[torridon747]

I've been seeing this girl for a month and i'm considering keeping her. She is a pretty sweet traditional girl and i value her company.

I recently invited her over to my apartment for the first time and warned her that it was a bachelor pad with a house full of dudes. We had a good time did some domestic house stuff and she passed various tests i had preplanned for her. Simple stuff like finding something for me, doing my dishes when asked without backtalk, polite interaction with my friends. Maintaining a feminine frame the whole time which is imperative.

Though she was a little uncomfortable the whole time but didn't say anything. I could tell. I sent her a text to probe her for insecurity that simply said "So how shitty was my house for you". She replied with a wall of text thanking me for being hospital but said in order for her to return "the floor has to be swept and vacuumed and you need to fix your toilet situation".

I'm trying to set aside my feelings about this girl and look at the situation logically. While i think her demands are somewhat valid i do not, i repeat do not want this to set a precedence for future interaction. I do not do well with demands and the whole mentality that modern females seem to have about "gracing you with their presence". The only leverage she has to make demands is her value to me and her presence. I see it as a slippery slope.

I want to yield to her demand because it is reasonable and i want her to feel comfortable. However i do not wish to shift the balance of power especially this early. The only thing i can think of doing is to test her with a counter-demand. I feel it is too late to reframe the situation but i've been wrong before.

All in all i am lost and i need your guy's help. What should i do?

[General Stalin]

If your place is sloppy then clean it up. Shouldn't need a broad to tell your how to take care of your own living space.

Most people, especially females of "sweet traditional" nature as you say so yourself, are relatively non-confrontational so for her to actually take the opportunity to speak up about how your place needs some cleaning tells me you and your bros must live in a sty.

[RatInTheWoods]

Sounds like girl-banter about your sloppy male living conditions.

She is sort of signaling to you that she has higher standards og clean, and that she will make a good house keeper for you.

Thats a positive sign.

[torridon747]

Thanks gents, seems i just needed a "am i being the bitch" check.

[Carmichael Reid]

(10-12-2016 05:04 PM)Eugenics Wrote:  

Thanks gents, seems i just needed a "am i being the bitch" check.

Why are you letting her see your place? What does "keeping her" mean? This sounds like traces of early Oneitis to me.
Why are you asking her, her opinion on what she thinks of YOUR place?
Why are you texting her?
Don't move her in. Don't move in with her. The majority of guys aren't as strong as they think they are. This is an ultimate bitch move.
If you want a housekeeper, hire one, they are cheaper.

[torridon747]

(10-15-2016 03:36 PM)Carmichael Reid Wrote:  

(10-12-2016 05:04 PM)Eugenics Wrote:  

Thanks gents, seems i just needed a "am i being the bitch" check.

Why are you letting her see your place? 1What does "keeping her" mean? 2 This sounds like traces of early Oneitis to me.
Why are you asking her, her opinion on what she thinks of YOUR place? 3
Why are you texting her? 4
Don't move her in. Don't move in with her. The majority of guys aren't as strong as they think they are. This is an ultimate bitch move.
If you want a housekeeper, hire one, they are cheaper. 5

You might be in the wrong place.

This forum is about getting what you want out of women and using game to do it. I would like a nice traditional girl that doesn't take my resources, my dignity or a greedy amount of my time and so far it seems i'm on the right track. There's still a lot of qualification to be done. For the past month this girl has invited me over to her house, fed me, fucked well, and maintained proper feminine form while doing all of that. I haven't spent a single dime on her or even indicated that i ever will. This whole time i have actively been looking for a reason to disqualify her and she hasn't given me one. I've known a lot of women and so far this is the only one that has stood up my level of scrutiny.Most girls don't even make it a few days. Rest assured the moment she fails to do so; she might get a warning because of her past performance but after that she's out the door. That's how i treat everyone in my life; anyone who has any sense of self worth usually does the same.

You're not helping and asking me questions that are completely unrelated to my concerns. If you're here to imply liking a woman enough to keep her around is a bitch move i got some bad news for you.

If you want to be a psychologist go to school for it, don't just put question marks at the end of sentences and direct them t'word strangers on the internet.

I'm going to answer your questions just in case you might have something useful to say.


1. Her house is no longer available.
2. Keep her around until she fucks up.
3. Because she was uncomfortable and so far has not done me a single discourtesy yet
4. Because i want to and sometimes phone calls are too much just to say "send me a picture of your butt"
5. I didn't ask for your financial advice.

By the way i've since cleaned my house and recruited my roomate to help - which needed to be done anyway. As usual General Stalin had the right idea

[Carmichael Reid]

Here's some real estate advice. Moving a girl in with no home is a bad idea.

[torridon747]

Not even thinking about her moving in nor have i indicated otherwise. She recently moved outside the city and i do not want to drive that far. You're just trolling now and being disrespectful.

[Leonard D Neubache]

Advice for Carmichael Reid: State your piece and be done with it. Nobody here is interested in the 104th ranked dog getting into a tussle for the 103rd spot.

[John_Galt]

You should keep a clean place for you. No girl should need to tell you to keep your home clean.

Just like no girl should need to tell you to lose weight if you're getting fat. Work out for yourself.

Honestly man, if your place was such a mess that a woman called you out on it, that's a GOOD thing. She's classy and has standards.

What you DON'T want is a girl who sees your place looks like a tornado went through it and shrugs it off. Because that indicates that she feels a messy dirty place is normal. And as the saying goes, "If there's a mess on her floor, she's probably a whore."

Be grateful this girl has standards and take her advice. She sounds like a nice girl. Don't screw it up by acting like an asshole.