How do you guys usually arrange the meeting place of the first date from daygame if it's a day or more ahead? In a huge city like London, same day meets are rarely possible, so usually have to plan a date in advance, sometimes up to a week or so.
Several years ago, I'd always have a first date in a bar, but nowdays I try to streamline the process and bring chicks to my place straight away.
What I usually notice is that if I meet a chick in daytime, and I pitch a meet over text directly at my place in advance, it tends to generate cold feet / flakiness, unless she's super down in the first place. I am thinking of circumventing this by arranging the day / approximate time of the place, but putting off the precise pitch of "drinks at my place" till the day of the date. So for example, today I had the following text exchange:
-"Hi Hannah, its V man. Was good meeting you yesterday. Drink tonight or tomorrow?"
-"Hey! Sounds good, lets do tomorrow night?"
-"Cool, I'll be free around 9, let's do then"
-"Sounds good!"
-"Great, let's talk tomorrow and arrange the meeting place. See you tomorrow night"
Normally what I'd do is suggest a date at my place directly; she might go for it, or she might decline completely. But the extra lag of over a day isn't too favourable unless she's already made up her mind to fuck (and I have no way of knowing since my initial interaction with her was too brief).
So tomorrow I intend to send her something like "Hey, so tonight at 9 is on. Let's have a drink at my place? I can meet you by X".
Your thoughts?
Several years ago, I'd always have a first date in a bar, but nowdays I try to streamline the process and bring chicks to my place straight away.
What I usually notice is that if I meet a chick in daytime, and I pitch a meet over text directly at my place in advance, it tends to generate cold feet / flakiness, unless she's super down in the first place. I am thinking of circumventing this by arranging the day / approximate time of the place, but putting off the precise pitch of "drinks at my place" till the day of the date. So for example, today I had the following text exchange:
-"Hi Hannah, its V man. Was good meeting you yesterday. Drink tonight or tomorrow?"
-"Hey! Sounds good, lets do tomorrow night?"
-"Cool, I'll be free around 9, let's do then"
-"Sounds good!"
-"Great, let's talk tomorrow and arrange the meeting place. See you tomorrow night"
Normally what I'd do is suggest a date at my place directly; she might go for it, or she might decline completely. But the extra lag of over a day isn't too favourable unless she's already made up her mind to fuck (and I have no way of knowing since my initial interaction with her was too brief).
So tomorrow I intend to send her something like "Hey, so tonight at 9 is on. Let's have a drink at my place? I can meet you by X".
Your thoughts?