I've been seeing this girl for a month and i'm considering keeping her. She is a pretty sweet traditional girl and i value her company.
I recently invited her over to my apartment for the first time and warned her that it was a bachelor pad with a house full of dudes. We had a good time did some domestic house stuff and she passed various tests i had preplanned for her. Simple stuff like finding something for me, doing my dishes when asked without backtalk, polite interaction with my friends. Maintaining a feminine frame the whole time which is imperative.
Though she was a little uncomfortable the whole time but didn't say anything. I could tell. I sent her a text to probe her for insecurity that simply said "So how shitty was my house for you". She replied with a wall of text thanking me for being hospital but said in order for her to return "the floor has to be swept and vacuumed and you need to fix your toilet situation".
I'm trying to set aside my feelings about this girl and look at the situation logically. While i think her demands are somewhat valid i do not, i repeat do not want this to set a precedence for future interaction. I do not do well with demands and the whole mentality that modern females seem to have about "gracing you with their presence". The only leverage she has to make demands is her value to me and her presence. I see it as a slippery slope.
I want to yield to her demand because it is reasonable and i want her to feel comfortable. However i do not wish to shift the balance of power especially this early. The only thing i can think of doing is to test her with a counter-demand. I feel it is too late to reframe the situation but i've been wrong before.
All in all i am lost and i need your guy's help. What should i do?
I recently invited her over to my apartment for the first time and warned her that it was a bachelor pad with a house full of dudes. We had a good time did some domestic house stuff and she passed various tests i had preplanned for her. Simple stuff like finding something for me, doing my dishes when asked without backtalk, polite interaction with my friends. Maintaining a feminine frame the whole time which is imperative.
Though she was a little uncomfortable the whole time but didn't say anything. I could tell. I sent her a text to probe her for insecurity that simply said "So how shitty was my house for you". She replied with a wall of text thanking me for being hospital but said in order for her to return "the floor has to be swept and vacuumed and you need to fix your toilet situation".
I'm trying to set aside my feelings about this girl and look at the situation logically. While i think her demands are somewhat valid i do not, i repeat do not want this to set a precedence for future interaction. I do not do well with demands and the whole mentality that modern females seem to have about "gracing you with their presence". The only leverage she has to make demands is her value to me and her presence. I see it as a slippery slope.
I want to yield to her demand because it is reasonable and i want her to feel comfortable. However i do not wish to shift the balance of power especially this early. The only thing i can think of doing is to test her with a counter-demand. I feel it is too late to reframe the situation but i've been wrong before.
All in all i am lost and i need your guy's help. What should i do?