A short bio/introduction before I start asking questions:
I'm 36, divorced a ho and alcoholic of a wife 12 years ago, got a kid with her who is 13 now.
After the divorce, I pretty much swore to never get married again, got my own place, better car etc. Was banging chicks left and right, no emotional attachments, one got to live with me for a few months before I caught her cheating and kicked her out.
Then I got stupid and allowed to catch feelings with one girl, whom I banged within ten minutes of her walking through my door and who was divorcing her "abusive" (I am quoting her) husband and I switched into a White Knight Captain-Save-a-ho mode, saved her and told her she can stay with me in my newly bought house. Was acting Alpha-e (she called me a "selfish self-centered asshole" which sounded like a compliment to me) and as much as she complained about it, she was loving me. Mad sex anytime I want, doing all house chores, being a mom figure to my daughter (my ex-wife was drinking and traveling the world, banging dudes, even married a few times, didn't see the kid at all).
Then the girl I was with started hinting on marriage and kids, I repeated what I said in the beginning that I'm not getting married and not having more kids. Long story short, after 3.5 years she started fucking on the side, moved out, was riding the cock carousel and it triggered the Jealous Beta in me and I asked her to marry me (diamond ring and all that shit). Luckily, she couldn't maintain her face for long (still throwing tantrums and being a ho) and although she moved in back with me I kicked her out shortly after and cancelled the whole thing. Dodged the bullet at the last moment.
The whole ordeal got me into a depression, a gained weight despite barely eating, was drinking a lot, lost a job due to poor performance (which was kind of good because she worked at the same office, I got her the job), was on light antidepressants for about 4 months. Then I discovered the Red Pill. To be exact, it was a Russian forum (called itsgone) (I am Russian and fluent in Russian) which was a part of a Russian Manosphere.
The people there helped me a lot with dealing with my situation and pretty soon I was back on my feet and been into my "selfish self-centered asshole" mode e.g. parties, banging girls, no strings attached, of course, FWBs etc.
After about two years of debauchery, I decided to chill down and start improving myself. Wrote down a bucket list and started making shit come true.
Traveled, lost weight (50lbs down, 30 more to go), hitting the gym at least 3 times a week, picked up several hobbies, started reading books again, learning Japanese etc.
Also, I became a Senior on that Russian forum, or as we are called there, The Specialist (Специалист).
The forum's main idea is to help men, who were dumped/cheated on etc. to get back on their feet applying the principals of the Red Pill and to some extent psychology.
The idea is to get them to get out of their Beta-Onetis mode and start improving themselves. Health, lifestyle etc.
The Specialists analyse each new "Patient" situation and let them see it from the "no rose colored glasses" point of view.
There is a set of rules (such as no contact with an ex, no social networks, no alcohol or drugs etc.), Sanitary Hour (Санчас) we call it, which each Patient must agree to adhere to in order to get better. And we just guide them in the process, while getting the daily progress notes update from each until that person decided that they are "healthy". Then they have to write a short essay of how they see things now, how their initial situation looks to them now etc.
If all Specialists agree that the essay checks out, that Patient is considered healthy and is welcome to stay on the forum and provide moral support to other Patients.
There are also sections on Pickup (Game) etc.
Also, I've been a reader and monthly supporter of ROK and other sites alike for about two years now, expanding my knowledge of the Red Pill, but only recently registered on the forum and already found tons of priceless material.
I still never plan to get married, have more kids etc.
That's pretty much it, I tried to make it as short as possible, but I think I failed on that part
Now to my question in the next post.
I'm 36, divorced a ho and alcoholic of a wife 12 years ago, got a kid with her who is 13 now.
After the divorce, I pretty much swore to never get married again, got my own place, better car etc. Was banging chicks left and right, no emotional attachments, one got to live with me for a few months before I caught her cheating and kicked her out.
Then I got stupid and allowed to catch feelings with one girl, whom I banged within ten minutes of her walking through my door and who was divorcing her "abusive" (I am quoting her) husband and I switched into a White Knight Captain-Save-a-ho mode, saved her and told her she can stay with me in my newly bought house. Was acting Alpha-e (she called me a "selfish self-centered asshole" which sounded like a compliment to me) and as much as she complained about it, she was loving me. Mad sex anytime I want, doing all house chores, being a mom figure to my daughter (my ex-wife was drinking and traveling the world, banging dudes, even married a few times, didn't see the kid at all).
Then the girl I was with started hinting on marriage and kids, I repeated what I said in the beginning that I'm not getting married and not having more kids. Long story short, after 3.5 years she started fucking on the side, moved out, was riding the cock carousel and it triggered the Jealous Beta in me and I asked her to marry me (diamond ring and all that shit). Luckily, she couldn't maintain her face for long (still throwing tantrums and being a ho) and although she moved in back with me I kicked her out shortly after and cancelled the whole thing. Dodged the bullet at the last moment.
The whole ordeal got me into a depression, a gained weight despite barely eating, was drinking a lot, lost a job due to poor performance (which was kind of good because she worked at the same office, I got her the job), was on light antidepressants for about 4 months. Then I discovered the Red Pill. To be exact, it was a Russian forum (called itsgone) (I am Russian and fluent in Russian) which was a part of a Russian Manosphere.
The people there helped me a lot with dealing with my situation and pretty soon I was back on my feet and been into my "selfish self-centered asshole" mode e.g. parties, banging girls, no strings attached, of course, FWBs etc.
After about two years of debauchery, I decided to chill down and start improving myself. Wrote down a bucket list and started making shit come true.
Traveled, lost weight (50lbs down, 30 more to go), hitting the gym at least 3 times a week, picked up several hobbies, started reading books again, learning Japanese etc.
Also, I became a Senior on that Russian forum, or as we are called there, The Specialist (Специалист).
The forum's main idea is to help men, who were dumped/cheated on etc. to get back on their feet applying the principals of the Red Pill and to some extent psychology.
The idea is to get them to get out of their Beta-Onetis mode and start improving themselves. Health, lifestyle etc.
The Specialists analyse each new "Patient" situation and let them see it from the "no rose colored glasses" point of view.
There is a set of rules (such as no contact with an ex, no social networks, no alcohol or drugs etc.), Sanitary Hour (Санчас) we call it, which each Patient must agree to adhere to in order to get better. And we just guide them in the process, while getting the daily progress notes update from each until that person decided that they are "healthy". Then they have to write a short essay of how they see things now, how their initial situation looks to them now etc.
If all Specialists agree that the essay checks out, that Patient is considered healthy and is welcome to stay on the forum and provide moral support to other Patients.
There are also sections on Pickup (Game) etc.
Also, I've been a reader and monthly supporter of ROK and other sites alike for about two years now, expanding my knowledge of the Red Pill, but only recently registered on the forum and already found tons of priceless material.
I still never plan to get married, have more kids etc.
That's pretty much it, I tried to make it as short as possible, but I think I failed on that part
Now to my question in the next post.
In today's world "I think therefore I am" has been replaced with "I'm offended therefore shut up."