I've been writing women on EE marriage sites, because at 50+ i hate chasing chicks and want to get married-- but definitely not in the USA. I like EE chix and can get ones ridiculously young and hot, at least 10-15 years younger than i can easily get in the USA.
I have a small but reliable independent income that would instantly get mostly confiscated should I have a child in America, followed by the lizard leaving me-- that's a non-option. I'm not too financially smart and it took me 20 years to get that pension, there's no way I can hide it from her and the courts, and since something like 80% of women get custody, I'd be back to square zero, and I'm too old to want to work hard for 10-15 years again. If I do kids-then-divorce in Ukraine, I'm willing to pay child support, but I believe it will be a lesser amount and I can manage it.
The issue of whether to have kids or not (especially at my age) is a deep philosophical issue I don't want to get into here, don't want or need opinions on that, thanks.
This is my problem:
When I'm writing them, I let them know I'm coming there ( Ukraine in this case) to live, and that I am not coming back to the USA.
The idea behind this was to weed out chicks whose main motivation is to get to the USA.
I know you could say "just don't mention it" but if you're going to be married to someone and you do it without removing the assumption, you're in for a lot of possible nagging and (again I'm over 50) wasted time when she splits in search of her Visa Buffalo.
I'm hoping the fact her kids will have USA ( and EU) citizenship will be enough of a carrot for a long-term thinker.
Also, when the kids are 8-10, I would be more willing to bring them here, because if she ditches me then, I would only have child support until they're 18 so it's not an endless nightmare.
Several women I've written have straight out asked: "Why do you want to live in the Ukraine?" I told one straight-- "It's too easy to leave a man in the USA and take his money." ( Which is the case if you have kids and not a lot of money.) But this sounds weak and beta-- If you're the great big shot why would she leave? But of course predicting accurately what a woman will do, especially a young hot woman, is completely impossible.
She responded with a lot of promises about how "Ukraine women are really dedicated to keeping the family together" etc, which I'm sure she believes at this point in time, but I've got friends who were blind-sided in divorces from women they knew 20+ years, so I can't trust someone I'll have known for a year.
How can I diplomatically sell myself as a Beta provider while avoiding the total Beta submission move of bringing her to the USA and totally handing over control of my future to someone I've only known 6 months or a year?
Some possible ideas--
-- 1. Break it to them later, after I've charmed them?
-- 2. Don't meet women on these marriage sites, where they already have the fantasy of moving to the USA in mind?
Help with ideas? Thanks.
I have a small but reliable independent income that would instantly get mostly confiscated should I have a child in America, followed by the lizard leaving me-- that's a non-option. I'm not too financially smart and it took me 20 years to get that pension, there's no way I can hide it from her and the courts, and since something like 80% of women get custody, I'd be back to square zero, and I'm too old to want to work hard for 10-15 years again. If I do kids-then-divorce in Ukraine, I'm willing to pay child support, but I believe it will be a lesser amount and I can manage it.
The issue of whether to have kids or not (especially at my age) is a deep philosophical issue I don't want to get into here, don't want or need opinions on that, thanks.
This is my problem:
When I'm writing them, I let them know I'm coming there ( Ukraine in this case) to live, and that I am not coming back to the USA.
The idea behind this was to weed out chicks whose main motivation is to get to the USA.
I know you could say "just don't mention it" but if you're going to be married to someone and you do it without removing the assumption, you're in for a lot of possible nagging and (again I'm over 50) wasted time when she splits in search of her Visa Buffalo.
I'm hoping the fact her kids will have USA ( and EU) citizenship will be enough of a carrot for a long-term thinker.
Also, when the kids are 8-10, I would be more willing to bring them here, because if she ditches me then, I would only have child support until they're 18 so it's not an endless nightmare.
Several women I've written have straight out asked: "Why do you want to live in the Ukraine?" I told one straight-- "It's too easy to leave a man in the USA and take his money." ( Which is the case if you have kids and not a lot of money.) But this sounds weak and beta-- If you're the great big shot why would she leave? But of course predicting accurately what a woman will do, especially a young hot woman, is completely impossible.
She responded with a lot of promises about how "Ukraine women are really dedicated to keeping the family together" etc, which I'm sure she believes at this point in time, but I've got friends who were blind-sided in divorces from women they knew 20+ years, so I can't trust someone I'll have known for a year.
How can I diplomatically sell myself as a Beta provider while avoiding the total Beta submission move of bringing her to the USA and totally handing over control of my future to someone I've only known 6 months or a year?
Some possible ideas--
-- 1. Break it to them later, after I've charmed them?
-- 2. Don't meet women on these marriage sites, where they already have the fantasy of moving to the USA in mind?
Help with ideas? Thanks.
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