[bradz]

Hey guys -
First off I realize some will take offense. If that's you go ahead and skip this thread.
Ok while it's another "what would you do?" this one is a little different than most.
I'll skip the rationale regarding why (other than my innate desire for fresh, younger pussy) but here's the logistics-
You have an evening / night to do what you want. You are a good looking man in your early 40s ( who evetybody says looks about 8-10 yrs younger)
You live 15 minutes from a private university with a fairly wealthy student body. And you live 45 minutes from a large state school.
You also live 10 minutes from a fairly vibrant downtown scene.
But none of your select core of wingmen are available to go out. The reality is the crowded bar scene is no longer fun so just going out and rolling solo isn't an attractive option. Want something less forced, more laid back. Also - you can't bring a girl back to your home.

What do you do to find some strange?

[XPQ22]

Install Tinder, OKCupid, POF on a burner phone. Put up some good photos and write up a brief cocky/funny profile. Set your age to around 31-33, and your location to be someplace nearby that's more like 30 minutes away from the large state school. Not right on top of it. And certainly not your hometown.

If there are "match" questions on a particular site like OKCupid, fill out around 100-150 of them. You can do that in about 30 minutes, and it makes it look more like you're just a "regular" looking for romance and not...well.

Tuesday or Wednesday rolls around and you start scanning profiles and sending openers to girls in the vicinity of the large state school; there'll likely be quite a few girls in their early to mid 20s who have their outside age range set to early 30s. Don't spam "Hey how are you" to 200 girls, quickly scan the profile and only open the ones who seem "open minded" and chill.

You're looking for girls that are young enough to satisfy you, but old enough such that they hopefully have their own place and aren't living at home or in a dorm.

Send no fewer than 50 openers on each app. If you've got good pics and profile you may get around 15-20 replies total. Most of those will be flakey, so screen hard for the ones that don't seem particularly interested. If you're lucky by the time the weekend rolls around you'll have one or two solid leads willing to meet up. Yep, it's a lot of work for a couple leads, but that's the breaks of hitting up younger chicks on the apps in November.

Offer to meet up near her - girls are lazy and almost always agreeable to that. Do a little research, pick a venue where you're not going to end up on a dinner date sitting across from her, like a bowling alley with a bar or something. If it's going good and she seems to like you, escalate physically in the venue a little bit through appropriate touching, but don't go all in in public. If it's going really good, see if she wants to bounce to another place.

Close in your car if you have to, or if she's climbing over the seat to get at you, just be honest and say you feel a little exposed and would like to take it somewhere more private. If you've set up the logistics proper, her place should be no more than 10 minutes away.

It seems like an impossible chain of circumstance when you read it in text, but I've had the script play out exactly that way around a half-dozen times in the past year. I'm not married so I can be a little freer with my game, but did any of these girls at any point question me deeply about my relationship status or prior history? No, they didn't.

It's not impossible, but to pull it off the first time out will also likely require a stroke of good luck as well. You pays your money and you takes your chances.

Deactivate and uninstall everything as soon as possible afterwards.

[BoneDaddy]

XPQ has dropped some gold.

Consider this as an additional option - you mention being near a vibrant downtown scene. Think about the convention/conference scene in your area.

Here's an old post with my take on that option:

thread-9166-...#pid135741

Edited spelling.

[John_Galt]

Make sure:

She doesn't have your real phone number.

She doesn't live near you.

She doesn't have your real name.

She doesn't know where you live.

You have no friends in common.

No photos are taken.

Have your clothes washed immediately after you're done.

Take a shower before you go to bed. This is so there no potential leftover scent or something.

And make damn sure you don't seem to happy when she comes back. Women can sense that shit.

[eradicator]

Check the seeking arrangement threads. This will require getting a hotel and lying to the girls.

Set up your account that you are looking for a traditional sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement, a lot of the girls will just message you. Meet them for a drink in a hotel bar, tell them that this night is essentially their audition, you have had a lot of responses from girls on the site and will only sponsor one of them. Be clear that you will pay them nothing that night, but if you like them and pick them for the arrangement, then you will start a cash allowance through paypal before the second meeting.

There will never be a second meeting, delete your accounts as soon as you are done banging for the weekend. Also be sure to use a burner phone or google voice, do NOT use your real phone number or give your real name. You do not want these girls knowing your real address or number or name.

[Svoboda]

(11-05-2016 04:14 PM)John_Galt Wrote:  

And make damn sure you don't seem to happy when she comes back. Women can sense that shit.

[Mentavious]

I wonder if she's doing the same thing? Lol

[Rawmeo]

Pretty much everything has been said here. Use a burner phone, set a Tinder profile, spoof your location to around 20 minutes from where you are, and bring girls to your place. I don't have the tightest game here, but one thing I'm an expert at is cheating without getting caught.

Take PICTURES of how your wife's stuff is placed in your house, hide it when you bring a girl, and put it back in place RIGHT after the girl leaves. Why? Because wifey might come back earlier and see that her stuff is gone. Pretty hard to come up with a plausible reason. Then delete the pictures.

- Clean any hair in the shower or in the bed
- Used condoms go in the dumpster outside. Girls can smell the cum outside the gargage can in the kitchen.
- Clean glasses that girls took, to erase lip marks
- Use your imagination to erase every possible proof of the girl coming.

You should use an app like Hushed to get a burner number to avoid getting a girl calling you at the wrong moment. Delete your tinder profile as soon as you are done with girls, and pray that your wife doesn't do the same and finds you on tinder.

Good luck.

[jbo]

(11-05-2016 10:09 AM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

Put up some good photos

This calls for trouble; the last thing you want to do in such a situation is post your real pictures online and get caught; if not by the misses, then by a girl who knows you.

[ksbms]

(11-05-2016 04:14 PM)John_Galt Wrote:  

Make sure:

She doesn't have your real phone number.

She doesn't live near you.

She doesn't have your real name.

She doesn't know where you live.

You have no friends in common.

No photos are taken.

Have your clothes washed immediately after you're done.

Take a shower before you go to bed. This is so there no potential leftover scent or something.

And make damn sure you don't seem to happy when she comes back. Women can sense that shit.

I'd rather have a beer and a sandwich and watch my telly than go to such lengths to get some pussy...

[Sam Malone]

(11-06-2016 10:22 AM)Mentavious Wrote:  

I wonder if she's doing the same thing? Lol

[John_Galt]

(11-06-2016 02:46 PM)ksbms Wrote:  

(11-05-2016 04:14 PM)John_Galt Wrote:  

Make sure:

She doesn't have your real phone number.

She doesn't live near you.

She doesn't have your real name.

She doesn't know where you live.

You have no friends in common.

No photos are taken.

Have your clothes washed immediately after you're done.

Take a shower before you go to bed. This is so there no potential leftover scent or something.

And make damn sure you don't seem to happy when she comes back. Women can sense that shit.

I'd rather have a beer and a sandwich and watch my telly than go to such lengths to get some pussy...

Then that is your prerogative. I advise you avoid getting married or be ok with only fucking your wife. OP asked for advice for his situation, that is what we have given him.

[jabba]

I wouldn't trust women to comply with your affair. After recent events, it seems like this decision could haunt you with enormous negative drama to your life. They can change their mind at anytime and twist the facts against you. This is like asking a thief to watch your laptop at Starbucks while you take a marathon shit in the restroom.

Social media makes it easy to have unintended events backfire with the best laid plans. Divorce lawyers can unravel everything posted above. They're very motivated when they smell blood.

If you're planning to get a divorce anyway, then your mindset is YOLO. You're driving into a wall with no seatbelt.

If you still love her, then you could introduce an open relationship, etc...

[XPQ22]

(11-06-2016 02:34 PM)jbo Wrote:  

This calls for trouble; the last thing you want to do in such a situation is post your real pictures online and get caught; if not by the misses, then by a girl who knows you.

No, it's not a particularly great idea, but the whole sitch is not a particularly great idea to begin with.

The reality is that I think it's going to be very difficult, with only a few days to work with, for early 40s OP to roll into a college town on the weekend and daygame or night game a 20 something girl into the sack at her place on the first time out. I've been out essentially at least once a weekend most weeks for over a year, say 50 times, I'm in my mid 30s, operating under similar suburban "logistics problems" as the OP, and I've managed to pull a girl from a bar or club to her place twice as of the date of this post. And once I didn't get the bang. Granted, I wasn't always approaching like a monster every night, sometimes I wanted to just relax, and he may be in a more amenable area than the Northeast, but even for a regular here with I'd like to say, middling-level game, it's still no easy task.

A guy who's been married for years with limited direct approach experience? Unfortunately I gotta say barring a bolt from the blue stroke of good luck, he's gonna get eaten alive on the day/night game front.

Even online game will require some luck when operating under these time constraints, but I think it will be more at the level of winning $50 on a scratch ticket luck than hitting the Powerball luck. Unfortunately, however, good photos are a requisite part of the game there. I think the chances of the misses or one of her girlfriends spotting him on an online dating site are frankly remote, even if they were using the apps, from what I know of the way I've seen some girls use them these days women simply don't spend a lot of time browsing through men's profiles, they just wait for something interesting to turn up.

For a small fee, OKCupid offers "A-List", which includes the option for an "incognito" mode which only reveals your profile on the app to people you "like" or "message." Talk about trying to corner the DL market! That's always an option.

Sometimes I see random men listed along with the women, and I don't think they're necessarily hitting "female" instead of "male" on the gender options screen accidentally. They're keeping their profile buried among the girls for whatever reason. It's always plausibly deniable - "oops did I do that, what a dummy."

I'm not going to take a stance on the ethical issues of OP's question - perhaps he's in a DOA marriage and seeking sex elsewhere is in some sense justified, perhaps not. I'd prefer not to know. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, in which case I have to give him some props for trying to do things the "old fashioned" way. I think many guys would've simply hit up Backpages, or whatever the equivalent is now.

It's simply "what would you do" to a hypothetical situation, if I were in a similar position and decided to take the risk. It's completely up to him if he decides the risk is acceptable, and all obvious disclaimers of liability apply.

[iknowexactly]

And THROW AWAY THE RECEIPTS AS SOON AS YOU GET THEM for the burner phone.

I got busted for a receipt for something I bought for a date. She saw the receipt, and knew that the item described in the receipt was not in the house.