Long time lurker here. To give something back to the community, I wanted to share my experiences with hypnosis therapy that helped me to overcome low libido and weak erections issues that I had suffered from for around 18 months in the recent past.
On this forum and on few other places on the internet, the method of hypnosis to tackle these common men's health problems is rarely ever discussed. That's curious because I'm convinced that this something worth checking out for men who struggle with non-physically induced erection issues and who are stuck with dick pills.
In that sense, I hope I don't come off as someone paid by the industry to write this.
Content
1. Overview
2. How to find a therapist
3. Costs
4. My background
5. How the therapy works
6. Results
7. Conclusion
1. Overview
I hadn't known much about hypnosis, let alone hypnosis therapy, before I started my research on this. Like lots of people, I had only had rather vague stereotypes in mind about illusionists, con-artists and charlatans that hypnotize people on television and fairs to trick them into doing stupid shit and ridicule them in front of an audience. Laughs for the plebs.
When I learned that hypnosis is used as a therapy method to treat various disorders, addictions, traumas, mental illnesses and other psychological issues, I was still skeptical. To me it sounded more like homeopathy, „alternative medicine“ and other ripoffs that don't withstand scientific scrutiny.
In fact, hypnotherapy has been a legitimate and widely recognized form of psychotherapy for quite a while. There are now of research as well as peer-reviewed academic literature that seem to confirm the positive treatment effects on many mental disorders. In the US, the UK, France, Germany and other developed countries, hypnotherapists are accredited by governmental agencies and form professional associations.
Like in any form of therapy there are also risks involved (headaches, possible retraumatization, etc.) but they appear to be extremely rare and I didn't have any problems.
Many hypnotherapists claim to treat the following common issues:
- addictions to cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs
- fear to speak in front of an audience
- weight loss
- biting fingernails
- grief over the loss of loved ones
- phobias (arachnophobia, vertigo, etc.)
- traumas from crime, war zone experience, early childhood
- mid-life crisis
- panic attacks right before exams
- stress
- depression
- etc.
Since those problems were not mine, I can't speak with any authority about how successful hypnotherapy can be in those areas. Though, given my great experience regarding the topic that I discuss here, I assume that hypnotherapy might be fruitful with these grievances as well.
2. How to Find a Therapist
This may or may not prove tricky for some of you.
As mentally-induced libido/erection problems is not something you can freely discuss even with your closest friends, it's hard to find a therapist merely by mouth-to-mouth propaganda.
My urologist (more on that later) also did not know such a practitioner, so I had to rely on the internet research and a few online reviews.
I live in a major European capital city where there was a good range of therapists to choose from. Since I didn't have any references to base my choice upon, I decided for one with a professional looking website that displayed his certifications, accreditation and membership in professional organizations. The first introductory conversation I had with him was for free, and it suppose that most therapists handle it that way. So only after I had a good feeling with this guy, I actually made an appointment for the first treatment session.
That's what I would suggest, based on my limited experience in this field. Try to first meet a therapist and see if you like and trust him. If not, look for another one.
Since the therapy for this issue is a very personal and in a way intimate one, it's a must that you feel absolutely comfortable with the therapist. I guess, you will have problems to reveal yourself to him if you don't like his personality, his attitude or his face.
I think it goes without saying, that I intentionally picked a male practitioner. While I wouldn't mind to get the treatment from a woman if it was about quitting to smoke, I feel this is a man's issue that can only be dealt with by male comrades. (no homo)
3. Costs
I paid by treatment session which was around two hours long and it was 300€. As I only needed two sessions to cure my problem, I paid 600€ altogether.
But this is relative. Different practitioners charge different rates. Depending on the general cost for health care in your city/country, it might be much much more or a little less.
My health insurance provider, which usually pays for most other medical treatments, did not cover this.
4. My background
Why did I decided to get hypnotherapy?
I don't want to get too personal here but let me outline what my situation was about two years ago.
At that time, I had an average sex life. A few night club pulls, mini-relationships with random chicks, hook-ups with female friends, etc. In addition, many dry spells in between that lasted up to a few months due to my job and traveling in unruly areas of the world where banging local women could get you stoned or lynched.
Anyways, every once in a while I had the issue that I couldn't get it up when I wanted to fornicate with a lizard. Then I discovered the no-porn-movement and it helped me quite a bit.
I had a mild case of depression and stress at grad school after I came back from a longer trip. A new bang, couldn't hurt I thought. Met an older woman from a dating site and went to her place.
That was the worst sexual experience of my life, to say the least. She was a psycho and a total failure in life. She would lie in bed like a piece of deadwood and would just let it happen. I was disgusted by her and disgusted by myself. Eventually, I could cum but I felt miserable afterwards.
After that day, my libido disappeared almost completely. I felt no sexual appetite at all, even with porn I would only reluctantly get a boner. This lasted for weeks, months. Feeling no desire for sex can be soul crushing.
When I finally saw some minor improvements, I decided to go out and pull new chicks. The results were distressing. While I could get a boner and sleep with around three different women, I had lots of trouble to get an erection. Only extended oral sex and lots of time would yield the desired result. My libido had improved in the meantime but it was still extremely low key, nothing to compare with the years before. I didn't even get morning hard-ons. (I'm now in my late 20s)
I finally decided to go to an urologist. He made a full medical check. My initial assumption was that my testosterone level was simply too low. Maybe I had some other physical issue that was the reason behind all this?
Nope. The testosterone levels were higher than average, according to my doctor. He said, that my libido loss and the weak erections were entirely mentally-induced. „It's all in your head“, he said. „Just don't think too much about it.“ He proscribed me dick pills, which I tried. But I hated the idea of being dependend on the pharma industry as a young guy just to have a normal sex life, so I discontinued that very soon.
On the internet I read about hypnosis therapy and the beneficial effects it can have on sexual problems. I decided to give it a try.
5. How the therapy works
After I found my therapist, I arranged a first appointment where we would discuss my biography, my sexual history and other personal stuff.
Like I said, I believe it is crucial that you are being completely honest in that conversation. The practitioner needs to find out the root cause of your sexual performance issues.
After we sorted that out and talked for about two hours about many different topics, we arranged the first real hypno-session.
At first, he made a few exercises with me to test how „suggestible“ I was, meaning how susceptible to hypnosis. It's kind of random like following his moving hands with your eyes, then closing your eyes immediately on his behest, and so on.
Afterwards, he told me to lay down on a sofa and cover myself with a blanket. He put on some trippy esoteric music that probably amplified the whole experience. He then said something along the lines of: „I'm counting down from 10 to 0. With each number I call you will get deeper into trance. 10… You are perfectly fine they you are. Release all that stress … 9… you are now getting deeper now into trance. Just listen to the sound of my voice … 8 … blabla“
At 0 I was entirely into trance. It's an interesting mental state to be in. You can still hear the noise from the street and the AC, move your hands if your balls start to itch, etc. But at the same time, you forget about yourself and let your therapist lead your thoughts.
He then told me to mentally revisit that one sexual encounter after which my libido and erection strength died down. Then he made to imagine the whole thing like watching it as an outside observer, transform into a “movie in my head“, let the colors turn into black&white and finally let it go, like a leaf from a tree being carried away by the wind.
Then he conditioned me to focus my thoughts on a good sexual experience I had in the past when I didn't have any performance issues. I was supposed to revisit that, too, and to fully embrace the positive feeling it gave me.
All in all, that first session lasted 1 ½ hours.
In the third session a week later, I repeated the whole process with slight variations.
My therapist told me to let this experience sink into my subconsciousness for a few days and sleep with a girl.
6. Results
I listened to the therapists advice and called an old fuckbuddy of mine to bang her the same day.
And the angels sang:
No libido issues at all; a rock-hard erection; no thoughts about failing again in bed. It was like having sex for the first time again.
Ever since I started the treatment, my sexual energy is back at where it used to be. I wake up with morning boners, can last as long as I want during sex and I feel like a complete man again. I made use of my newly arousen libido to get laid with a couple of girls and eventually ended up in a good LTR.
I should again emphasize that I only had those three sessions of hypnotherapy. No repititions needed.
7. Conclusion
For physically healthy men who suffer from erectile dysfunction, low libido or premature ejaculation, hypnotherapy can be a solution as my case has hopefully demonstrated. In fact, I believe it's one of the best kept secrets when it comes to those problems.
Remember that in most cases weak or no erections are not due to physical impairments but are mentally-induced, especially if you are a young,otherwise healthy guy.
Before you support the dick pill and viagra industry who just want your money, you should check this treatment out because it cures the root of the problem and not just the symptom.
On this forum and on few other places on the internet, the method of hypnosis to tackle these common men's health problems is rarely ever discussed. That's curious because I'm convinced that this something worth checking out for men who struggle with non-physically induced erection issues and who are stuck with dick pills.
In that sense, I hope I don't come off as someone paid by the industry to write this.
Content
1. Overview
2. How to find a therapist
3. Costs
4. My background
5. How the therapy works
6. Results
7. Conclusion
1. Overview
I hadn't known much about hypnosis, let alone hypnosis therapy, before I started my research on this. Like lots of people, I had only had rather vague stereotypes in mind about illusionists, con-artists and charlatans that hypnotize people on television and fairs to trick them into doing stupid shit and ridicule them in front of an audience. Laughs for the plebs.
When I learned that hypnosis is used as a therapy method to treat various disorders, addictions, traumas, mental illnesses and other psychological issues, I was still skeptical. To me it sounded more like homeopathy, „alternative medicine“ and other ripoffs that don't withstand scientific scrutiny.
In fact, hypnotherapy has been a legitimate and widely recognized form of psychotherapy for quite a while. There are now of research as well as peer-reviewed academic literature that seem to confirm the positive treatment effects on many mental disorders. In the US, the UK, France, Germany and other developed countries, hypnotherapists are accredited by governmental agencies and form professional associations.
Like in any form of therapy there are also risks involved (headaches, possible retraumatization, etc.) but they appear to be extremely rare and I didn't have any problems.
Many hypnotherapists claim to treat the following common issues:
- addictions to cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs
- fear to speak in front of an audience
- weight loss
- biting fingernails
- grief over the loss of loved ones
- phobias (arachnophobia, vertigo, etc.)
- traumas from crime, war zone experience, early childhood
- mid-life crisis
- panic attacks right before exams
- stress
- depression
- etc.
Since those problems were not mine, I can't speak with any authority about how successful hypnotherapy can be in those areas. Though, given my great experience regarding the topic that I discuss here, I assume that hypnotherapy might be fruitful with these grievances as well.
2. How to Find a Therapist
This may or may not prove tricky for some of you.
As mentally-induced libido/erection problems is not something you can freely discuss even with your closest friends, it's hard to find a therapist merely by mouth-to-mouth propaganda.
My urologist (more on that later) also did not know such a practitioner, so I had to rely on the internet research and a few online reviews.
I live in a major European capital city where there was a good range of therapists to choose from. Since I didn't have any references to base my choice upon, I decided for one with a professional looking website that displayed his certifications, accreditation and membership in professional organizations. The first introductory conversation I had with him was for free, and it suppose that most therapists handle it that way. So only after I had a good feeling with this guy, I actually made an appointment for the first treatment session.
That's what I would suggest, based on my limited experience in this field. Try to first meet a therapist and see if you like and trust him. If not, look for another one.
Since the therapy for this issue is a very personal and in a way intimate one, it's a must that you feel absolutely comfortable with the therapist. I guess, you will have problems to reveal yourself to him if you don't like his personality, his attitude or his face.
I think it goes without saying, that I intentionally picked a male practitioner. While I wouldn't mind to get the treatment from a woman if it was about quitting to smoke, I feel this is a man's issue that can only be dealt with by male comrades. (no homo)
3. Costs
I paid by treatment session which was around two hours long and it was 300€. As I only needed two sessions to cure my problem, I paid 600€ altogether.
But this is relative. Different practitioners charge different rates. Depending on the general cost for health care in your city/country, it might be much much more or a little less.
My health insurance provider, which usually pays for most other medical treatments, did not cover this.
4. My background
Why did I decided to get hypnotherapy?
I don't want to get too personal here but let me outline what my situation was about two years ago.
At that time, I had an average sex life. A few night club pulls, mini-relationships with random chicks, hook-ups with female friends, etc. In addition, many dry spells in between that lasted up to a few months due to my job and traveling in unruly areas of the world where banging local women could get you stoned or lynched.
Anyways, every once in a while I had the issue that I couldn't get it up when I wanted to fornicate with a lizard. Then I discovered the no-porn-movement and it helped me quite a bit.
I had a mild case of depression and stress at grad school after I came back from a longer trip. A new bang, couldn't hurt I thought. Met an older woman from a dating site and went to her place.
That was the worst sexual experience of my life, to say the least. She was a psycho and a total failure in life. She would lie in bed like a piece of deadwood and would just let it happen. I was disgusted by her and disgusted by myself. Eventually, I could cum but I felt miserable afterwards.
After that day, my libido disappeared almost completely. I felt no sexual appetite at all, even with porn I would only reluctantly get a boner. This lasted for weeks, months. Feeling no desire for sex can be soul crushing.
When I finally saw some minor improvements, I decided to go out and pull new chicks. The results were distressing. While I could get a boner and sleep with around three different women, I had lots of trouble to get an erection. Only extended oral sex and lots of time would yield the desired result. My libido had improved in the meantime but it was still extremely low key, nothing to compare with the years before. I didn't even get morning hard-ons. (I'm now in my late 20s)
I finally decided to go to an urologist. He made a full medical check. My initial assumption was that my testosterone level was simply too low. Maybe I had some other physical issue that was the reason behind all this?
Nope. The testosterone levels were higher than average, according to my doctor. He said, that my libido loss and the weak erections were entirely mentally-induced. „It's all in your head“, he said. „Just don't think too much about it.“ He proscribed me dick pills, which I tried. But I hated the idea of being dependend on the pharma industry as a young guy just to have a normal sex life, so I discontinued that very soon.
On the internet I read about hypnosis therapy and the beneficial effects it can have on sexual problems. I decided to give it a try.
5. How the therapy works
After I found my therapist, I arranged a first appointment where we would discuss my biography, my sexual history and other personal stuff.
Like I said, I believe it is crucial that you are being completely honest in that conversation. The practitioner needs to find out the root cause of your sexual performance issues.
After we sorted that out and talked for about two hours about many different topics, we arranged the first real hypno-session.
At first, he made a few exercises with me to test how „suggestible“ I was, meaning how susceptible to hypnosis. It's kind of random like following his moving hands with your eyes, then closing your eyes immediately on his behest, and so on.
Afterwards, he told me to lay down on a sofa and cover myself with a blanket. He put on some trippy esoteric music that probably amplified the whole experience. He then said something along the lines of: „I'm counting down from 10 to 0. With each number I call you will get deeper into trance. 10… You are perfectly fine they you are. Release all that stress … 9… you are now getting deeper now into trance. Just listen to the sound of my voice … 8 … blabla“
At 0 I was entirely into trance. It's an interesting mental state to be in. You can still hear the noise from the street and the AC, move your hands if your balls start to itch, etc. But at the same time, you forget about yourself and let your therapist lead your thoughts.
He then told me to mentally revisit that one sexual encounter after which my libido and erection strength died down. Then he made to imagine the whole thing like watching it as an outside observer, transform into a “movie in my head“, let the colors turn into black&white and finally let it go, like a leaf from a tree being carried away by the wind.
Then he conditioned me to focus my thoughts on a good sexual experience I had in the past when I didn't have any performance issues. I was supposed to revisit that, too, and to fully embrace the positive feeling it gave me.
All in all, that first session lasted 1 ½ hours.
In the third session a week later, I repeated the whole process with slight variations.
My therapist told me to let this experience sink into my subconsciousness for a few days and sleep with a girl.
6. Results
I listened to the therapists advice and called an old fuckbuddy of mine to bang her the same day.
And the angels sang:
No libido issues at all; a rock-hard erection; no thoughts about failing again in bed. It was like having sex for the first time again.
Ever since I started the treatment, my sexual energy is back at where it used to be. I wake up with morning boners, can last as long as I want during sex and I feel like a complete man again. I made use of my newly arousen libido to get laid with a couple of girls and eventually ended up in a good LTR.
I should again emphasize that I only had those three sessions of hypnotherapy. No repititions needed.
7. Conclusion
For physically healthy men who suffer from erectile dysfunction, low libido or premature ejaculation, hypnotherapy can be a solution as my case has hopefully demonstrated. In fact, I believe it's one of the best kept secrets when it comes to those problems.
Remember that in most cases weak or no erections are not due to physical impairments but are mentally-induced, especially if you are a young,otherwise healthy guy.
Before you support the dick pill and viagra industry who just want your money, you should check this treatment out because it cures the root of the problem and not just the symptom.