[mrganteng]

So there's a girl I met at tennis club and I found out later that we live in the same student accommodation block.

On the first meet we walked back home together (+her friend) and then next time we agreed to meet at the reception of the student accommodation and walk there together.

I feel like we have a connection but I don't really know her well enough to invite her to my room.

The ideal situation would be after tennis practice I say 'do you want to come round to my place a bit later?' But.. I really don't want to scare her off.

Maybe inviting her for a drink at the pub would be a better choice and then when we return I can invite her to my flat.

I know she's talking to other guys- this one guy in particularly who's a real player and I want to get things moving fast so I dont get stuck in the friend zone/ or she loses interest.

Any thoughts or advice would be great.

[Suits]

You pre-seed the conversation about something you want to show her/experience with her/do with her in your flat.

Could be a movie, a project that you've been working or a cocktail you want to make for her, a special recipe you want to cook up.

If you give her a reason, then if she's interested in you, she has plausible deniability when she comes back to your place.

Otherwise, she is forced to honest with herself and acknowledge that she's willingly placing herself in a position where sex could occur.

[fiveminrule]

Inviting her to a pub is a great idea, you will both be drinking and you already have a reason to walk home together afterwards. Be sure to have something to drink at your place already and like suits said pre seed it and then bring it up again as you get close to home.

[polymath]

What suits said. Plausible deniability.

You both will know what's up (I mean, she's not dumb), but the more of a rationalization you give her, the more comfortable she will be in your living space.

[WestIndianArchie]

I don't like this stalker/hunter mentality, but I understand it.

To pull this chick, you just need to be direct with her and not care if things are going to be awkward if she says no.

To pull this chick with GAME, you need to understand how the way that you're living your life currently makes trying to pull this girl hard as hell.

You do not have the foggiest idea of what it is we do here. You're seeking dating advice, and that's not what the better players here have to offer.

Lot of these dudes are going to give you dating advice, or tips on how to be a man.

If that's what you want to learn, then do that.

If it's game that you want, specify that.

WIA

[mrganteng]

(11-02-2016 05:34 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

I don't like this stalker/hunter mentality, but I understand it.

To pull this chick, you just need to be direct with her and not care if things are going to be awkward if she says no.

To pull this chick with GAME, you need to understand how the way that you're living your life currently makes trying to pull this girl hard as hell.

You do not have the foggiest idea of what it is we do here. You're seeking dating advice, and that's not what the better players here have to offer.

Lot of these dudes are going to give you dating advice, or tips on how to be a man.

If that's what you want to learn, then do that.

If it's game that you want, specify that.

WIA

WIA,

I fully understand what this forum is about.

I know i'm not a real 'player' or 'gamer' and that's why I posted in the newbie section.

That's what I'll do on the Thursday- I'm going to invite her for a drink at the pub escalating as much as possible before and throughout the meet.

I'm not looking to date this girl- I'm after a plate and therefor I don't really care too much on the outcome of this situation. Plenty more fish in the sea.

[WestIndianArchie]

I see that you are using the player lingo.
But the way you're going about it, is dating.

Your plan is to invite this girl out
Have drinks
Have sex

*Something goes here*

She becomes one of your spinning plates

What you don't seem to be clear on, is what needs to be said and done to make a girl that likes you and wants to be around you, be okay with a sex only relationship.

You want a player outcome, but you're approaching it like a regular guy.

The regular guy mindset and regular guy process will give you a regular guy outcome.

And that's fine, there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, given your current social conditioning, it's probably better than what I would suggest.

So stick with your current plan

WIA

[puckerman]

Can you offer her tennis lessons? I mean--and stand behind her and help her work on her grip of the racket. It's a way to escalate kino in a non-sexual way.