My friend broke up with his girlfriend recently because of her bad behaviour.
She would act out childishly on occasion to try to get attention. One night we were all having fun at a club and she freaked out and disappeared for no reason, which ruined our night. Another night she was in a bad mood, refused to engage in social interactions and kept making snide bitchy remarks.
My friend was becoming annoyed and embarrassed so he dumped her, explaining that he was sick of dealing with her bad behaviour.
The next day she posted some lyrics on her Facebook wall:
Her interpretation? "He just doesn't love me". Of course plenty of her friends were on hand to jump in with choruses of sympathy to shore up her damaged ego. Her self-defence mechanisms refused to acknowledge that the problem was with HER behaviour. Instead she rationalizes the event away as an uncontrollable "feeling".
If this happened to a man he would question himself and try to understand why it happened and what actions he could take to prevent it happening again in the future. This girl doesn't seem to have any ability to recognise that it was her own fault she got dumped, even though it was spelled out for her. She has received plenty of validation and support and will probably go on to exhibit the exact same behaviour in subsequent relationships.
Do women literally have an inability to learn from their mistakes? Or do they rationalize it away on the surface but change their behaviour subconsciously?
She would act out childishly on occasion to try to get attention. One night we were all having fun at a club and she freaked out and disappeared for no reason, which ruined our night. Another night she was in a bad mood, refused to engage in social interactions and kept making snide bitchy remarks.
My friend was becoming annoyed and embarrassed so he dumped her, explaining that he was sick of dealing with her bad behaviour.
The next day she posted some lyrics on her Facebook wall:
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I can't make you love me if you don't / You can't make your heart feel something it won't.
Her interpretation? "He just doesn't love me". Of course plenty of her friends were on hand to jump in with choruses of sympathy to shore up her damaged ego. Her self-defence mechanisms refused to acknowledge that the problem was with HER behaviour. Instead she rationalizes the event away as an uncontrollable "feeling".
If this happened to a man he would question himself and try to understand why it happened and what actions he could take to prevent it happening again in the future. This girl doesn't seem to have any ability to recognise that it was her own fault she got dumped, even though it was spelled out for her. She has received plenty of validation and support and will probably go on to exhibit the exact same behaviour in subsequent relationships.
Do women literally have an inability to learn from their mistakes? Or do they rationalize it away on the surface but change their behaviour subconsciously?
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