[calidude]

TLDR: I fucked a girl off tinder, but she flaked for what seems like legit reason for our second date, and I want to know how to proceed without coming off as needy.


So I met this girl on tinder, and we met up for coffee. After coffee I suggested we go get ice cream, and on the way there we made out. After we got ice cream I suggested we go back to my place to chill, and she said yes. Once we got back to my place we started making out again, and then we fucked. This was actually my first notch ever.

After the first round we were talking, and I asked her if this was her first tinder date, and she said this was her third. She said the last guy sucked in bed, and she even showed me a screenshot of the texts the other dude sent trying to set up a second date which she posted in her group chat with her other friends making fun of the guy. She didn't say what happened with the first guy, and while we were talking she also mentioned she was hanging out with her ex who was acting "creepy".

Anyways, so we fucked a few more times and I was really rough with her; I was pulling her hair, slapping her ass, and ordering her around. I also made sure to finger her, and she was spassing out and shit, and she said she had a great time.

She planned on staying the night, but she remembered that she needed to return her car to her dad because her's was broken and her dad had to leave for work at 5am. So I walked her to her car and told her I would hit her up. We ended up being together for eight hours which I felt like was a lot (7pm-3am).

Anyways, so the next day I tried to set up another date, so I could fuck her again before spring break ended, and she agreed but an hour before she was supposed to come though she said she couldn't make it.

I feel like if she really wanted to come through she could have borrowed her dad's car again, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt.

I ended fucking some other girl last night who I was messaging with on tinder, because I felt like I was getting oneitis and I wanted to get my mind off her. She was fatter in person, the sex was terrible, and I felt really gross afterwards, never again hahaha.

Anyways, should I wait a few more days before I hit her up again or what?

Also with the first girl I lasted a really long time while fucking her, but the second chick I think I lasted a minute. Was this because I wasn't attracted to the second chick, or was my dick too desensitized from masterbating prior to date with the first chick? I'm asking because I'm worried if I fuck the the first chick again I won't last as long, and then she'll dip.

[Harami]

Zooom.
Her response seems legit. But it could be that she chickened out because she got fkd good just yesterday.

[XPQ22]

(03-05-2017 10:08 AM)calidude Wrote:  

So I met this girl on tinder, and we met up for coffee. After coffee I suggested we go get ice cream, and on the way there we made out. After we got ice cream I suggested we go back to my place to chill, and she said yes. Once we got back to my place we started making out again, and then we fucked. This was actually my first notch ever.

Ice cream/walk in park dates with eGirls is a great way to get laid, I've had success with this several times. Highly recommended!

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After the first round we were talking, and I asked her if this was her first tinder date, and she said this was her third.

Three seems to be some magic number with girls. It's more than one and less than ten hundred, I guess. Anyway, not worth fretting about. Or even asking about, really.

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She said the last guy sucked in bed

Probably true.

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and she even showed me a screenshot of the texts the other dude sent trying to set up a second date which she posted in her group chat with her other friends making fun of the guy. She didn't say what happened with the first guy, and while we were talking she also mentioned she was hanging out with her ex who was acting "creepy".

Accommodating women making fun of other men is very beta. She has at least confirmed that she's a yuge slut, though.

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Anyways, so we fucked a few more times and I was really rough with her; I was pulling her hair, slapping her ass, and ordering her around. I also made sure to finger her, and she was spassing out and shit, and she said she had a great time.

Excellent.

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She planned on staying the night, but she remembered that she needed to return her car to her dad because her's was broken and her dad had to leave for work at 5am.

Lies, and damn lies!

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Anyways, so the next day I tried to set up another date, so I could fuck her again before spring break ended, and she agreed but an hour before she was supposed to come though she said she couldn't make it.

Anyways, should I wait a few more days before I hit her up again or what?

It's probably over. How many times did you fuck her, like three or four? That's it - you had the "FWB" relationship experience, at least of the type that many sluts of that fashion are willing to provide. Often sluts don't come back after a single lay - you must have threw down pretty good.

Congratulations, and well done!

[Steve McQueen]

She cancelled an hour before, she aint interested and is just dicking you around. Find other girls

[SirTimothy]

Congrats on the first notch. But sometimes girls will flake/lose attraction for no apparent reason, and there's not always something that can be done about it. Many times it's just over, and that's that. But there's always another girl. I'll tell you that in my experience, if you sleep with enough girls, some of them will want a FWB relationship (or even a regular relationship) if that's what you're looking for.

[XPQ22]

(03-05-2017 12:53 PM)SirTimothy Wrote:  

I'll tell you that in my experience, if you sleep with enough girls, some of them will want a FWB relationship (or even a regular relationship) if that's what you're looking for.

It's good to recognize that at some level, once you fuck her once or twice the initial seduction and game process is pretty much over. You did your job properly and you won the prize you're able to win.

If at that point she decides, for whatever reason, that she only wanted to give it up a couple times then there's no fancy "game technique" that I'm aware of that will get her to change her mind. If she wants more, she'll come back repeatedly to put the ball in your court again, to see what you want her for and what you're about.

If she doesn't, she won't.

Any further "payoff" is sort of out of you hands. And unfortunately these days with the way American society is, and particularly eGirls, statistically most young women simply don't need you for anything. Even the ones you bang.

Much is made about the search for "good girls" on the forum, and frankly at this point a young woman just having the ability to properly pair-bond with a man she bangs and honestly say "That was great, and it would be great to have a guy like you in my life for a time" indicates to me she's probably head and shoulders above the rest. Newbies worry that if they fuck a girl one time she's going to think he's Mr. Right, cling on, and depth-charge their player lifestyle before it even begins, when in my experience it's the exact opposite!

[BigTony]

(03-05-2017 10:08 AM)calidude Wrote:  

Anyways, should I wait a few more days before I hit her up again or what?

Good job on getting the notch by the way.

Tinder is for hook ups no?

You got what you wanted, she got what she wanted. Nothing more to discover about her. Move on.

She will be back on Tinder continuing on her cock carousel journey.
You should use the same formula that worked before with a new girl. Coffee shop, ice cream then back to your place.

[Lime]

Are coffer plus ice creams dates best done in the evening in terms of closing?

[XPQ22]

(03-05-2017 05:33 PM)Lime Wrote:  

Are coffer plus ice creams dates best done in the evening in terms of closing?

Early evening - in the summer 6:30 to 7 works pretty well as a time. Make sure there's a park nearby to take a stroll in and give some opportunity to isolate. Sundown makes a great "well it's getting dark, what should we do" plausible deniability thing.

I take a bit of quiet satisfaction that I've banged three eGirls over the past year and a half a by taking them to the same ice cream shop, and then hanging out chatting with them on a bench in a secluded park nearby. They were even all sitting in the same spot! I live out in the 'burbs, and there's a subway stop nearby that takes them right out to me from the city. "Sure, I can give you a lift home."

Looking forward to warmer weather and a chance to hit up my "secret weapon" venue again...

[calidude]

(03-05-2017 02:43 PM)BigTony Wrote:  

(03-05-2017 10:08 AM)calidude Wrote:  

Anyways, should I wait a few more days before I hit her up again or what?

Good job on getting the notch by the way.

Tinder is for hook ups no?

You got what you wanted, she got what she wanted. Nothing more to discover about her. Move on.

She will be back on Tinder continuing on her cock carousel journey.
You should use the same formula that worked before with a new girl. Coffee shop, ice cream then back to your place.

We were vibing pretty well during the date and we had a lot in common, so in the back of my head I was telling myself I wouldn't mind dating her. But after she mentioned she's still talking with her ex and she's fucking a bunch of other guys I realized she's a hoe but I was still rationalizing it in my head.

I'm open to dating a girl I click with, but at the same time I want to fuck a lot of chicks and improve my game.

[Mig Picante]

Good job fucking the first girl and then, moving to two notches immediately.

She seems interested, keep it up!
Texts seem a bit short, you're just discussing how to meet up but you could be adding in interesting things about yourself to get her excited to see you again and raise her interest level/ your SMV.