Corollary's Progress Thread
02-25-2017, 03:05 AM
To update this thread, I'll post a couple of experiences I've had in the past week.
Last Saturday, I went to a bar to celebrate a female friend's birthday. She's a good friend because she always thinks about finding new girls for me to meet. These girls aren't the highest quality, but many of them are good enough. I never got anywhere with any of them though because of the problem I mentioned in the first post of this thread.
Four decent girls were there. Let's call them Midget Girl, MILF, Photogenic Girl, and The Mexican.
I met all but Midget Girl before.
Photogenic Girl was by far the best looking. I call her that because she looks amazing in pictures, but in person, she's just another cute girl.
I met The Mexican at the same time as Photogenic Girl. I didn't get to talk to her much during our first meet because I was talking to some other girl who was much more into me at the time, but when I did talk to The Mexican, I found her easy to talk to.
MILF is younger than me but she has three kids and she's single.
Midget Girl is the shortest girl I've ever talked to in my life. Unfortunately, she's a bit chubby. I couldn't tell exactly how chubby because of the dress she was wearing. She also didn't drink any alcohol at all. I don't know why though because she didn't drive there and she wasn't a nondrinker like me.
The first girl I see that night was Midget Girl. Since she was the only girl there other than the birthday girl, I immediately started chatting her up. I could tell that she was warming up to me quickly. The more I talked to her, the more I wondered if I could take her home with me that night.
Later, Photogenic Girl and The Mexican arrive. Because of our interaction last time, I was hoping things could pick up where they left off last time with The Mexican. I was wrong. She wasn't warm to me at all. With her reaction, it put me off from interacting with Photogenic Girl. So I didn't say much to her initially.
The MILF arrives last, but she's not important at all to this recap until the end.
I keep chatting with Midget Girl, and I try to get her to go to the dance floor with me. She says she doesn't dance. I chat with her more, ask again, and she denies me again. I chat with her more and then ask her to dance with me at the table. This she does. After, I try getting her to the dance floor again, but she declines. So I chat with her some more and ask again, and then finally agrees to go to the dance floor. The dance was awkward because she was so short, but I was happy I was able to get her to go with me.
As we get back to the table, it's easier for me to touch her because I led her to the dance floor by her hand and I walked her back to the table with my arm around her shoulders.
At this point, I'm thinking I could attempt to take her home with me. She didn't drive there, so in our conversation, I bring up how I could take her home. She declines because she thought it would be too much of a hassle for me and she had someone who could pick her up. This stumps me.
Later, I start talking to Photogenic Girl, and she's warming up to me. She enthusiastically agrees to be my partner in a beer pong game (she agreed to drink all the beer). This fucked me up because now I'm thinking about who I should choose. Do I go with the chubby girl I did all the work on, or the hotter one who is now starting to give me attention?
The beer pong game was more of the same. She got warmer as time went on. In this case, I didn't have to do anything, so I'm guessing the alcohol was a factor.
Once the game is over, I find out half of our group went to another bar. So I get the remaining people to go to the same bar.
There, it's much higher energy. It's like a mini-club. All the girls are on the dance floor, and I find myself splitting my attention between Midget Girl and Photogenic Girl. Having a choice caused me not to commit to either one.
Eventually, Photogenic Girl and The Mexican leave. Around the same time, Midget Girl is starting to annoy me more and more. When I was leading the conversation, everything was fine, but now I wasn't directing things as much, and she was just running her mouth.
This is when I turn my attention to the MILF. She's one of the those girls who gives off the vibe that she loves black guys. It wouldn't surprise me if her baby daddy(ies) were black.
So I don't have to do anything with her because she has always been into me. I never cared about her because of the three kids at a young age.
I just dance with her and eventually the group decides they want to go to eat.
I manage to get the Midget Girl to go with me in my car, but like I said, I was getting more and more annoyed with her.
So when we get to the restaurant, I focus more on talking to the MILF and ignore Midget Girl.
Eventually Midget Girl has someone pick her up. I don't even bother to get her number.
While MILF and her friend are paying at the register, I chat up two girls sitting down by the door. They humor me, but they clearly weren't interested.
After that I say goodbye to MILF and her friend, and I go home alone numberless. (actually, I ran into a cute girl I know who goes out all the time. I got her number so we could ostensibly party together. She has shown interest in me in the past.)
Lessons for the night were:
Commit to one girl. The thought of multiple options caused indecision on my part, and I ended up with nothing.
Always lead the conversation. I find girls to be extremely pleasant to be around when I'm directing the conversation. But, I find girls to be extremely annoying when they have no direction from me or someone else. This has been a problem for me in the past, but writing down this recap has made me realize the solution is to lead more.
On the positive side, the old me would have never though about possibly taking a girl home. A mindset shift is the main thing I'm going for with all this, because I do have 'enough' girls who enter my life and end up attracted to me. I just need to capitalize on those opportunities.
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The other situation involves one of the girls from my social circle that I mentioned in the last post. She's actually one of the girls in the bachata class I'm taking.
She's cute and slim. She looks a little worse up close because of her skin, but it's not a huge deal to me.
I managed to talk to her in the class last week. She's very reserved, but I could tell she's into me based on how she looks at me, the questions she asks me, and the compliments she gives me.
I want to get her to my place to practice the dance more and possibly do other things. I've been seeding the idea by saying that I need a partner to practice with.
I've been unable to pull the trigger though. We don't have much time to talk during the class, and she's the first one out the door when it ends, but those are just excuses. I just need to ask for the sale.
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I'll be going out tomorrow but with friends. Two of the girls like me, but I'm not risking pursing them because I see them all the time.
When I go back to going out next week, I won't be going out every night until I feel like I'm able to put more effort into a single night out. Going out every night is a good experience, but if I'm not out there pushing every night, then being tired the next day isn't worth it.