with all the girls you want to fuck at work in it. Send a message asking to bang all of them. This saves you loads of time. Also send the message at 5am to make yourself seem mysterious.

[Cobra]

(05-10-2017 01:48 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

It's a generally observed rule that you don't shit where you eat.

Surrounded by a bunch of girls can be heaven and hell.

Women LOVE to talk and gossip - this has pros and cons.

What exactly is your job there ? I'm guessing bartender or a manager of some sort ?

Keep your game to yourself - don't give other guys the 411 on what you're doing and stay mysterious, especially if they have no game or seem like white knights.

This..

You are in a situation where the pros don't affect your livelihood but the cons do. And.. there will be cons if you continue.

The type of game you're running is not smooth enough to fly under the radar. You are providing an open visual and exposing yourself unnecessarily. People see you, will talk about you and the girls will gossip about you including the ones you're hitting on. You're using way too much PUA type lingo in your post as well which indicates a lack of good practical game.

Girls will eventually then start "losing respect" for you. It will become socially taboo to hang out with you because girls don't want to be seen as sluts around colleagues. A mother hen type can make this happen faster and so can a beta orbiter.

Go out and meet women man. It's not worth it to ruin your livelihood for a bunch of women you don't care for personally.