[DRE]

Hey all, just curious how you all feel about post-sex cuddling and letting a chick stay over. I know this thread has been talked about previously and I did see Heartiste article about leaving after sex (or kicking her out after sex) and it has made me question if there is something I am missing.

In the past, if I were to bang a chick I had no interest in, this is exactly what I would do. At this point, however, I try to (for the most part) only bang chicks that I like being around and do not mind spending time with. Because of this, I typically will allow them to stay over if they feel the desire. If they want to go home, I let them do that also. The main benefit for staying over is more sex throughout the night and possibly in the AM. I guess I never really thought too hard about this part of game, as I have spent most of my time trying to get the bang. A few questions for you guys. In these cases, assume you want to see the chick again and keep her in a rotation. If you do not want to see her again, the answer is easy (and truly does not matter).

1. Do you cuddle/allow her to stay over if she wants to?
- If I do this, I will allow her to rest her head on my chest if she desires but do not push to cuddle if she does not make an effort. Would there be some benefit to denying her this?

2. If yes to question 1, do you have any specific "game" that you spit during this time period? I know post-sex is a time when you can usually have some pretty meaningful conversations with women since defense is down or nonexistent.

[kaotic]

Honestly man, after reading about people telling me what to do back and forth, I just said fuck it, you should do what you want, and you can also let the girl figure out what she wants to do.

You should be surrounding yourself with women you enjoy, that compliment your life, and are of good quality.

That being said:

1. Yes she can stay over and chill, you don't need to tell her to stay over.

But don't act all needy like, if she wants to cuddle great, if not, and just lay on your chest or your arm around you that's fine also.

Some girls cling to you like white on rice
Some girls want to just their head on you
Some girls want you to hold them
Some girls only want it for a few minutes, some for an hour
Some girls don't want that at all

I don't know if there is a benefit or not of denying her this, you banged, you won so it doesn't matter.

2. I usually ask her why she decided to hook up with me, what she dug about me, it really helps hone in your skills with other women. I don't pretend to try and have deep meaningful convos with them, that's why I come on RVF for.

I just enjoy their company and the warmth of their body. I'm not afraid to say I love being able to lay in bed with women after sex and just enjoy that.

EDIT: Did I mention the morning bang ?

That shit puts me in such a good mood all day - and I've gotten texts from girls that me banging them out put them in a good mood all day.

[Mufasa]

(12-09-2016 01:30 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Honestly man, after reading about people telling me what to do back and forth, I just said fuck it, you should do what you want, and you can also let the girl figure out what she wants to do.

Agreed.
I'm a cuddler through and through. Out of all of the girls I've been with only one wasn't--said she hated the sound of heart beats...



..Anyway like its said by Dante Nero "put your happiness first." If you want to cuddle then cuddle; plus girls want to be led anyway.

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I don't know if there is a benefit or not of denying her this, you banged, you won so it doesn't matter.

2. I usually ask her why she decided to hook up with me, what she dug about me, it really helps hone in your skills with other women. I don't pretend to try and have deep meaningful convos with them, that's why I come on RVF for.

True that. In the past after the bang--especially if I made her come--girls tended to give me leeway on beta behaviors that would slip through my frame. Like kaotic said you've already won--just don't do any needy shit.

But if the choice did matter I would say revert to whatever your established frame is. If your frame is that of a man that does what he wants do what you want.
If its an asshole that just fucks and chucks her fuck and chuck her etc.

[UlteriorMotive]

(12-09-2016 10:20 AM)DRE Wrote:  

1. Do you cuddle/allow her to stay over if she wants to?

2. If yes to question 1, do you have any specific "game" that you spit during this time period?

1. If I don't have plans before 12 the next day I don't care if she stays over, I will ask her to make me a coffee / grab the mail in the morning though as a tester.

I'll wrap my arm around her, if she wants to hug for a bit I'm cool with that but eventually I'll turn around and spread out to get some sleep.

I've found in the past that the chicks that I fall asleep the easiest next to are the ones that I end up enjoying time with the most.

2. Not really, I won't say much to be honest. I get a bit short tempered when I'm in need of sleep so it'll usually just be casual talk -> sleep.

[LikeABaller]

I think its plain rude to tell a girl to go home after fucking her. What I do is if I don't want her to stay over, I come up with a BS excuse that will force me to leave the house. I message my brother asking him to call me about some BS family emergency, works like a charm everytiime. Always have some friend on standby whos wililng to fake a call for you.

[kaotic]

(12-09-2016 03:11 PM)LikeABaller Wrote:  

I think its plain rude to tell a girl to go home after fucking her. What I do is if I don't want her to stay over, I come up with a BS excuse that will force me to leave the house. I message my brother asking him to call me about some BS family emergency, works like a charm everytiime. Always have some friend on standby whos wililng to fake a call for you.

No need to come up with a BS excuse. No need to fake call.

"I have work in the morning"
"I'm going to bed"
"I have to be up early in the morning"
"I'll walk you out"

Simple, honest, and straight to the point.

[DRE]

Kaotic, I basically agree with everything you say and pretty much stick to this formula. The one thing which I do not do, but will start doing now, is the 2nd part where you mention asking why she decided to meat up. That seems like a solid question that can only help you with other chicks in the future. Thank you for the reply.

[kaotic]

No worries man, and when I met by that, it's not "why did you meet up with me" it's basically "why or when did you decide to sleep with me" (not in those direct words)

Basic scenario:

-Bang-
-Wash Up-
-Lay back down-

Well that was fun, I totally didn't expect that lol

blah blah blah

Well I'm glad we did, what made you want to do that with me ? OR when did you decide you wanted to do that with me?

"Do that" implying sex

[DRE]

(12-09-2016 04:27 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

No worries man, and when I met by that, it's not "why did you meet up with me" it's basically "why or when did you decide to sleep with me" (not in those direct words)

Basic scenario:

-Bang-
-Wash Up-
-Lay back down-

Well that was fun, I totally didn't expect that lol

blah blah blah

Well I'm glad we did, what made you want to do that with me ? OR when did you decide you wanted to do that with me?

"Do that" implying sex

Oh yeah, I understood was you were saying. Sorry, should have been clearer. The spelling of meat was intentional in my post. Hence, "meat up", not "meet up".

[Rico Ramon]

After sex, I'll give them a few kisses and then turn away as I've usually worked up a sweat and ask her to to give me a massage
(rub my shoulders, back and ass) I've done most the work now its time you pamper me and rub me to sleep.

[LeoneVolpe]

   

I kid, I kid. I'm sure I do the same things as most: Lie there for a bit, go piss/wash up, come back and talk up the sex.

[DonnyGately]

Post-coital cuddling is fine, even enjoyable. Often they are the ones that spill their guts, about me or men, I steer it to what they like in bed, their fantasies, what they never tell anyone they really want.

New chicks can never stay over. Most plates know I am a poor sleeper and I'll uber their ass home. If they are visiting then of course they can stay.

[Lexington Patrick]

Sex is just round 1. I use the aftermath time to spit philosophy, get deeper with her and then go for round 2. I'll then lock her in for a breakfast date. I only have sex with women I want to see again after I wake up.