[DRE]

Hey guys, recently decided to start seeing fewer women for MLTRs as opposed to trying to have random sex all the time. I am still open to random sex but will be pursuing it, just not all of the time. I currently have put 2 women on rotation and they are polar opposites. I have been seeing each for about 3-4 weeks but wanted some honest feedback on one of them from the forum. I am 30 yo for the record.

1. The first girl - 23 yo, yoga instructor who is in phenomenal shape. Has been very honest about her sexual past and has been promiscuous previously (concerning). When I asked about cheating on exes, she noted that in HS she made out with another guy while in a relationship and it ruined her relationship. She was also seeing a very religious guy at one point and did not have sex for a very extended period of time (about a year according to her). She has been very honest to this point in time, so I am inclined to believe her. When the topic came up of seeing other people, I admitted I was seeing someone else. She stated she is not and has no desire to. She seemed a bit sad when she found out I was seeing someone else. She has stated her desire to see me exclusively. She has deleted her tinder since we met, bought me a Christmas gift, and paid for a $100+ dinner we had the other night even though I offered to split it. She has a very high sex drive. She is also very busy with work and school.

The other girl is a small town chick, 25 yo, more traditional and conservative. Certainly less sexually experienced but also less exciting overall. She is very pretty and has a very nice body also (though not quite what the yoga instructor's is).

I honestly like girl 1 more. I am more attracted to her and she is great in bed. My concern is that both girls are going to try to get me to commit in the near future. Girl 1 has some red flags for sure, including her sexual history and her high sex drive. I am concerned that even though she seems very dedicated and has treated me very well, her sexual history and very high libido will lend itself to her cheating down the road should I get into something more serious. She surely gets hit on a lot I am sure so there is plenty of opportunity to cheat. Anyone with any real life experience with a chick like this? I do not mean in terms of pump and dump but in terms of something more long term. How did it end up for you? Thanks!

TL;DNR: Seeing 2 girls. One is previously promiscuous and high sex drive though has treated me very well and is seeing nobody else. Has stated she wants me to be exclusive with her. Like her more than the other and considering agreeing to it after the New Year. Looking for feedback from anyone who has previously dated a chick with a promiscuous sexual history and high sex drive and how it ended up for you (cheating vs not? chick getting bored of just one dick? etc). Thanks!

[kaotic]

(12-23-2016 03:45 PM)DRE Wrote:  

Hey guys, recently decided to start seeing fewer women for MLTRs as opposed to trying to have random sex all the time. I am still open to random sex but will be pursuing it, just not all of the time. I currently have put 2 women on rotation and they are polar opposites. I have been seeing each for about 3-4 weeks but wanted some honest feedback on one of them from the forum. I am 30 yo for the record.

Some guys don't want to sleep randoms and enjoy just 1 woman or a few at the most - that's totally fine.

You're 30 man, you've got nothing to worry about, you're hardly at your peak yet.

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1. The first girl - 23 yo, yoga instructor who is in phenomenal shape. Has been very honest about her sexual past and has been promiscuous previously (concerning). When I asked about cheating on exes, she noted that in HS she made out with another guy while in a relationship and it ruined her relationship. She was also seeing a very religious guy at one point and did not have sex for a very extended period of time (about a year according to her). She has been very honest to this point in time, so I am inclined to believe her. When the topic came up of seeing other people, I admitted I was seeing someone else. She stated she is not and has no desire to. She seemed a bit sad when she found out I was seeing someone else. She has stated her desire to see me exclusively. She has deleted her tinder since we met, bought me a Christmas gift, and paid for a $100+ dinner we had the other night even though I offered to split it. She has a very high sex drive. She is also very busy with work and school.

It's pretty clear here the sex and her banging body are leading factors with her, you obviously have some gut check issues since she had a possible shady history.

Just keep in mind, you met her on Tinder of all places.

Secondly, you shouldn't of revealed your cards to her, and told her you were seeing anyone, at least just not yet.

Remember it's only been a MONTH. This hardly counts as mini LTR area.

I also wouldn't consider her LTR material, maybe mini LTR material.

Basically she's a fun girl to be around and bang.

If you enjoy being with her that's cool to continue things, but on your own terms.

She wants exclusivity, she needs to earn it.

You need to tell her that it's way too soon and we should just roll with it and see where things take us.

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The other girl is a small town chick, 25 yo, more traditional and conservative. Certainly less sexually experienced but also less exciting overall. She is very pretty and has a very nice body also (though not quite what the yoga instructor's is).

She's seems like more LTR material than Girl 1, sexual experience can be learned, but YOU have to be her guide.

Where did you meet this girl ?

It looks like overall you have player problems.

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I honestly like girl 1 more. I am more attracted to her and she is great in bed. My concern is that both girls are going to try to get me to commit in the near future. Girl 1 has some red flags for sure, including her sexual history and her high sex drive. I am concerned that even though she seems very dedicated and has treated me very well, her sexual history and very high libido will lend itself to her cheating down the road should I get into something more serious. She surely gets hit on a lot I am sure so there is plenty of opportunity to cheat. Anyone with any real life experience with a chick like this? I do not mean in terms of pump and dump but in terms of something more long term. How did it end up for you? Thanks!

You're right, you're seeing Girl 1 for what she is, promiscuity, high sex drive, met her on a dating app, etc.


I'll tell you flat out what the sociopath me thinks.

Date both girls at the same time - why not have the best of both worlds?

Some guys will say that's horrible advice but I'm going against the grain, you like both girls at this point and time, so why not enjoy them.

Swinging back to my point about playing all your cards, with Girl 1 you've already said you're seeing someone else and she wants exclusivity.

I have a feeling you might let her go in order not to hurt her, and you're trusting your gut.

I had a main girl for almost 2 years, constantly banged on the side, and actually had 2 mini relationships.

That's me, it's not for the light of heart, I truly enjoyed the women I was with especially my main girl.

What I also see lacking is some insecurities, especially about Girl 1 cheating, you have to lead that relationship, fuck the shit out of her enough and often to keep her pussy purring for you.

With Girl 2 I see more potential of her being more submissive for you and being able for her to match your sex drive and a possible LTR.


I'm not sure if you'll be able to handle the sociopath side of things when it comes to juggling these two women, then I'd go with Girl 2.

Part of me is still "nice guy" where if I don't wanna burn a girl, I'd let her go when things took a turn for the serious.

Always trust your gut.

[TornadoByProxy]

Yoga chick.

You're not marrying either one and you seem to like the drama with her.

[DRE]

Thanks for the replies. I appreciate them.

I have no problem taking on multiple chicks at once and this is actually my MO typically. The reason I revealed I was seeing other chicks is because she asked me flat out. I am at a point where I do not need to lie for game and am very open and honest when asked questions about my life. I do not enjoy hurting women, as I have done this several times in the past and it is not for me. For the record, I am not looking to get married yet but do want a family at some point in the future. I only date women 25 and under at this time. I have no qualms in seeing 2 or even 3 chicks at once as long as I am open about it if questioned. More than 3 I find hard to juggle for an extended period of time.

Nonetheless, I think in the coming weeks to months she will push harder for exclusivity (though we shall see I guess). I am just trying to think ahead. Considering the way she treats me now, which is very well, I would consider seeing just her at some point in the future. I know there was a previous thread regarding if you can accept a sexual past of a chick. My thread, however, is leaning more towards not whether or not you can accept it, but whether or not chicks like this are trustworthy, especially if they have very high sex drives. My previous girlfriends all had fewer than 5 total partners, myself included. Maybe this is one of those "it varies by person" things. We do have fantastic sex, but maybe the best plan of action is just to see how things go over the next month to 3 months before making any commitments.

[LeoneVolpe]

(12-23-2016 04:25 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(12-23-2016 03:45 PM)DRE Wrote:  

Hey guys, recently decided to start seeing fewer women for MLTRs as opposed to trying to have random sex all the time. I am still open to random sex but will be pursuing it, just not all of the time. I currently have put 2 women on rotation and they are polar opposites. I have been seeing each for about 3-4 weeks but wanted some honest feedback on one of them from the forum. I am 30 yo for the record.

Some guys don't want to sleep randoms and enjoy just 1 woman or a few at the most - that's totally fine.

You're 30 man, you've got nothing to worry about, you're hardly at your peak yet.

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1. The first girl - 23 yo, yoga instructor who is in phenomenal shape. Has been very honest about her sexual past and has been promiscuous previously (concerning). When I asked about cheating on exes, she noted that in HS she made out with another guy while in a relationship and it ruined her relationship. She was also seeing a very religious guy at one point and did not have sex for a very extended period of time (about a year according to her). She has been very honest to this point in time, so I am inclined to believe her. When the topic came up of seeing other people, I admitted I was seeing someone else. She stated she is not and has no desire to. She seemed a bit sad when she found out I was seeing someone else. She has stated her desire to see me exclusively. She has deleted her tinder since we met, bought me a Christmas gift, and paid for a $100+ dinner we had the other night even though I offered to split it. She has a very high sex drive. She is also very busy with work and school.

It's pretty clear here the sex and her banging body are leading factors with her, you obviously have some gut check issues since she had a possible shady history.

Just keep in mind, you met her on Tinder of all places.

Secondly, you shouldn't of revealed your cards to her, and told her you were seeing anyone, at least just not yet.

Remember it's only been a MONTH. This hardly counts as mini LTR area.

I also wouldn't consider her LTR material, maybe mini LTR material.

Basically she's a fun girl to be around and bang.

If you enjoy being with her that's cool to continue things, but on your own terms.

She wants exclusivity, she needs to earn it.

You need to tell her that it's way too soon and we should just roll with it and see where things take us.

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The other girl is a small town chick, 25 yo, more traditional and conservative. Certainly less sexually experienced but also less exciting overall. She is very pretty and has a very nice body also (though not quite what the yoga instructor's is).

She's seems like more LTR material than Girl 1, sexual experience can be learned, but YOU have to be her guide.

Where did you meet this girl ?

It looks like overall you have player problems.

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I honestly like girl 1 more. I am more attracted to her and she is great in bed. My concern is that both girls are going to try to get me to commit in the near future. Girl 1 has some red flags for sure, including her sexual history and her high sex drive. I am concerned that even though she seems very dedicated and has treated me very well, her sexual history and very high libido will lend itself to her cheating down the road should I get into something more serious. She surely gets hit on a lot I am sure so there is plenty of opportunity to cheat. Anyone with any real life experience with a chick like this? I do not mean in terms of pump and dump but in terms of something more long term. How did it end up for you? Thanks!

You're right, you're seeing Girl 1 for what she is, promiscuity, high sex drive, met her on a dating app, etc.


I'll tell you flat out what the sociopath me thinks.

Date both girls at the same time - why not have the best of both worlds?

Some guys will say that's horrible advice but I'm going against the grain, you like both girls at this point and time, so why not enjoy them.

Swinging back to my point about playing all your cards, with Girl 1 you've already said you're seeing someone else and she wants exclusivity.

I have a feeling you might let her go in order not to hurt her, and you're trusting your gut.

I had a main girl for almost 2 years, constantly banged on the side, and actually had 2 mini relationships.

That's me, it's not for the light of heart, I truly enjoyed the women I was with especially my main girl.

What I also see lacking is some insecurities, especially about Girl 1 cheating, you have to lead that relationship, fuck the shit out of her enough and often to keep her pussy purring for you.

With Girl 2 I see more potential of her being more submissive for you and being able for her to match your sex drive and a possible LTR.


I'm not sure if you'll be able to handle the sociopath side of things when it comes to juggling these two women, then I'd go with Girl 2.

Part of me is still "nice guy" where if I don't wanna burn a girl, I'd let her go when things took a turn for the serious.

Always trust your gut.

^ Solid post! I have a feeling kaotic and I were cut from the same cloth. I say keep seeing both for as long as you can get away with it. Neither prospect is completely solid -- Girl #1 is more attractive, but has more red flags. Girl #2 sounds like the safer choice, but obviously you're not as into her. Girl #1 is probably more likely to cheat on you than Girl #2, but you're more likely to cheat on Girl #2 than Girl #1 since you're more into #1.

As I said before, since neither prospect is completely solid, I'd keep seeing them both. Then, you're getting the best of both worlds, like kaotic said. There's no reason to feel any guilt for it, either. Nowhere in your story did I read anything about anyone having a ring on their finger -- not that I'd necessarily let that stop me, either but still. You know what I'm getting at.

[kaotic]

(12-23-2016 05:08 PM)DRE Wrote:  

Nonetheless, I think in the coming weeks to months she will push harder for exclusivity (though we shall see I guess). I am just trying to think ahead. Considering the way she treats me now, which is very well, I would consider seeing just her at some point in the future. I know there was a previous thread regarding if you can accept a sexual past of a chick. My thread, however, is leaning more towards not whether or not you can accept it, but whether or not chicks like this are trustworthy, especially if they have very high sex drives. My previous girlfriends all had fewer than 5 total partners, myself included. Maybe this is one of those "it varies by person" things. We do have fantastic sex, but maybe the best plan of action is just to see how things go over the next month to 3 months before making any commitments.

With this summary, I think Tornado pegged you with Yoga girl.

I think he's right - you enjoy the semi conflict you got going.

You aren't trying to marry or LTR these girls - so have your fun with Yoga girl then - you can keep Conservative girl as a back up.

I think you'll probably get bored with Conservative after awhile - while Yoga girl will keep your game sharp.