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08-29-2011, 01:11 AM
How do you guys act when a girl says those things? Do you tease her on being freaky, compliment her on being so open sexually, act like its no big deal like you've known plenty of chicks like that?
I'm usually like "high five" you are awesome that shit rocks. I think it might get too happy when I find out haha
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08-29-2011, 01:29 AM
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08-29-2011, 01:55 AM
It's a trap. If you "high five" her, she'll know you're a driveling beta who jumps at any and every chance he gets. Tut's answer is better. Much better. It tells her she "that no thang". If a girl tries to impress you with crap like that, she's trying to figure out if you're a loser. Subconciously, of course.
On the other hand, if she wants validation for her real efforts, you can high five her as a way of making fun of her, but in a kind, fun and gentle sort of way. A girl says to me: "So, I did this 5K run, it was soooo hard", I'll say... "whoa whoa... stop right there. Put up your hand, that's right [pause] HIGH FIVE! Well, done" with a wink and a smile. It sounds even better in Spanish:
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08-29-2011, 05:45 AM
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08-29-2011, 11:24 AM
Yes, you're making a big deal out of it. Most GFs I've had been bi and NONE told me they were until I got to know them a little better, so if a girl is that open about it you need to "smell" the situation and figure out why she's telling you but don't congratulate her as most girls are closet freaks anyways...
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08-29-2011, 03:31 PM
Riker,
The shit test and your reaction is an, in my opinion, standard-issue beta weed-out maneuver.
There's one line I've used whilst gaming - before I every actually had a 3some - that's worked as far as DHV goes...
Girl: I'm bi, I've fooled around with girls blah, blah
You, nonchalantly with no bitterness: Yes, you and every other white American girl...
She'll qualify herself. You can say that you're convinced 7 in 10 white girls are bi and then change the subject.
Girl: I've been in MFF threesomes before.
You: Yeah, happens to the best of us, change subject.
AKA, this happens to you as a man of high value and you're indifferent to her past sexual escapades
I'm not world-traveling playboy (yet) but I've used these before, bedded said women and had the right kind of threesome with one of them. There's beauty in mild indifference.
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08-29-2011, 05:41 PM
I got this shit test in a big way once and failed. I approached two girls at the bar. Ten minutes into the conversation the more outgoing one said to me "you know we're flatmates. I'm bisexual. We have sex all the time." First I played it cool and said "good for you" (correct answer). Further on they started making out and she kept dangling this in front me. Eventually I fell into the trap, started the sex talk (too early), got excited at which point I was summarily ditched!
I don't get lesbian porn. It's like watching a party I'm not invited to. Now I tell girls this when they start attention whoring by making out with each other.
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08-29-2011, 07:48 PM
Leave it at 'cool' and don't even blink an eye at it.
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08-29-2011, 08:50 PM
Quote: (08-29-2011 03:46 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (08-29-2011 01:11 AM)Riker Wrote:
How do you guys act when a girl says those things? Do you tease her on being freaky, compliment her on being so open sexually, act like its no big deal like you've known plenty of chicks like that?
If this happens early, this is a classic shit test. And as with any shit test, if you take it as its face value (i.e. you comment on the words) you lose it. This is why complimenting her on that won't work, and staying on the subject is what most guys would do in hope of hearing some hot stories. I'd say "thanks for the info" - delivery is extremely important with this phrase, i.e. it should NOT be disgusted nor excited, just neutral tone. Then switch the topic. Typically when a girl talks about sex with a dude, it gives her power and takes it away from you; very few dudes can handle this conversation in this phase without losing power.
However when it happens in comfort, she is opening up to you and wants to make sure you are dude which can handle a bi girl. Here you can throw in a story about your ex-GF who was bi; the story should not be about threesomes you had, it should just convey that you are not prude, and you had bi GF before.
Those things NEVER worth compliment. You compliment for achievements. Being bi is not achievement, it is the same as complimenting her looks. Having a threesome is not achievement either, anyone can do it, it is not winning some fucking Olympic medal. So do not.
Oldnemesis nailed it. Its meaning depends on the phase of the relationship.
If it's during the initial set, it's a flat-out party-girl attention-whore shit test. Treat it as such.
If you've already established rapport and some isolation, she's most likely trying to sincerely share a secret with you in an attempt to emotionally bond. Now that's where it starts getting tricky...
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09-04-2011, 08:10 AM
Quote: (08-29-2011 05:45 AM)Gmac Wrote:
The less you act surprised the better it will be for you.
Quote: (08-29-2011 07:48 PM)boxwino Wrote:
Leave it at 'cool' and don't even blink an eye at it.
I had a white chick tell me she wanted to have some mixed kids. Her words. I'm black mind you. She threw this conversational grenade out there at me and I just stared at it while it blew up in my face. O_O "Uhm OK." Then she proceeded to show me pictures of some kids from an interracial couple she knows. "Oh those kids are cute." Then I changed the subject. I mean what was I supposed to say to that? This kinda thing doesn't come up in conversation a lot. Clearly I need to work on my poker face.
The problem with this aside from my lack of quick wit was that up to that point, I'd never seen or heard of her dating outside her race so I was skeptical if this was a genuine attempt at showing interest. Social circle friend, who was in a LTR with a white dude when I met her. She went on a string of not so good dates with more white dudes after that ended. I threw my hat in that ring, and got LJBF'd. Hindsight tells me she wasn't serious about that shit. She still hasn't gone out with any other black guys.
tl;dr - yes, that's a shit test. Ignore it if you can. Change the subject. If she's serious about it, she'll make it happen.
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09-04-2011, 11:53 AM
I dont know about the immediate response..but you are right it is a shit test.
Later...any girl like this is an immediate pump and dump...called me old fashion.
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09-04-2011, 05:38 PM
I have the same problem as the OP, but I think the situation back home might be a bit different.
Back in Rio, at the 'hipster/alternative' venues I go to, the trendy thing for girls, especially the younger crowd of 17-20, is to be ""bi"". In 90% of cases being ""bi"" over there means to go out, kiss other girls, tease guys and have sex with NEITHER. Just a bunch of demented young prudes that like to show off while not getting any sex, their pleasure steeming from being 'trendy' and 'contemporary' instead of having their holes filled. Faux 'lesbians'.
I've had so much crap from girls like this, that, even though I haven't found the proper answer yet, my usual response is quite aggressive...
For me there is a clear distinction between a) girls who actually LIKE TO LICK PUSSY and b) girls that like to show off by kissing girls but are actually grossed out at the idea of eating pussy and would never do it.
I've done many, many 'interviews', and the above distinction showed up. It is a way of debuking this brand of attention-whores.
This first started out when this girl, an acquaintance of mine that plays with the whole 'alternative/trendy/nihilistic' vibe at those spots, starts teasing me, saying that she made out with my ex. I, after a long, long exposure to these annoying faux-bi/lesbians of nowadays, got really pissed and exclaimed to her: "Well, did you actually licked her pussy?" (I make it sound MUCH more aggresive and graphic in my own language). She "ewwws" me and says she'd never do that.
Pff...
So, nowadays, when a girl gives me the "I'm bi, I'm into girls" crap, I hit them with "But do you LICK PUSSY??" ("Mas você lambe buceta?"). I love their face after that line, as 90% of them are grossed out by the very idea... as I immediatly disqualify that crap.
I don't know if this applies to where you guys are coming from, but back home its been working...
EDIT: I think that what I am trying to say here is that I try and take the situation up a notch, by actually testing the girl/girls on how 'hardcore' they really are when it comes to being bi/lesbian. Instead of them testing me, I test them, taking it up a notch and checking if they are as "hardcore" as they are trying to show, or (most common) are just the faux brainless types that go with what is trendy.
