[klopzoid]

Okay so this most recent girl I have been messing around with clearly expressed interest w/ me and I went over her place to smoke. She invited me into her room and I took that as the final green light that she wanted to bang, but unfortunately I did delay about an hour because
I was finishing up an assignment and smoking a blunt. That being said, once we finally did get into it, I do feel like I moved a little bit fast. I would say that I reached down to finger her within about 5 minutes, Is this too fast for most girls? Especially when its not an explosive moment of passion type of thing? But she just moved my hand away, then after a few minutes I tried again and she said "it's too soon." At this point I will admit that I was really stoned, and basically just slowly deescalated until we were just laying there with clothes off. Needless to say, things didn't end on a bad note at all and she is still very interested.

The reason I am asking is because so far I haven't actually faced any LMR, and was wondering what you guys do to handle these types of things or even be proactive and minimize LMR from most girls. The girl is coming over to my place today, so I'm 99% sure I'm going to bang this time. But I just want a little heads up on how to handle situations like that.

[torridon747]

The key to overcoming last minute resistance is to make her feel comfortable and make sure she's properly aroused. She is probably afraid she's going to regret having sex with you early on or she will lose her social capital with you which is - suprise suprise - her vagina.

Take it a little slower next time, a little more foreplay make sure she is comfortable. If you can make some after-sex plans (regardless if you plan to execute them or not) that might help her rationalize having sex with you.

Good luck!


Also quick note about being "really stoned". This is just my personal opinion and believe me brother i have been there and beyond - but falling back on your impairment as an excuse shows weakness. Don't apologize and don't make excuses for yourself. You're in her house and her bed - she invited you; why doesn't she want to have sex with you? You should've reframed that.

[godzilla]

The best way to overcome LMR is to try again. Girls dont want to feel like sluts, resistance is mostly just to make it hard for you if you already got her in your room.

[Carmichael Reid]

For every girl that resists. There is another begging for it.

[klopzoid]

Alright guys so she came over yesterday and I did get the bang. She still had some resistance but after going slow, trying to enjoy myself, and being persistent but not pushy, I was able to slip a finger in and subsequently... lol thanks for the advice guys. And in hindsight, I feel like if i had done things the same way the first time I would have been able to get the bang so I will keep that in mind. She was coming over/inviting me over for a reason