Hi RVFers,
I've never posted an analysis on any particular date, so here's one I had last night that I thought didn't go as well as I'd imagined.
About the chick. 21 y/o, Asian
Rough stats about the date:
- Met through online on Tinder, had a brief exchange about our profiles and organised a meet up
- Started at a quiet bar for some comfort building, to a more enclosed bar for kino and a pool bar for even more kino. Ended up playing a game of pool and "losing", so I could show her around my office. She was open to small bursts of kino but wasn't very receptive to any hand holding (might dial that down a bit).
- Figured I couldn't bang close this one, so I went for a kiss close. Met a lot of resistance. Eventually I got bored and dropped her off home.
- On the way home I turned more silent/stoic with her attempting to reignite the conversation throughout the ride. Tried one more time after dropping her off but had to settle for a peck on the cheek. Played it off with some playful hahas and went home to hit the hay. Was a little peeved since most dates had a make out at some point. Haven't texted her since.
What I think I did well?
- Kino and physical escalation (maybe not so much on the hand holding part - too couply?)
- Asserted a good IDGAF attitude and pretty much A&Aed all her shit tests
- Gave off an "adventurous/naughty" vibe as she described it
- Played a lot of compliance tests: like telling her to get me drink, etc which she did
EDIT: outstared her every single time
What I think I didn't do so well in?
- Gave her too much information about myself (or is this over-analysis)
- Kind of put myself in the boyfriend zone? At the point we left the office venue, I was considering taking her to a taxi but decided to go with the drop off
One strange thing about the date was towards the end, where we were talking about childhood similarities and she was sharing her growing up (quite similar to me, boarding school -> language school -> etc). Honestly, I'm not sure if that is a pro or a con at this stage haha.
I wouldn't normally consider a second date but the chemistry was good and I think I can push for more in a second date. I don't get strong slut-vibes off this girl but at the same time, I would not be surprised if she was entangled with another guy (this is online dating after all).
What do you guys think? Should I next this girl or suggest a meet-up in the coming week? Going into a second date is almost like sailing into uncharted waters for me, any advice or criticisms on my game would much appreciated!
I've never posted an analysis on any particular date, so here's one I had last night that I thought didn't go as well as I'd imagined.
About the chick. 21 y/o, Asian
Rough stats about the date:
- Met through online on Tinder, had a brief exchange about our profiles and organised a meet up
- Started at a quiet bar for some comfort building, to a more enclosed bar for kino and a pool bar for even more kino. Ended up playing a game of pool and "losing", so I could show her around my office. She was open to small bursts of kino but wasn't very receptive to any hand holding (might dial that down a bit).
- Figured I couldn't bang close this one, so I went for a kiss close. Met a lot of resistance. Eventually I got bored and dropped her off home.
- On the way home I turned more silent/stoic with her attempting to reignite the conversation throughout the ride. Tried one more time after dropping her off but had to settle for a peck on the cheek. Played it off with some playful hahas and went home to hit the hay. Was a little peeved since most dates had a make out at some point. Haven't texted her since.
What I think I did well?
- Kino and physical escalation (maybe not so much on the hand holding part - too couply?)
- Asserted a good IDGAF attitude and pretty much A&Aed all her shit tests
- Gave off an "adventurous/naughty" vibe as she described it
- Played a lot of compliance tests: like telling her to get me drink, etc which she did
EDIT: outstared her every single time
What I think I didn't do so well in?
- Gave her too much information about myself (or is this over-analysis)
- Kind of put myself in the boyfriend zone? At the point we left the office venue, I was considering taking her to a taxi but decided to go with the drop off
One strange thing about the date was towards the end, where we were talking about childhood similarities and she was sharing her growing up (quite similar to me, boarding school -> language school -> etc). Honestly, I'm not sure if that is a pro or a con at this stage haha.
I wouldn't normally consider a second date but the chemistry was good and I think I can push for more in a second date. I don't get strong slut-vibes off this girl but at the same time, I would not be surprised if she was entangled with another guy (this is online dating after all).
What do you guys think? Should I next this girl or suggest a meet-up in the coming week? Going into a second date is almost like sailing into uncharted waters for me, any advice or criticisms on my game would much appreciated!