Quote: (08-25-2016 12:54 PM)Serious Sam Wrote:
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Instead of bursting my brother's bubble, I try to pass on some wisdom to help him grow. He married his first wife young and against everyone's advice. The ensuing cheating/divorce were inevitable and foreseeable, but like I said, guys like him convince themselves that everything is going as it should. It's our job to help wake these men up, and that starts with the truth. However, going full bore isn't always the best option. Sometimes you have to throw it slow before speeding things up.
Agree with everything you said except the bolded portion. It's not our job as men to lead other men who are clearly in denial. I fault the guys and not the women. Whores will be whores. This is why I have a very tiny social circle of good guys I can trust. If I was ever this much in denial, they would tell me constantly the obvious truth no matter the repercussions until I saw the truth. Blame him, blame his so called real friends and blame his family. If one of my good buddies was this much in denial we couldn't be friends any longer. That behavior reflects a deeper problem and not something I wish to have in my environment.
-CD