[mrman848]

Quick 1,2,3 about me.
Hey, 32 year old caucasian male up in Edmonton Alberta. Good looking.
Read some game books back when I was 26, improved my responses with women but meh, only got 2 women who were virgins and never had boyfriends before. Eventually gave up, had a mental breakdown. I even tried going for bigger curvier women but my standards won't naturally lower like it did for all my guy friends.

Rebuilt, now I figured I should try again because life really isn't worth it when not fucking hot women.


Like a number of guys I lost faith in the game material. 1 reason was that I don't really care to up the notches on my belt with plain jane covered vag sex. I just want that one hot woman who likes me.
2nd reason - the game material has 1 little misnomer. Looks.
sure an ugly unfit guy CAN get a woman. The game material makes it sound easy. But its comparable to playing a video game on easy, normal, hard, insane. The few guys who are ugly/fat that got a hottie just lucked out and found an insecure one. ....its just like the hot guys who have an ugly wife. She swooped in when the guy was lonely and insecure.
I am bitter about that but can't change the past. Just wish i knew about it sooner because it really is good motivation to hit the gym when you know women won't touch a fatty.
So in January I lost 10 lbs. I used to be fit as well but high doses of anti-depressants caused massive weight gain. And a few injuries.

Questions:
Big problem I find with exercise is that it ups my sex drive. I already have a high sex drive. This makes it x2 or even x3 the problem.
And then brushing up on game and thinking about women just exasperates this problem. I was getting by before with just masturbation and not thinking about women during non-mb times.
I can't do fatties because I can't even get it up with them. I tried p4p because I am really at the end here and just didn't care. ....I couldn't believe how many fake lying escorts there are. I only mention this p4p because it is really draining me emotionally.

So how the fuck do I get through the getting physically fit phase without sex before I have a fucking nervous breakdown again?

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Next question:
Online dating sucks. I had some success with it when I was 27 and fit but its really bad now.
But I'm at a loss of where to find approachable women. I live in a city with alot of men too so bars are really bad.
Any other good places to meet approachable women? they don't even have to be super hot. I'm not picky - just no BMI of 25+(obese), ya know -1960's style.
not a fan of meth addicts either. or other addictions. But I'm desperate so my stance on this is starting to wane.

So where do I go?= the mall? ....I'll run out of malls pretty quick.
Just ask out every cashier and clerk I see?
I noticed other 30 year olds stalking high schools. Heck my delinquent 17 year old half sister is pregnant with some 35 year old's baby. ....glad I ditched that side of the family. I got a 19 year old sister who was delinquent too. She had some ok looking friends but all are addicts to something. I'd have to reconnect with her too.


Money isn't too big a deal for me either. I'm not rich or anything. I just don't smoke, drink, do drugs, work on my own vehcile. Or really spend on anything. Just bank my money and buy stocks.
I don't like wasting money either. So i'm not gonna go pay a cover charge at a bar, buy some drinks just to get shot down all night.

I don't have too many other questions as the other threads seem to have already answered most of them.

[PapayaTapper]

Bad news for you is there's no "quick" fix. It will take time, work and commitment Everything in life worth having takes those things

(02-05-2017 01:52 AM)mrman848 Wrote:  

Read some game books back when I was 26,

The good news is the answers are all in this forum. but what you want isn't on any screen. It's "out there" in the real world

You can read all the playbooks, strategies, theories, etc you want but the only place any of that counts is out on the field.

First thing that stands out as "actionable" is move if your location sucks. Is that something you're willing to do for a more fulfilling life?

[ksbms]

(02-05-2017 01:52 AM)mrman848 Wrote:  

The game material makes it sound easy. But its comparable to playing a video game on easy, normal, hard, insane.

Most men get little to no sex. The little they get is if they are lucky, that is a cute at best girl picks them up (at workplace, school, or social circle) and as long as they play don't fuck it up game, they'll score. That's when you are on easy to normal mode, I guess. If you want more, you'll have to up the ante.

For example, I'm your average Joe in looks department, average height, but with better fashion and grooming and education than the Joe. Plus extensive theoretical game knowledge and past beginner, en route to intermediate, practical day game. Since 1st Jan been on hard mode and got no luck. Last few days got ill and only now feeling good. Could have whined, just like you. But guess what, it won't change anything. This world's rules are what they are and it is statistically unlikely you'll become a topdog with a big T in the next few years to have girls to come to you.

Why am I saying this? Because the alternative is to lie down and die. You can do that. But if you want good looking girls and a new girl a month, it's gonna be work. Hard. Or even insane. The only way is forward.

[LeoneVolpe]

I'm not advocating for men to going around banging trolls, but it always cracks me up when guys think they're entitled to top-shelf chicks and shouldn't have to settle for anything less. You don't think every guy wants a fucking 10 on his arm? You have to put in the work. You're not going to start by banging 9s and 10s. In all likelihood, you wouldn't even know what to do with a 9 or 10 right now if you had one. You have to work you're way up from somewhere, and there's no shame in that. If you start out on top, you have nowhere to go but down. If you work your way up, you'll be able to see how far you've come from the 6 or 7 barista to the 8 or 9 lifeguard or tennis instructor. Don't discriminate about which method you use, either. Use everything from random day game approaches to online pickup. There are many ways to skin a cat, or in this case, snag pussy.

Just to clarify, when I say you wouldn't know what to do with a 9 or 10, I don't mean that sexually. Although I suppose it's possible that if you found yourself in such an unexpected situation performance anxiety might get the better of you. What I meant was, if you can't handle the "shit tests" of a lesser chick, an upper echelon babe is going to eat you alive.

This old song comes to mind:

[mrman848]

Thanks. Sometimes its good to hear the truth. I tried to keep the whining down to a minimum.

Gonna be fucking difficult to get through the workout phase.
Not sure how much time i want to waste on the dating sites. I guess when its -30 outside i got nothing better to do then surf the online dating sites.

And FYI: A hottie to me is not a 9/10. A hottie just has to be skinny.
....thats like literally my only requirement- skinny. They could have the ugliest mug and i wouldn't care. Burkas are in fashion now so at least ugly mugs have options.

[Harami]

You are being too lenient, you will end up showing your neediness. Don't let them know you haven't touched a girl for so long. Be the asshole you were born to be and get yours - beg, borrow, steal.