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Greetings, brothers. Ever since first encountering Roosh's blog and books, I saw the possibility of recreating my life with intention and purpose. I've had a few solo extended trips overseas (Eastern Europe mostly) and a little domestic US travel which showed me I can really fit in almost anywhere. If at some core level I'm unhappy for an extended period of time, sometimes my environment is to blame. I see that now, which is why I am clear about my need to leave California and venture east...

I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area and have had a permanent address here my whole 40-odd years of life. I studied science, worked as an engineer, had multiple long-term relationships and even engagements but gradually saw I was not in healthy relationships largely because I didn't know who I really was. A big forward step for me was, ironically, getting laid off from a tech job that forced me to decide whether I'd put my faith in an employer or develop my ability to generate income. My hobby became a side gig and then I turned it into an official business. Resale cert, CA BAR licensed, etc. In a way, committing to my business for over a decade (15 years unofficially) has been the longest relationship I've ever had. I definitely love what I do, and as I've gotten clearer on my purpose and passions, I continue to refine myself and my understanding of the world. I have really big plans, and a goal that is starting to actualize in a way that will impact anyone and everyone who rides in or drives a motor vehicle.

It was about 2-3 years ago when this big vision became clearer and I've taken constant steps to move it forward. That's the good news. The bad news is my living situation and personal quality of life is not what I want it to be. I can attribute it to a few things, although I am not complaining, just pointing out some factors so anyone reading in a similar situation can see if this applies to them. The factors I see are:

-Very high cost-of-living space in the Bay Area. It's a bad joke at this point, re: rents let alone home prices. My business rent is also quite high for a fairly small space. I know that anywhere I'd relocate to would provide me much higher value per dollar.

-Very poor male:female ratio, high male thirst, widespread self-destructive behavior of women, extremely unfavorable legal climate for sexual happiness. I keep seeing and hearing laws (the new 'child prostitution' one really takes the cake) that depart farther and farther from my values and standards. I had some satisfying relationships in my early to mid-30s but a focus on building my business and managing some health issues took me out of the market. The rise of dating apps and continued influx of men to skew the gender balance has made getting and keeping a woman's attention just about impossible here. It may not be a lot better in other places, but I'd welcome any improvement in access to more date-able women.

-General rudeness, uncaring, lack of community cohesiveness. Most people here came from somewhere else, and the ethnic groups don't mix. People don't give a fuck about someone else unless you're related or paid to. It didn't used to be this way here, but the 80s and early 90s are long gone.

-Lack of male friendships. I'm a very loyal guy, with a range of hobbies and interests. If someone if a friend, I'll do anything I can to help them. My Dad was a great example of a guy who took care of his buddies. Many of the guys I had friendships with in college got wrapped into their relationships and work after graduation. I fell into this trap, too. Often, these were guys I wouldn't consider very masculine / physically active to begin with but being able to hang out turned into once a month, or once every few months, then once a year. Everyone is too busy to hang out, or if you do it's for dinner not actually doing something. Some I don't even bother to meet up with. Combining long commutes, the demands of the Rat Race in Silly Con valley, a measure of frustration at not having time and possibly dissatisfaction in your relationship seems to make guys less interested in hanging out with other guys when they could just stay home, watch Netflix, spend more time with some girl / their girlfriend / their wife / help with their family. I'm all for taking care of family, I do the same, but it's very easy to make excuses and cancel plans out here. The phenomenon of 'California flakiness' I see in the socal thread is perhaps more widespread. If anything, this one factor - lack of opportunities to create and enjoy the company of like-minded men - has now got me more frustrated with being in this area.

-Anti-Trump hysteria at its apex in Commifornia. I've seen the Civil Unrest thread, read John Michael Kane's excellent posts and observations. His recent comment in the San Francisco thread about guys pretending to be gay was the catalyst to get me to post today. I know of guys who were doing this YEARS ago! The attitude of women has further polarized so it's very easy to see who falls into the 'functioning amygdala K-selected' vs. 'triggered SJW r-selected' camp. There is a general smugness I've found in many people, including public sector workers about being anti-Trump and expecting everyone around them to feel the same way. I don't and I don't want to live in a place where useful idiots are so numerous.

-Supporting the insane policies of Jerry Brown, Feinstein, and others via my tax dollars and silent consent. I don't want to live in a 'sanctuary state', or see the clear abuse of power that's been going for decades. I don't want to have to live 100+ miles from a major city to get a concealed carry permit. Again, it comes from some measure of arrogance that 'this is the greatest state to live in.' No, it's not - and I'm supporting TTexit.

-Body modification has reached absolutely horrific levels. Even seemingly 'normal' girls have tats and piercings. I've re-read Victor Pride's 'How to Pick the Right Wife' https://boldanddetermined.com/PICK-THE-RIGHT-WIFE/ which reminds me about my visceral reaction (and too much direct experience) against women who uglify themselves. Ugly is the new beautiful - 'they' think. Nope.

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So those are some of the negatives and factors that have been pushing me out. Some of the positives I'm looking forward to are here. Again, I need to travel more and find the areas that really feel like good balances - my plan is to have a few trips in March/April for 10-14 days in each location to get a good feel for the places I'm considering. Past travel experience, lots of online research, and comments from fellow RVFers have suggested I'm aiming for the 'right' places.

-Better business environment, lower overall taxation, more retained income. For the prices I charge, I should have more money in the bank at the end of every month. I want to feel like the political environment is supporting my ability to be an entrepreneur and treats me with more respect. I've also noted about 50% of my customers are from the Midwest and Southern states, especially Florida, Texas, and Georgia. I've also had more fun hanging out with those folks at race events and shooting the shit in general.

-Better work/play balance, let my uniqueness shine. I really have no interest in going out while in California. I went to karaoke, cars, coffee shops, and clubs in EE far more, along with other states I've been to. I can tell the difference when people are interested in me, my story, how I got there. In Norcal, I look like another 'Indian guy who is in tech'. But how my parents met is a very unusual story that I love telling. For living situation, instead of being stuck in surburbia where everything is dead after 8pm, I will set up my logistics so I can easily be near the hotspots / downtown for my own enjoyment and also for game. That's not something I've ever really experienced other than when I've traveled. I honestly am more excited about being in a cool city (in a red state) than almost anything else. I love live jazz and stand-up comedy, which I can attend by myself, with a date, or with buddies. Plus lots more. I also have wanted to have fun making music or goofing around with other musicians (I'm a largely self-taught pianist, mostly into classical but like other genres too). I know Comte de St. Germain is a musician and I'm looking forward to meeting him during these upcoming trips!

-I'm the rare red-pill Californian entering another state to keep it red. I understand the folks (say, some Texans!) who don't like people from Cali coming in and trying to bring their 'progressive' politics with them. Definitely NOT me. Those will be fun conversations about 'why I left CA?'

-Better location for road trips around the country, good for business, networking with more like-minded guys. There's so much of the US I haven't explored and having to always get into a plane to go anywhere outside CA (or committing to a long ass road trip) doesn't appeal to me. I've wanted to see the Black Hills, the monuments and landscape of Utah, spend more time in Colorado, appreciate the Great Lakes, the wilds of Montana, the beaches of Florida and South Carolina, Texas Hill Country. I would be able to see a lot more variety (and also enjoy gaming / hanging out) in different states / areas without having to fly everywhere. I do like road trips and can work remotely for a good while.

-Better leveraging my values, appearance, and unusual background. People often look at me and either assume I'm a certain race (and religion) or don't know what to think (so they can get to know me!). I have a medium-dark skin tone and grew up as a Californian from immigrant parents who taught us to respect ourselves and others. I've dated girls from nearly every country, but I typically prefer white or latin girls with a cute redhead being my #1 choice. I think the mutual enjoyment of two people having different backgrounds goes a long way. I am not muslim, nor Christian in terms of devout practice but I live a 'Christ-like' life, based on my own understanding and spiritual experiences (that's for another thread). I'm interested in the girls who have a religious inclination but aren't mired in dogma. Kind of an open-minded spiritual Christian. Overall, I've felt very comfortable in the South, from Texas to Georgia to Florida (main states I've visited). I have experienced some discrimination but that's happened in CA as well as other parts of the country/world. My approach is to ignore it, or see if I can make a connection to find some common ground. With hobbies focused on race cars, guns, travel, history, self-improvement there's bound to be a connection.

-Friendlier divorce laws (where fault is actually considered!) and women who could make good partners for the long-term. Yes, I have a desire to have children but not via surrogacy. I would want to have the full experience of finding, vetting, and marrying a high Quality woman, ideally a virgin, her falling deeply in love with me, and us creating a child together. This may be a pipe dream in the US for various reasons but Gio's experiences have inspired me. Although I've not dated a ton the past year, my last serious relationships were with girls in their early 20s. I'm taking care of my health and appearance so I can pass for early 30s (with salt and pepper hair). I partly wish I had done more game out here in SF, but the cost of living and other factors have totally killed my desire to spend time/energy on getting more notches in CA. I also want to game with purpose, taking what I've learned and finding a woman who could be a good wife and mother. I know what a woman in love looks, feels, and sounds like. I've deep converted women before I knew it was a thing. This is where *I* am in my life, as I see more men (like Courage Reborn) sharing their stories of transitioning into the role of husband and father.

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So where am I considering? There are several potential cities such as Tampa, Atlanta, Charlotte, and Dallas / Fort Worth but DFW is at the top of my list. It sounds like a good mix of sophistication and southern style with a friendly business climate. I have not visited yet so I will be planning that trip soon. Anyone in the area who wants to meet up, please PM and we'll coordinate. If for whatever reason DFW doesn't gel for me, I will look at other cities in my list and consider other options as well.

This is a really exciting time for me, especially with Trump being elected that it's clear masculinity needs a resurgence. What I will miss about California are my family, a few friends, and immediate access to the redwoods and the Pacific (where I spend a few hours a week relaxing) but the change is worthwhile and necessary. I can always come back to visit, and no doubt will, but this place hasn't felt like home for years. Thanks for reading and I appreciate your comments and insights.
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you MUST relocate to DFT ASAP.
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I'm a transplant to DFW from the east coast. After living here for a couple of years, here are my observations:

Pros:
-Great economy. Broad job market and pay is almost comparable to 1st tier cities in certain fields.
-Good COL but this advantage is eroding as real estate prices soar. Renting is still a good deal here compared to the coasts, though. I have a sweet set up in a 2Br with a great view paying the equiv of what a tiny studio would cost in most coastal cities
-Weather. The heat doesn't bother me since it's way dryer than the east coast. Winters can be cool but with a few 70 degree days sprinkled in
-Neighborhoods. Austin usually gets the credit but there are a lot of cool neighborhoods in DFW if you stay out of the sprawlhell to the north. Uptown, Deep Ellum, Oak Cliff, Lower Greenville all have their own character and there are some really nice residential areas sprinkled throughout the city.
-Women - actually way more open minded if you have moderate/conservative views. There are liberal girls here but less likely to be SJW freakshows. 8/9s are also more approachable with far less bitch shields.
-Diversity - this place has people from all over the world. I'm sure you could find your niche here.

Cons:
-Materialism. People flaunt wealth here like I've never seen. Lots of guys use $$ as a crutch to get women. This also breeds a class of gold diggers but those are pretty easy to spot from a distance.
-Corporate-ism. I moved here from a smaller, creative, more bohemian city. Dallas is pretty bland in this regard and I miss people who don't define themselves by their career. This is definitely not a chill, laid back place despite being in the south.
-Distance - aside from Austin there's not really much you can drive to within a few hours. Flights from DFW are pretty cheap and go everywhere but sometimes you just want to get in the car and drive.

If you have more specific questions feel free to PM me.
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Alpone, thanks for the write-up. Would love to see you start a new thread with a complete datasheet on the area and venues.

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Alpone, I appreciate your insights. I just read your previous posts on the area which has me more eager to visit. I had considered Chicago except the cold winters and crime turned me off. I just had a great talk with a buddy in Houston and being a 3 hour drive away, while not ideal, sure beats a 3 hour plane flight. How successful do you feel meeting and dating the kinds of women you're interested in?
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Great thread. I'll stay tuned.

I am in Chicago but am still trying to find the best way to meet the types I'd actually like. I generally think American women are low on the list especially in what I'm looking for... and the culture doesn't help, nor does the age gap shaming (not trying just to bang). Next step is to get around action more consistently. Social circle game as you age gets more challenging.
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I hate to be the tin-foil hat guy, but if you haven't read this post and the attached link then I would suggest doing so.

thread-60802...pid1502304

I assuredly hope Trump M'sAGA but if worst comes to worst then location is extremely important.

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How are things?
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Tiger,

Texas has been on my radar ever since I spent 2 months around San Antonio working in the eagle ford shale. Dal/FW would be my 3rd choice behind Austin/Houston...but still a viable option. The economy in TX has is solid compared to most states except N.D... which I've had enough of!

I've also been in Tampa twice on vacation, and the place always seems overpopulated.
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Leonard thanks for that caution. I still have to review the CW2 PDF but I have been following your excellent rural living data sheet. In fact, that plus recently learning of the current grand solar minimum has me more interested in getting some workable farm land which the areas in Texas I was looking at don't provide, or not as well as greener areas further east and north.

OtR, thanks for asking. I'm still setting up plans and will likely stay somewhat anonymous but I'm looking for a rural location within 30-45 min of a decently sized city. This is definitely around the heartland. If things go well, I will either be renting by early next year or might have investments to help with a down payment on a property.

Montana, thanks for your insights. I think my temperament is a better fit for middle America, as I grew up on city limits and hiked with cows in the neighborhood. I think I'm a bit nostalgic for that and also somewhat enamored with finding a woman who enjoys getting dirty as well as cleaning up. MiXX had some great comments about cowgirls in North Dakota and I've had more down-to-earth connections with those kinds of women. When I was younger I didn't mind playing but I'm not there anymore.

On the topic of sun spot / solar activity and its clear connection to earth weather, I would encourage folks who want to stay ahead of the curve to watch the excellent documentary 'The Cloud Mystery' and check out the channel Adapt2030 on YouTube, and look into the science around solar irradiance especially as it relates to weather patterns, cloud cover, and crop losses. Weather abnormalities plus the potential for increased social unrest have together highly influenced my intention to focus more on homesteading than urban living.

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Kid Twist, I was very interested in Chicago as its my favorite city of the big ones I've visited. But it seems we reach a point where deciding on playing vs. crafting a life becomes the dividing line. I am more on the latter side. I will also honestly say I'm more about creating a fuller life for myself without focusing on women as even as second or third priority.

I had two relatives pass in the last year and my father passed 7 years ago. Each person who left my life made me feel I was lucky to still be here. I certainly love a fun night out and hollering at bishes but my mission has begun to take precedence. I honestly really want to emphasize my plans and crafting quality male friendships right now. Perhaps having been in Commifornia as I've seen it shift into a place I barely recognize has made me a little jaded about dating.

I know there are better sex ratios and people with more conservative values elsewhere. My intention is to find a social circle or a few wherever I move and to become part of a community. I know there are pros and cons, but by being proud of who I am and what I've accomplished I know the right connections will appear. It's been true so far, even out here, although not as much in the realm of dating quality women or meeting men of integrity.
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Quote: (02-18-2017 05:02 PM)Truth Tiger Wrote:  

Greetings, brothers. Ever since first encountering Roosh's blog and books, I saw the possibility of recreating my life with intention and purpose. I've had a few solo extended trips overseas (Eastern Europe mostly) and a little domestic US travel which showed me I can really fit in almost anywhere. If at some core level I'm unhappy for an extended period of time, sometimes my environment is to blame. I see that now, which is why I am clear about my need to leave California and venture east...

I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area and have had a permanent address here my whole 40-odd years of life. I studied science, worked as an engineer, had multiple long-term relationships and even engagements but gradually saw I was not in healthy relationships largely because I didn't know who I really was. A big forward step for me was, ironically, getting laid off from a tech job that forced me to decide whether I'd put my faith in an employer or develop my ability to generate income. My hobby became a side gig and then I turned it into an official business. Resale cert, CA BAR licensed, etc. In a way, committing to my business for over a decade (15 years unofficially) has been the longest relationship I've ever had. I definitely love what I do, and as I've gotten clearer on my purpose and passions, I continue to refine myself and my understanding of the world. I have really big plans, and a goal that is starting to actualize in a way that will impact anyone and everyone who rides in or drives a motor vehicle.

It was about 2-3 years ago when this big vision became clearer and I've taken constant steps to move it forward. That's the good news. The bad news is my living situation and personal quality of life is not what I want it to be. I can attribute it to a few things, although I am not complaining, just pointing out some factors so anyone reading in a similar situation can see if this applies to them. The factors I see are:

-Very high cost-of-living space in the Bay Area. It's a bad joke at this point, re: rents let alone home prices. My business rent is also quite high for a fairly small space. I know that anywhere I'd relocate to would provide me much higher value per dollar.

-Very poor male:female ratio, high male thirst, widespread self-destructive behavior of women, extremely unfavorable legal climate for sexual happiness. I keep seeing and hearing laws (the new 'child prostitution' one really takes the cake) that depart farther and farther from my values and standards. I had some satisfying relationships in my early to mid-30s but a focus on building my business and managing some health issues took me out of the market. The rise of dating apps and continued influx of men to skew the gender balance has made getting and keeping a woman's attention just about impossible here. It may not be a lot better in other places, but I'd welcome any improvement in access to more date-able women.

-General rudeness, uncaring, lack of community cohesiveness. Most people here came from somewhere else, and the ethnic groups don't mix. People don't give a fuck about someone else unless you're related or paid to. It didn't used to be this way here, but the 80s and early 90s are long gone.

-Lack of male friendships. I'm a very loyal guy, with a range of hobbies and interests. If someone if a friend, I'll do anything I can to help them. My Dad was a great example of a guy who took care of his buddies. Many of the guys I had friendships with in college got wrapped into their relationships and work after graduation. I fell into this trap, too. Often, these were guys I wouldn't consider very masculine / physically active to begin with but being able to hang out turned into once a month, or once every few months, then once a year. Everyone is too busy to hang out, or if you do it's for dinner not actually doing something. Some I don't even bother to meet up with. Combining long commutes, the demands of the Rat Race in Silly Con valley, a measure of frustration at not having time and possibly dissatisfaction in your relationship seems to make guys less interested in hanging out with other guys when they could just stay home, watch Netflix, spend more time with some girl / their girlfriend / their wife / help with their family. I'm all for taking care of family, I do the same, but it's very easy to make excuses and cancel plans out here. The phenomenon of 'California flakiness' I see in the socal thread is perhaps more widespread. If anything, this one factor - lack of opportunities to create and enjoy the company of like-minded men - has now got me more frustrated with being in this area.

-Anti-Trump hysteria at its apex in Commifornia. I've seen the Civil Unrest thread, read John Michael Kane's excellent posts and observations. His recent comment in the San Francisco thread about guys pretending to be gay was the catalyst to get me to post today. I know of guys who were doing this YEARS ago! The attitude of women has further polarized so it's very easy to see who falls into the 'functioning amygdala K-selected' vs. 'triggered SJW r-selected' camp. There is a general smugness I've found in many people, including public sector workers about being anti-Trump and expecting everyone around them to feel the same way. I don't and I don't want to live in a place where useful idiots are so numerous.

-Supporting the insane policies of Jerry Brown, Feinstein, and others via my tax dollars and silent consent. I don't want to live in a 'sanctuary state', or see the clear abuse of power that's been going for decades. I don't want to have to live 100+ miles from a major city to get a concealed carry permit. Again, it comes from some measure of arrogance that 'this is the greatest state to live in.' No, it's not - and I'm supporting TTexit.

-Body modification has reached absolutely horrific levels. Even seemingly 'normal' girls have tats and piercings. I've re-read Victor Pride's 'How to Pick the Right Wife' https://boldanddetermined.com/PICK-THE-RIGHT-WIFE/ which reminds me about my visceral reaction (and too much direct experience) against women who uglify themselves. Ugly is the new beautiful - 'they' think. Nope.

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So those are some of the negatives and factors that have been pushing me out. Some of the positives I'm looking forward to are here. Again, I need to travel more and find the areas that really feel like good balances - my plan is to have a few trips in March/April for 10-14 days in each location to get a good feel for the places I'm considering. Past travel experience, lots of online research, and comments from fellow RVFers have suggested I'm aiming for the 'right' places.

-Better business environment, lower overall taxation, more retained income. For the prices I charge, I should have more money in the bank at the end of every month. I want to feel like the political environment is supporting my ability to be an entrepreneur and treats me with more respect. I've also noted about 50% of my customers are from the Midwest and Southern states, especially Florida, Texas, and Georgia. I've also had more fun hanging out with those folks at race events and shooting the shit in general.

-Better work/play balance, let my uniqueness shine. I really have no interest in going out while in California. I went to karaoke, cars, coffee shops, and clubs in EE far more, along with other states I've been to. I can tell the difference when people are interested in me, my story, how I got there. In Norcal, I look like another 'Indian guy who is in tech'. But how my parents met is a very unusual story that I love telling. For living situation, instead of being stuck in surburbia where everything is dead after 8pm, I will set up my logistics so I can easily be near the hotspots / downtown for my own enjoyment and also for game. That's not something I've ever really experienced other than when I've traveled. I honestly am more excited about being in a cool city (in a red state) than almost anything else. I love live jazz and stand-up comedy, which I can attend by myself, with a date, or with buddies. Plus lots more. I also have wanted to have fun making music or goofing around with other musicians (I'm a largely self-taught pianist, mostly into classical but like other genres too). I know Comte de St. Germain is a musician and I'm looking forward to meeting him during these upcoming trips!

-I'm the rare red-pill Californian entering another state to keep it red. I understand the folks (say, some Texans!) who don't like people from Cali coming in and trying to bring their 'progressive' politics with them. Definitely NOT me. Those will be fun conversations about 'why I left CA?'

-Better location for road trips around the country, good for business, networking with more like-minded guys. There's so much of the US I haven't explored and having to always get into a plane to go anywhere outside CA (or committing to a long ass road trip) doesn't appeal to me. I've wanted to see the Black Hills, the monuments and landscape of Utah, spend more time in Colorado, appreciate the Great Lakes, the wilds of Montana, the beaches of Florida and South Carolina, Texas Hill Country. I would be able to see a lot more variety (and also enjoy gaming / hanging out) in different states / areas without having to fly everywhere. I do like road trips and can work remotely for a good while.

-Better leveraging my values, appearance, and unusual background. People often look at me and either assume I'm a certain race (and religion) or don't know what to think (so they can get to know me!). I have a medium-dark skin tone and grew up as a Californian from immigrant parents who taught us to respect ourselves and others. I've dated girls from nearly every country, but I typically prefer white or latin girls with a cute redhead being my #1 choice. I think the mutual enjoyment of two people having different backgrounds goes a long way. I am not muslim, nor Christian in terms of devout practice but I live a 'Christ-like' life, based on my own understanding and spiritual experiences (that's for another thread). I'm interested in the girls who have a religious inclination but aren't mired in dogma. Kind of an open-minded spiritual Christian. Overall, I've felt very comfortable in the South, from Texas to Georgia to Florida (main states I've visited). I have experienced some discrimination but that's happened in CA as well as other parts of the country/world. My approach is to ignore it, or see if I can make a connection to find some common ground. With hobbies focused on race cars, guns, travel, history, self-improvement there's bound to be a connection.

-Friendlier divorce laws (where fault is actually considered!) and women who could make good partners for the long-term. Yes, I have a desire to have children but not via surrogacy. I would want to have the full experience of finding, vetting, and marrying a high Quality woman, ideally a virgin, her falling deeply in love with me, and us creating a child together. This may be a pipe dream in the US for various reasons but Gio's experiences have inspired me. Although I've not dated a ton the past year, my last serious relationships were with girls in their early 20s. I'm taking care of my health and appearance so I can pass for early 30s (with salt and pepper hair). I partly wish I had done more game out here in SF, but the cost of living and other factors have totally killed my desire to spend time/energy on getting more notches in CA. I also want to game with purpose, taking what I've learned and finding a woman who could be a good wife and mother. I know what a woman in love looks, feels, and sounds like. I've deep converted women before I knew it was a thing. This is where *I* am in my life, as I see more men (like Courage Reborn) sharing their stories of transitioning into the role of husband and father.

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So where am I considering? There are several potential cities such as Tampa, Atlanta, Charlotte, and Dallas / Fort Worth but DFW is at the top of my list. It sounds like a good mix of sophistication and southern style with a friendly business climate. I have not visited yet so I will be planning that trip soon. Anyone in the area who wants to meet up, please PM and we'll coordinate. If for whatever reason DFW doesn't gel for me, I will look at other cities in my list and consider other options as well.

This is a really exciting time for me, especially with Trump being elected that it's clear masculinity needs a resurgence. What I will miss about California are my family, a few friends, and immediate access to the redwoods and the Pacific (where I spend a few hours a week relaxing) but the change is worthwhile and necessary. I can always come back to visit, and no doubt will, but this place hasn't felt like home for years. Thanks for reading and I appreciate your comments and insights.


You're not alone. There's several of us on this forum who are planning our escape from California. I've been in LA for 25 years and once my degree is finished I'm OUT. Your entire post could have written by me verbatim. Agreed on every point. California is becoming a raw deal for young red pilled men.

I'm considering Chicago, Houston, and Charlotte for a host of reasons very similar to what you already outlined in your post. I'll be following this thread and coming back to it when I feel like saying more. It's late right now.

Greetings brotha.
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