Short and sweet: I feel like the girl I'm dating is too hot to be into me. How do you guys keep your game tight when dealing with 8s and above and not show any insecurity? It's something I've always struggled with even though I'm conscious of it.
First time dating really hot girl
Abundance mentality
(You literally started a thread about it)
thread-29373...+hot+girls
thread-52864...+mentality
thread-28634...+mentality
Inner game
thread-10809...Inner+game
thread-18453...Inner+game
Next time you use the search function yourself.
(You literally started a thread about it)
thread-29373...+hot+girls
thread-52864...+mentality
thread-28634...+mentality
Inner game
thread-10809...Inner+game
thread-18453...Inner+game
Next time you use the search function yourself.
Call me cynic but I'm calling bullshit. I think you're trolling. I could be wrong, but it's my feeling.
"Feminism is a trade union for ugly women"- Peregrine
The only reason she's dating you is because she thinks you're better than her. Which is very weird for a guy that lives under a bridge.
Fuck her in the arse. It is impossible to create the proper dynamic until you do.
Quote: (03-12-2017 12:57 AM)Scooby6987 Wrote:
Short and sweet: I feel like the girl I'm dating is too hot to be into me. How do you guys keep your game tight when dealing with 8s and above and not show any insecurity? It's something I've always struggled with even though I'm conscious of it.
So is this the first time you dated a really hot girl or was the last one the first "crazy hot one"
"crazy hot one"
Quote: (06-14-2016 11:22 PM)Scooby6987 Wrote:
Yo guys.
Long story short, been dating this girl for about 5 months, everything was going great. Recently, we had to spend some time apart for work reasons and she started acting kinda weird and distant (classic).
I took the bait and asked her what the deal was, and she said that she isn't sure we have enough in common, and that she's trying to figure things out, but that she wants to see me when she gets back to our city.
Question is do I just next her or just go cold on her til she gets back or just ignore her?
I know this shouldn't matter, but she's crazy hot, and I think that is clouding my judgment here. Thanks guys.
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OP is probably trolling, but I'll take the bait.
By thinking the girl you're with is "too good" for you, you'll make it so. As a result, it's only a matter of time before you start leaking bad game. If you want to try and prevent this from happening, I have a some suggestions for you:
1.) Don't put the pussy on a pedestal.
Right now you have a scarcity mindset. This girl is the "best" you've had, and you're afraid to lose her for fear of being unable to replace her with a girl of equal or greater value. This is a huge mistake. If you had enough game to get her, you'll have enough game to get someone else should shit go south. Remember: "A willingness to walk away is the ultimate frame."
2.) Develop an abundance mentality.
I realize this may be easier said than done, but rest assured it can be done. Here's how: Continue dating other girls. Sounds crazy, right? It isn't. If the girl you're with now is truly a high-value female, she is, in all likelihood, being propositioned by men everyday whether you know it or not. By entering into an agreement of exclusivity with her, you're entering a situation where you'll stop talking to other women for her, but other men won't stop talking to her for you.
It's no secret that man's role in the sexual marketplace is active, a woman's passive. Exclusivity benefits her by limiting your options whilst having little to likely no effect on hers. If she's your "one and only" and you already think she's too good for you, you'll eventually start engaging in behavior she'll deem "needy" and/or "clingy" which will only serve to drive her away faster. Oh, what's that -- you're not the jealous type? Just wait 'til she casually mentions getting hit on in line at the bank or at the gas station a few times. Or, alternately, you'll start bending over backwards to accommodate her increasingly absurd demands in an attempt to keep her happy so she won't cheat on you, thus effectively becoming her bitch.
You know, it's funny, every guy thinks he wants to date a top-shelf bitch until he's dating a top-shelf bitch. It's only then he realizes it's a lot of work and a lot of insecurity to contend with, so he'd better have his shit together. You need to have supreme confidence in yourself to be able to handle the reality of dating a dime-piece. By dating other girls, you won't have to live in fear of pissing her off or losing her. Why? Because if she says/does anything you don't like, you don't have to take her shit because you've got plenty of other places to turn to for tail. The irony of all this is by having less regard for her, she'll likely have more regard for you.
When it comes to handling women, it's like that old song by the band .38 Special says -- "Hold on loosely, but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're gonna lose control."
By thinking the girl you're with is "too good" for you, you'll make it so. As a result, it's only a matter of time before you start leaking bad game. If you want to try and prevent this from happening, I have a some suggestions for you:
1.) Don't put the pussy on a pedestal.
Right now you have a scarcity mindset. This girl is the "best" you've had, and you're afraid to lose her for fear of being unable to replace her with a girl of equal or greater value. This is a huge mistake. If you had enough game to get her, you'll have enough game to get someone else should shit go south. Remember: "A willingness to walk away is the ultimate frame."
2.) Develop an abundance mentality.
I realize this may be easier said than done, but rest assured it can be done. Here's how: Continue dating other girls. Sounds crazy, right? It isn't. If the girl you're with now is truly a high-value female, she is, in all likelihood, being propositioned by men everyday whether you know it or not. By entering into an agreement of exclusivity with her, you're entering a situation where you'll stop talking to other women for her, but other men won't stop talking to her for you.
It's no secret that man's role in the sexual marketplace is active, a woman's passive. Exclusivity benefits her by limiting your options whilst having little to likely no effect on hers. If she's your "one and only" and you already think she's too good for you, you'll eventually start engaging in behavior she'll deem "needy" and/or "clingy" which will only serve to drive her away faster. Oh, what's that -- you're not the jealous type? Just wait 'til she casually mentions getting hit on in line at the bank or at the gas station a few times. Or, alternately, you'll start bending over backwards to accommodate her increasingly absurd demands in an attempt to keep her happy so she won't cheat on you, thus effectively becoming her bitch.
You know, it's funny, every guy thinks he wants to date a top-shelf bitch until he's dating a top-shelf bitch. It's only then he realizes it's a lot of work and a lot of insecurity to contend with, so he'd better have his shit together. You need to have supreme confidence in yourself to be able to handle the reality of dating a dime-piece. By dating other girls, you won't have to live in fear of pissing her off or losing her. Why? Because if she says/does anything you don't like, you don't have to take her shit because you've got plenty of other places to turn to for tail. The irony of all this is by having less regard for her, she'll likely have more regard for you.
When it comes to handling women, it's like that old song by the band .38 Special says -- "Hold on loosely, but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're gonna lose control."
Good post Leone. Exactly what I needed to hear at the moment.
I met a solid 8 last Monday and we banged that next day on Tuesday. Probably the best looking girl I've ever fucked. But she is crazy (red head) and the shit tests come from every direction. That pussy is so fire (literally) and I don't want to give it up yet.
It's only been a week, but she has already accused me of being a 39 year old fuckboy. I had another girl over at my place on Friday and Red Head was suspicious. I told her I went to bed early, but she called bullshit on that as I was on Facebook at like 1am (I was checking my feed after the other girl went home). So she has trust issues and is already checking up on me.
She says she wants a LTR. She keeps telling me how hot I am and I'm so attractive. It's flattering to hear this stuff from a girl so hot. But then she tells me she doesn't trust any guy and that she doesn't need a man. She told me last night that she could have any man she wanted. And she's right.
She is planning on coming over tomorrow so I'll smash again. But honestly I don't know how much longer I can put up with her craziness. I do admit it is kind of exciting, but I'll tire of it soon enough.
Your frame has to be rock solid when dealing with 8's and above. But at the end of the day, you HAVE to have Abundance Mentality. Or you're toast.
I met a solid 8 last Monday and we banged that next day on Tuesday. Probably the best looking girl I've ever fucked. But she is crazy (red head) and the shit tests come from every direction. That pussy is so fire (literally) and I don't want to give it up yet.
It's only been a week, but she has already accused me of being a 39 year old fuckboy. I had another girl over at my place on Friday and Red Head was suspicious. I told her I went to bed early, but she called bullshit on that as I was on Facebook at like 1am (I was checking my feed after the other girl went home). So she has trust issues and is already checking up on me.
She says she wants a LTR. She keeps telling me how hot I am and I'm so attractive. It's flattering to hear this stuff from a girl so hot. But then she tells me she doesn't trust any guy and that she doesn't need a man. She told me last night that she could have any man she wanted. And she's right.
She is planning on coming over tomorrow so I'll smash again. But honestly I don't know how much longer I can put up with her craziness. I do admit it is kind of exciting, but I'll tire of it soon enough.
Your frame has to be rock solid when dealing with 8's and above. But at the end of the day, you HAVE to have Abundance Mentality. Or you're toast.
"Once you've gotten the lay you have won."- Mufasa
"You Miss 100% of the shots you don't take"- Wayne Gretzky
sounds like this womans self esteem is lower then yours so youll be ok.
Quote: (03-13-2017 09:50 AM)Vill@in Wrote:
Good post Leone. Exactly what I needed to hear at the moment.
I met a solid 8 last Monday and we banged that next day on Tuesday. Probably the best looking girl I've ever fucked. But she is crazy (red head) and the shit tests come from every direction. That pussy is so fire (literally) and I don't want to give it up yet.
It's only been a week, but she has already accused me of being a 39 year old fuckboy. I had another girl over at my place on Friday and Red Head was suspicious. I told her I went to bed early, but she called bullshit on that as I was on Facebook at like 1am (I was checking my feed after the other girl went home). So she has trust issues and is already checking up on me.
She says she wants a LTR. She keeps telling me how hot I am and I'm so attractive. It's flattering to hear this stuff from a girl so hot. But then she tells me she doesn't trust any guy and that she doesn't need a man. She told me last night that she could have any man she wanted. And she's right.
She is planning on coming over tomorrow so I'll smash again. But honestly I don't know how much longer I can put up with her craziness. I do admit it is kind of exciting, but I'll tire of it soon enough.
Your frame has to be rock solid when dealing with 8's and above. But at the end of the day, you HAVE to have Abundance Mentality. Or you're toast.
It always amuses me when girls brag of being able to "get" any man they want. It's like, so what? Of course you can find a bunch of guys willing to give you the ol' fuck 'n chuck. For women, it's not the getting that's the hard part, it's the keeping. That's why it's important to develop yourself into being a high-value man, so there isn't as much sexual market value discrepancy between the two of you, and she won't be the only one with other options.
Leone just said it: getting a man is easy, but keeping him is different. I would gladly sacrifice a few beauty points in exchange for a girl that is fun to be with. Not just about sex. I enjoy a girl that can do activities, talk about real topics (hard to find in Thailand, but I deal with it), and has some general knowledge that she can apply to the context rather than making a bland face. That's what it takes to KEEP a man.
Unfortunately, after every man a girl gets, her chances to keep one diminish as she's getting used more and more. So beauty is nothing if she's getting wrecked and isn't a keeper.
Whatever happens, don't put pussy on a pedestral. She might look good but she's still a human with the same basic needs than another girl. Just relax, enjoy, and don't worry too much.
Also true: If your game is good enough to get her, your game is good to get another one of equal or higher value.
Unfortunately, after every man a girl gets, her chances to keep one diminish as she's getting used more and more. So beauty is nothing if she's getting wrecked and isn't a keeper.
Whatever happens, don't put pussy on a pedestral. She might look good but she's still a human with the same basic needs than another girl. Just relax, enjoy, and don't worry too much.
Also true: If your game is good enough to get her, your game is good to get another one of equal or higher value.
Quote: (03-13-2017 05:25 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:
It always amuses me when girls brag of being able to "get" any man they want. It's like, so what? Of course you can find a bunch of guys willing to give you the ol' fuck 'n chuck. For women, it's not the getting that's the hard part, it's the keeping. That's why it's important to develop yourself into being a high-value man, so there isn't as much sexual market value discrepancy between the two of you, and she won't be the only one with other options.
Quote: (03-14-2017 02:33 AM)Rawmeo Wrote:
Leone just said it: getting a man is easy, but keeping him is different. I would gladly sacrifice a few beauty points in exchange for a girl that is fun to be with. Not just about sex. I enjoy a girl that can do activities, talk about real topics (hard to find in Thailand, but I deal with it), and has some general knowledge that she can apply to the context rather than making a bland face. That's what it takes to KEEP a man.
Unfortunately, after every man a girl gets, her chances to keep one diminish as she's getting used more and more. So beauty is nothing if she's getting wrecked and isn't a keeper.
Whatever happens, don't put pussy on a pedestral. She might look good but she's still a human with the same basic needs than another girl. Just relax, enjoy, and don't worry too much.
Also true: If your game is good enough to get her, your game is good to get another one of equal or higher value.
Real talk. Thanks guys.
I know better than to put the pussy on the pedestal, it's just that beauty blinds me at times. But that's the challenge. You just have to look past that shit and remember she is just a girl at the end of the day.
"Once you've gotten the lay you have won."- Mufasa
"You Miss 100% of the shots you don't take"- Wayne Gretzky
^ It becomes much easier to look past a girl's beauty once you've grown accustomed to it. I don't care how hot a girl is, if you're with her long enough you'll eventually grow bored of her, and your player's "wandering eye" will return.
The object, near as I can figure, is to desensitize yourself to attractive women through routine exposure to them. Oh, and for the newbies out there reading this, don't worry about overly-desensitizing yourself. It's not possible. A man will always appreciate female beauty. The key is, to be able to appreciate it without letting it fuck with your mental state.
Scoring your first true beauty will help to demystify attractive women for you. Remember: Nothing in the world breeds success like success, it feeds on itself. Once you've gotten one hottie, you can get others.
The object, near as I can figure, is to desensitize yourself to attractive women through routine exposure to them. Oh, and for the newbies out there reading this, don't worry about overly-desensitizing yourself. It's not possible. A man will always appreciate female beauty. The key is, to be able to appreciate it without letting it fuck with your mental state.
Scoring your first true beauty will help to demystify attractive women for you. Remember: Nothing in the world breeds success like success, it feeds on itself. Once you've gotten one hottie, you can get others.
We do not show insecurity cause we are too occupied thinking with our dicks.
That is actually THE solution to your problem. No joke. Soak in that girl's beauty or whatever it is that you dig about her. Just get outside of your head. The more you think and analyze the worse you will get.
That is actually THE solution to your problem. No joke. Soak in that girl's beauty or whatever it is that you dig about her. Just get outside of your head. The more you think and analyze the worse you will get.
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