[doej610]

Had a situation with my LTR ,where she was contacted by someone on the internet for pictures of her feet for a school project. She did not know this person. She ended up sending them and telling me about it later. When I asked if she sent them she lied and said no. She slipped up last night and I found out she did.

Some background on this girl: She was raised very chatholic and was a virgin before we started dating. She is also very nerdy.
My concern: if she is willing to send some guy she doesnt know pictures of her feet it throws some red flags for me with trust. Also because she lied to me about it.

What do you guys think?
Am I over reacting?
Thanks

[Latan]

Time to approach new girls, OP.

[kaotic]

Well I'll admit she has some great looking feet, I made some decent money sending them to a foot fetish site.

She's sending a random man pictures - bad.

Truth: She probably sent pictures of her feet and A)The guy has a foot fetish and she knew B)The guy had a foot fetish and he lied to her.

She lied to you and got caught.

How long have you been with this girl ?
How old are you ? How old is she ?
I'm assuming you took her virginity ?
What did you say when you found out she lied, did you confront her ? or did you keep it to yourself ?

[doej610]

Haha

How long have you been with this girl ?
Since november.
How old are you ? How old is she ?
Im 21 and she is 20
I'm assuming you took her virginity ?
Yes. I am naturally very skeptical but if she is lying about it she is doing a very good job.
What did you say when you found out she lied, did you confront her ? or did you keep it to yourself ?
I confronted her, i basically said
Me :you know why im upset.
Her :no not really it was just pictures of my feet it was stupid
Me: its not acceptable for you to be sending other guys that you dont know pictures of yourself.
Her:i thought it might actually be for a project.
Me:bull shit.
Dropped her off at home, walked her to the door, kissed her goodnight

[Baphomet]

There's no reason to "Next" at this point. But there's also no reason to "Invest" more than is absolutely necessary. Casting aside virgins that you supposedly turned out, is a needless waste.

At 20, such stupid behavior is to be expected from girls. Their need for attention and validation is literally without limits. Call her on her behavior, correct it. (Maybe she needs a spanking.)

[jselysianeagle]

> At 20, such stupid behavior is to be expected from girls. Their need for attention and validation is literally without limits.

This. Listen to Baphomet, OP.

[doej610]

How would you go about correcting this?just tell her that its notacceptable to lie to me or send other guys puctures?
I appreciate the help

[Vill@in]

If she didn't think it was a big deal, then why did she lie to you about it in the first place?

I don't think I would hard next her, but maybe go radio silent for a bit and see if she apologizes.

[UlteriorMotive]

(03-29-2017 01:22 PM)Baphomet Wrote:  

Call her on her behavior, correct it.

This ^

You need to let her know that this behavior or anything like this will not be tolerated going forward and if it does happen again you will walk away from her for good.

Start gaming other women and being aloof with the main until you feel like she has redeemed herself enough.

[Baphomet]

(03-29-2017 01:26 PM)doej610 Wrote:  

How would you go about correcting this?just tell her that its notacceptable to lie to me or send other guys puctures?
I appreciate the help

Both. However, you do not tell her those things. You ask her questions.

You - Listen now. Do you think it is acceptable to lie to me? (You could also use whatever submissiveness name you have her call you in place of "me". eg "Daddy" "Pappi" etc)
Her - I didn't lie, I..
You - I didn't ask you that. I asked you if you think that it is acceptable to lie to me?
Her - But Daddy, I..
You - Answer my question, now.
Her - No.
You - No, "what"?
Her - No, Daddy. (Sir, pappy, cockmaster, whatever. You want to establish dominance. )


Then carry on with the other offenses. In each case, she must admit that it is not ok to lie, and not okay to send men photos, and that she belongs to you.

She needs to value the validation she gets from you above all others. Establishing clear dominance is the only way to make that happen.

[doej610]

When she texts me to applogize i will do this. If you guys will like i can tell you what happens.

[kaotic]

-Go quiet for a bit
-She'll reach out to you - women have a 6th sense
-If she apologizes, then hit her with the Baphomet correction of her behavior.
-Game her accordingly, and start gaming other girls, you're 21 !

I've learned some valuable lessons just in the last few months about nexting women super fast.

You should correct a woman's behavior instead of lashing out emotionally at her.

Let her know you got options and will be more than happy to walk if she acts up, if she does it again, walk !

We get to emotional when it comes to women...doing dumb shit that women do.

[Baphomet]

(03-29-2017 01:58 PM)doej610 Wrote:  

When she texts me to applogize i will do this. If you guys will like i can tell you what happens.

Do not do this over text. Face to face. You want the dominance of your presence so the she will feel the gravity of the situation.

You cannot "text" correction.

[Kid Twist]

(03-29-2017 02:01 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

We get to emotional when it comes to women...doing dumb shit that women do.

kaotic to the house

[PapayaTapper]

No need to hard next. She's sending pics of her feet because she's a bit bored and this is likely a "safe" way to interject some excitement via "danger, misbehavior, drama, etc.". (Being bored is just about the worst emotional state for a girl this age)

Try:

- Rough sex. Give her a good jungle fucking. Tell her "Mongo" is mad at her and is going to teach her a lesson. When she asks "who's Mongo" just caveman her and fuck her like theres no tomorrow. Afterwards tell her you dont share with any other dudes...not even her feet

- A little dread game might be called for:

Quote:

« Heartiste ...

Instill dread
Women respond viscerally in their vagina area to unpredictability, mixed signals, danger, and drama in spite of their best efforts to convince themselves otherwise. Managing your relationship in such a way that she is left with a constant, gnawing feeling of impending doom will do more for your cause than all the Valentine’s Day cards and expertly performed tongue love in the world. Like it or not, the threat of a looming breakup, whether the facts justify it or not, will spin her into a paranoid estrogen-fueled tizzy, and she’ll spend every waking second thinking about you, thinking about the relationship, thinking about how to fix it. Her love for you will blossom under these conditions. Result: she works harder to please you.

The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off.

Examples of effective doom inducement:

Turn off your cell phone twice a week. Alternate days. Don’t do this on a Friday or Saturday night unless the relationship is shaky and needs a high voltage jolt of dread.

Make a blatant but plausibly deniable move on one of her friends when she’s not around. The news will get back to her. Milk it.

Call her from a very busy place so that she can hear women’s voices laughing and shrieking in the background. Don’t tell her where you are when she asks. Just say you’ll see her soon.

Mention how skilled your Russian ex was at giving head. Bring it up again a few days later, pretending not to remember the first time you mentioned it. Bonus: Russians are very good at giving head, so this will have the ring of truth.

Be seen by your girlfriend flirting with other women in a social venue. Extra points if the women are attractive. Double extra points if you flirt without looking back at your girlfriend once to check her reaction.

Cook her a romantic candlelight dinner at home. Make it a memorable experience, complete with jazz, chocolate, and rose petals. Then, do not talk with her for four days afterwards.

Ignore her calls for a week. When you eventually answer and she reads you the riot act, act as if nothing was wrong and accuse her of sabotaging a perfectly good relationship, “just like all the other women in this stupid city. I thought you were different”. Hang up on her angrily.

When her best friend tells you how cute you and your girlfriend look together, shrug, put your hand to the back of your neck as if to scratch an itch there, look down slightly and with a mildly annoyed expression blandly sigh “Yeeeeah…”. Triple bonus points if your girlfriend is standing right there.

When she attempts the jealousy maneuver by flirting with another guy, act unfazed. Give her pickup tips.

Gaze longingly into her eyes, say how hot she looks, then immediately glance sidelong at the bosom of any strange woman in the vicinity.

Have a threesome. Spend an inordinate amount of time admiring the labia of the other woman. Be sure to moan louder with her. WARNING: If you cum on the other woman you will have to spend weeks consoling your girlfriend.

Say things like “I really value my independence and freedom” relevant to nothing in particular. It’s just a thought that popped in your head.

Thermonuclear Option:

Have an affair and make sure she finds out about it. Arrange the confrontation so that it does not happen at your place. When she confronts you, don’t get defensive. Don’t speak at all. Let her vent. Let her punch you in the chest and scream obscenities. When she takes a breather, tell her she’s never looked more beautiful and you will never stop loving her. Then without waiting for her response calmly walk out the door and break off all contact for two weeks. When she comes back to you… and she will… you will have a love slave for life.

Calibrate and customize all of the above to fit your specific situation. This applies to ALL LTR's on some level.

Disregard it at your peril

[Vill@in]

^^ Goddamn it's like poetry.

[RatInTheWoods]

>>Mention how skilled your Russian ex was at giving head. Bring it up again a few days later, pretending not to remember the first time you mentioned it. Bonus: Russians are very good at giving head, so this will have the ring of truth.


This is truth.

Do they send women to blowjob school over there? Is it because of the long cold winters with nothing else to do? Is it to get a rise out of vodka-weakened dicks?

I don't know, but god bless the Russian girls in Phuket.

[doej610]

I really appreciate your guys help, its nice having people with more experience than myself that I can talk to.
As of right now my plan is radio silence until she apologizes and then set a meeting to talk about it. If she doesn't apologize because she doesn't see it as a big deal, should i just text "we need to talk" in order to induce dread? or just continue with silence and talk to other girls.

Also more information a little un related, about an hour before this we were arguing because she doesn't like it when i tell her what to do. For example I tell her to bend over to look at her ass and she wont. she insists that i must ask. My response to this is usually that I shouldnt have to.

[torridon747]

I drop girls for non compliance - within reason. You should think about why she isn't listening to you. She should listen to you because you're a man in her life that knows what's best. You have her besflt interests in mind. With trivial small things like sex respond trivially - spanking - accuse her of being naughty - go and pick her up without a word and set her down. Larger things need more attention.

As for the "we need to talk" line, does that sound familiar? Thats not something men say, at least very often. No, your move here is silence. If she doesn't come through on her own accord that should tell you something.

[Uhondo]

This guy appears to be testing her compliance. And he's doing it in baby steps. You don't tactfully step in now and your girl finds herself sending nudes. And it may be a while before you eventually squeeze it out of her.

[Khan]

(03-29-2017 01:24 PM)jselysianeagle Wrote:  

> At 20, such stupid behavior is to be expected from girls. Their need for attention and validation is literally without limits.

But not from all girls. Properly raised girls won't send pictures of her feet to some fetishist they met on the Internet. That's why I agree with your recommendation of not investing more in this LTR.

[RawGod]

I'm just imagining all these depraved foot fetishists spamming girls on the internet for pics...

[Latan]

(03-30-2017 03:25 AM)RawGod Wrote:  

I'm just imagining all these depraved foot fetishists spamming girls on the internet for pics...

It raises the question of how OP's girl met the other guy.
Does she post semi nude pics on Instagram / Facebook / Other?

I'm sure the dude didn't contact her out of the blue, by sending spam to random mails.
She baited him one way or an other.

[doej610]

She is very conservative on what shes posts on fb/insta. However i comoketely agree that this more than likely did not happen by chance. Should i ask her about it or just stay on the origional plan?

[Vill@in]

Stick with your plan. Look, she needs to apologize for lying to you. With you going radio silent on her, it will let her know that lies won't be tolerated. But don't sit around waiting for her to call/text you an apology. Go out and meet some new girls in the meantime. And while we're on that subject...

(03-29-2017 08:56 PM)doej610 Wrote:  

should i just text "we need to talk" in order to induce dread? or just continue with silence and talk to other girls.

Dread game isn't making her dread talking to you about something that is bothering you (which, never admit to anyway....a strong man isn't 'bothered' by anything). Rather, Dread Game means you are instilling dread of her losing you to another girl(s). There are multiple ways to do this like talking to other girls in her presence, getting texts from other girls when she is around, etc. It's a fine line to walk though, as you don't want her to accuse you of cheating. However you do want to put that possibility in her head (if you are actually cheating isn't important...but you want that idea to be in her head. Her hamster will do the rest of the work).