[Rekk'd]

So I have a FB that I've been seeing once a week for 2.5 months. I always fucked her good and she always left satisfied. She would mostly initate texts to meet again.

She hinted about having a relationship and asking what are we, etc.. I always avoided and made it clear im not going into a relationship.

Anyways lately she comes to my place, doesn't even give me blow jobs anymore, doesn't like to do anything other than missionary (she likes to kiss alot in that position), only lets me fuck her once unlike before I would fuck her atleast 3 times per visit and now she likes to keep talking for like fuckin 3 hours instead of fucking. I think the only thing she doesn't like is I don't eat pussy, it's just nasty and I don't take risks no matter how small.

My SMV is higher than her ofcourse and I'm the biggest she fucked but since I'm in a cock infested city, she's got the body and an ass that make men approach her like crazy in clubs, online and so on. So I think she actually believes she has some value or wtvr.

I decided to just ignore her and stop meeting her, even last time she texted I told her I'm busy without planning for another day. Anyways, is this the right thing? Move on? Or still keep her since I've got nothing to lose? Or should I confront her about her lazy ass not putting effort anymore?

Additional questions: Why is she like this now? How to prevent such behaviour from future FBs?

[LockeAndLoad]

You said yourself you feel you have higher value than she does. You're not happy and you've decided to move on. Seems like you made your decision--stick with it rather than ask for validation.

[kinjutsu]

She is looking to lock you down.
She wants you to be her bf because you've been fucking her for so long and there's a chance you're the only guy she's been fucking.

The problem with confronting her or "calling her out" on her behavior is showing her you actually give a fuck about her.
Girls love drama.
Relationship drama is chick crack.
If you try to talk with her expect it to get out of hand quickly. At some point you've lost the upper hand with her because instead of dropping her and moving on to another piece of ass in your harem you have to ask questions about what to do when a girl stops doing what you want.

In the past, when I've stated I'm not looking for a relationship just fun the girls respect it. It straight forward and up front. As things cooled down the girls would either ghost on me or ask me for a relationship once and then say that they can't continue with me anymore. I wish them luck and move on to the next girl.


Bottom line: If any girl you're fucking isn't doing what you like it's your job to fix the situation. In this case commanding her around during sex or dropping her like a bad habit are your only options.

[XXL]

She disengaged cause she wanted to be something than your plate. She wanted to be with youband most probably had this in her mind for a lomg time now.

You rejected her as a potential GF. She sees no hope or future so she is distancing herself now. When she meets a new stud she views as potential BF she will disappear for good and will try to do the same to him.

When he disappoints her as well you might receive a "whats up?" text message from her on some friday evening.

[Rekk'd]

I dont think she's distancing herself, since a few days ago she initiated texts by asking how I was doing and I ended the convo fast. Today she sent me a message "hey want to meet tomorrow night" ofc I made some excuse but then she kept asking about other days untill I said maybe sunday (keep her as backup incase I get nothing this weekend during night game). Then I got a text after that "Maybe we can go somewhere to eat if ur down this time considering ur always hungry when im there ?"

So I think she wants a relationship for sure. I'm just gona end it since I'd rather do something productive than fuck her to be honest.. Not that shes bad looking but its just im bored of her.

[TheMaleBrain]

Here is a thought - "Flip the script"
Call her and tell her you need to talk.
Ask her "Where are we going?"

She will be caught off guard, and will probably say she wants more.
Ask her to specify.
Then tell her that "we can do some of it".

If she asks for exclusivity, say that it is an option, but you need to see that she is serious about it.

Bang, and keep on banging until the ride is over.


As for the future
If a girl changes her behaviour call her on it and ask her to explain.
Make sure you maintain frame by stating that your behaviour has not changed and hers did.
Let her vent and make sure you give her "something" (could be a weekly "date").

[brick tamland]

Regain some level of control. Seems there's an underlying relationship already, that she'd prefer to normalize (with a commitment from you). I doubt she's ever been with you for sex alone.

[RatInTheWoods]

(03-05-2017 10:30 AM)Rekkd Wrote:  

I always fucked her good and she always left satisfied.

I think the only thing she doesn't like is I don't eat pussy, it's just nasty and I don't take risks no matter how small.

She's not making an effort and won't do BJ's because you don't.

[General Stalin]

XXL's post is the correct answer.

NSA bangs have a half-life to them. Some longer than others, but most girls don't want to go months and months just fucking and not moving beyond that. Something you have to be prepared for if you're not looking to be serious with any girl(s).

[Travesty]

2-3 months is the 3-date rule for women before they make a move "what is this?"

I've wondered how to keep a girl from asking this question or getting in this territory.

1 time a week for hangout and sex is the standard it seems to keep a girl from finding too many other guys while also not getting her to fall for you.

I really think the solution is to decide on first meet if girl is a pure FB or not. After that no sleep overs, no going out for anything more than maybe a half hour - hour for something something simple. Same rules as always. I really think the key I have found for girls that stick around as pure FBs and never bring up more are ones where we both have flaked or pushed past a week without seeing each other.

1 week later
2 weeks later
10 days later
month later etc....

Which is good and bad. Good it will give you more time to game other girls, bad she has a higher chance of finding a guy that is giving her more (also you will probably have to put more effort finding more girls to stay satisfied if you have a busy schedule).

No easy answer... best is to have a stable of 15+ girls you all do the strict FB with and ones will come and go knowing the deal without ever brining up "what are we?"

In essence once a week on a consistent every week basis is too much contact, it cannot be predictable for them and there can't be a pattern. They have to feel like have no real control over seeing you or comfort so deeper feelings aren't really possible. You are just a good time & a great fuck. Girls love to make shit up in their minds, you can't allow them that.

You want to be the guy they text after they went on a lame first date, couldn't find good dick at the club, boyfriend cheated, rebound sex, boring Tuesday night, roomates is out of town they are bored etc... that their friends know zero about. You don't want to be the guy for this situation where you plan out a hang out a few days ahead of time, that starts giving them ideas.

[Rekk'd]

All you guys have a valid point. I kept contact to a minimum, just text to meet and we never go out. She comes to my place 10 minutes in, I'm fuckin her.. Pretty easy.

Anyways I decided that I'd rather game/bang other girls. I get annoyed by her presence now and whenever she texts I make an excuse not to meet. I think she's getting the message and I really don't care if she finds another dude.

A girl that puts no effort to please me in bed is useless. So I think the best solution to this problem is NEXT!

[Leonard D Neubache]

Toss a cat amongst the pigeons.

Either during sex or afterward, drop this.

"You're going to make a really great girlfriend for some guy out there...

...not me... but someone."

[Rekk'd]

Hahaha great one Leonard

[Leonard D Neubache]

In all seriousness, though, if you want to play her out a bit longer play the "troubled past" game.

When she's getting a little snippy about your relationship status sit her down for a deep-and-meaningful one-on-one.

Tell her she's great. She's everything a man could ask for. But you got hurt in a previous relationship, baaaadly, and you just don't know if you can find it in yourself to commit to another woman and risk getting burned.

Create the mythical scenario in your head. Give the historic bitch a name and a face. Make it real (in a sense). Don't give those details to your plate, but having them in your mind will make the story more plausible.

It would take a bit of skilful manipulation that might backfire spectacularly if you fuck it up, but if you pull it off just right then she'll give you a temporary pass on your lack of commitment, hopefully for at least as long as it takes for you to get sick of her.

Of course I tend to try and treat nice girls nicely, so if she doesn't warrant this kind of treatment then it might be a bit Machiavellian, but if she's just a THOT then play her and fuck away, son!

[ksbms]

You're going to make a really great girlfriend for some guy out there"

Leonard, this was a genius line. I'm going to incorporate it to the slew of my repartees. An advanced push/pull move. I can imagine that a girl, who's into you, won't sleep for a few nights thinking what you meant to the point of obsession.

My hat off to you, sir.

[crispytaco]

General Stalin is right about XXL being right....

Dude this is not about this particular girl. There is the dot and lines analogy, where men think about events (dots), like your 3 sex sessions, and women think about what's next and relationship (lines). It was clear - and expected- when she wants to talk more and fuck less.

I had this girl in Brasil, perfect for a vacation, she brang food to my apt, fucked me and then she leaves. She even wanted so see me doing another girl.. almost perfect...guess what? In my second trip she started the anoying texts "Why you are not replying soon?", " I wanted to spend more time with you going outside", "you might want to meet my family", "Maybe you are dating a girl right now... GOOD FOR YOU!!", etc.

This is something hardwired in their minds, they are programmed to look for long term protection. So be prepared for next time.

[Harami]

Crispytaco is right about General Stalin being right about XXL being right you know.

I just had to say that. Let me be useful, Compiling an answer for you from all the answers.

You said yourself you feel you have higher value than she does. If any girl you're fucking isn't doing what you like it's your job to fix the situation. She disengaged because she wanted to be something more than your plate. Bang, and keep on banging until the ride is over.
Regain some level of control. Most girls don't want to go months and months just fucking and not moving beyond that. They have to feel like they have no real control over seeing you or comfort, so deeper feelings aren't really possible. If you want to play her out a bit longer play the "troubled past" game.
They are programmed to look for long term protection. So be prepared for next time.

[Rekk'd]

Well it's done anyways, she sent me this when I made an excuse again not to meet:

"U can just be honest if u dont want to chill n ill leave u alone i can c uve been kinda cold past couple weeks"

I didn't really reply since I have no time for drama and I don't like drama. She knew from the start it was just sex, then started to do shit that was annoying as fuck like spend hours at my place wanting to talk, excuses for not having sex, only wanting to do missionary, telling me to take her out for dinner (bitch never offers to pay too) and just felt she's very selfish.

My value is higher ofc and she knows my situation now, it's very unstable.. She even jokes and calls me a nomad since I'm always moving, I have no job and other stressful shit in my life im trying to fix. Then she wants a relationship! I feel no remorse since she and her friends are the type that only go for "bad boys".. So I'm sure she gets off from being pumped and dumped.

[lapalco]

yeah dude. just tell her you want to fuck. if shes cool with it you win. if shes not cool with it you win.