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I find myself constantly looking for good posts that explains game in a way that makes it click in some area of game. Things like conversation, body language, humor etc. Compiling all of your favorite posts in one thread would be amazing for all new comers to the forum. So what are some of your favorite game-related posts that helped you?

I'll start!

One post that helped me tremendously was a response to a thread of my own by germanico, where he summarised many of the essentials to self improvement and getting into the right mindset of game.

(01-15-2016 01:41 PM)germanico Wrote:  

(01-15-2016 01:30 AM)MiscBrah Wrote:  

You're not getting invited to parties/events because youre not interesting or fun.

You are not getting invited to parties because you dont socialize. Talk to people, yes, even nerds and outcasts. You might think that the "in" crowd, the one everyone hates but secretly wants to be in will shun you if you are friends with the awkward lot. You will see you are mistaken. And even if they did, guess who will have the largest and most loyal tribe? You.

You are 16. Realize than nothing, none, of the things you worry about and suffer about in high school will matter in 10 years. So have fun. Do what you want to do.

If its not noticeable and doesnt affects you mobility, why worry about scoliosis? Ask the doctor for an X ray, you will see its not a big deal. And even if it where, why should you care? You are not your spine.

Advice from my 36 yo self to my 16 year old self:

-Never waste any opportunity to do any social activities. You have no idea how many parties I missed because "I wasnt feeling like it". Just be there. Even if its just to say hello, mope around for 2 minutes and leave, being there is better than staying at home.

-All that people around you having a great time, laughing and smiling? they are as miserable if not more that you. Its called being a teenager. Your pain and disconfort is not special, everyone has their own brand of it. Realize that a) they all feel inadequate. b) you wont feel like that forever. 10 years from now you will laugh at your current self. If you can see that, you will be the most mentally powerful kid in your school.

- Exercise. I hated sports or any other physical activity when I was that age. if you hate team sports like I did, take up jogging. Even once or twice a week will do it. Its free, its a great exercise that keeps you in great condition, and serves as active meditation. For an hour or two while you are running it will be just you and your thoughts.

- Make some money for yourself. Doesnt matter how much, dont look for the magic formula. Earning as much as 1 dollar is a great lesson. Flip some shit on Ebay or make a blog.

- Girls. Dont worry if you dont have any. Focus on building the mindset and attitude that will allow you to have a satisfactory (whatever you consider satisfactory) sexual and romantic life later on.

- Get a car if you dont have one. If you do, dont worry about the type of car, as long as you keep it in good working order. This car will allow you to come and go and travel. If you happen to have a shitty car (I had a white VW bug with stained seats and dented bumpers) and someone gives you shit for it (someone will eventually) OWN it. Dont say shit back, its never worth it. Just smile and tell them you bought it on Craigslist for $5 or whatever sounds silly. We all wanted the brand new Mustang the spoiled rich kid in school had. The VW will get you just as far when you give her a ride home after that party but she doesnt wants to end the night just yet.

- Avoid online porn or use sparingly. Check the VR porn thread here to see why.

- Stand out. If you cant be outstanding, then be unique. Wear different clothes than the rest. Check magazines like Esquire or GQ and then search thrift shops for similar things. Make it a point to never buy anything except maybe underwear or socks from department stores. We the introvert/nerdy/awkward bunch have been trained since grade school to be invisible. Untrain yourself.

- Expand your musical horizons. The world has given us the best tool so far to discovering new music: Youtube. The 90s when I was a teen where a great time for music but unless it was on the radio or you had some cool friend you could tape records from, you wouldnt know it existed. Then came Napster, which was good, but then again, unless you knew what you where looking for you wouldnt find it. Listen to everything. Even if you dont like it, listen to it once.

- Spend time with manly men doing manly stuff. Go camping with your older cousins or help your dad rebuild an engine. You dont give any detail about your particular family situation but figure something out.

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I just found that I have nothing to talk about with not just girls but people in general.

Guess what. They dont either. I used to read a lot. I devoured any book I came across at 16. You have the Internet. Go crazy. You will be the most interesting man in the room.

- Talking to girls will be hard and will make you feel stupid and inadequate. That will be just the way you feel and not representative of the reality. Join as many extracurricular activities as you reasonably can in school where there will be girls (ie: not the chess club) where you WILL be forced to interact with them. Be cool and friendly, talk to them all and dont make anything out of it. See it as "social practice", that way you will feel less awkward when you actually talk to a girl you are actually attracted to.

- There will be hard painful lessons. You will have women cheating on you, trying to use you for their advantage, step over you, mock you, or steal from you. It will hurt more than anything you felt before. But if you dont experience something like that at some point, you are simply not living. Let the hurt run its course, it eventually will, and move on. No regrets, no bitterness. Learn whatever lesson there is to be learned and move on to the next lesson.

Another thread that helped me was this one thread-6078.html

Seeing how you guys interact with girls and what kind of jokes you pulled helped me understand what kind of jokes girls like.

I had another one that explained basically how to give less fucks about what happens right now, I don't remember where that post was though. It was something about how in 10 years from now, I'll look back at this and just laugh at how awkward things were. Really made things click for me, helped my self esteem alot.

I'm sure I had a few others but I'm tired and wanted to make this post before I go to bed so I can see your replies in the morning when I wake up.

So what are some of your favorite game-related posts that helped you?