[Jaz]

Should I flake on a date when attraction is already there? The girl is very young, 19, and has flaked on me once before.

[Oblivion77]

(08-07-2011 10:31 AM)Jaz Wrote:  

Should I flake on a date when attraction is already there? The girl is very young, 19, and has flaked on me once before.

And self-sabotage yourself? Definitely not. If she is hooked and interested in you just go ahead and meet her. The window of opportunity doesnt stay open forever.

On the other hand, if you are too much into her, and she isnt (that's why she flaked once perhaps?), that's a completely different scenario, where a devious cancellation might raise your value, but has to be done in an elegant and proper way. And more often than not it turns out to be detrimental - "Out of sight, out of mind".

[stein]

Under the pretext of "not lowering my value" and "maintaining my alpha cred" I have become the resident expert in self-sabotage. I encourage you to not join this club. Don't make cock-punching yourself, a weekly hobby.

Having said that: read this carefully. http://www.rooshv.com/anti-flake-defense...lege-girls

Specifically:

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Now set a date like you normally would by asking her for a drink a day or two in advance. If she agrees, tell her you will call her that afternoon to set a time but are thinking around 9pm, for example. Then when the day of the date rolls around, simply don’t call or text her.

If she attempts to call or text you towards the evening that means she got anxious about going out with you and wants to ask if the date is still on for the night. Pick up the phone or text her back and set up the time as usual. (If she contacts you way early in the afternoon then it’s to cancel—don’t respond.)

If she doesn’t call or text you, that means she didn’t give a shit about you enough to see if the date was on or not. Bummer.

Only do this with flakes! This is a technique you don’t want to introduce to a girl who is going along with the river’s current, as it may fuck things up.

[boxwino]

If a girl flakes I treat it with a shrug, after all I have usually invited her out to join up with me while I am already out and about. If she gets in contact again I either tell her to 'make it up to me' or I pull a Brent Smith: "so I suppose you want to get together?" then next text Ill say "Thursday. 8pm. Drinks. My place" (or her place...I personally prefer going to their place cause I live with my bro and in my mind and to the girl it's re-framed that I love going to women's places, being with them at their place is hot.)...if she's uncomfortable/not interested/sends any text outside of interest I just ignore and move on, if they are really set on meeting up they know where to find you.