[DagNorbert]

Long story short, married a long time but not happy and met a woman who is amazing in every way, and she knows I am married. We see each other often and there are all the classic signs, lots of eye contact, animated conversation, space closing, and no reason to believe that if I moved things forward with any of the basics that she would respond. BUT, what if she didn't? What if she pulled back and talked to friends and word came around, and now I am facing all the consequences and nothing gained?

Is there an advanced course to making an indecent proposal, or like the parody, a half decent proposal. I haven't dated in forever but I know better than to go full beta and gush up my feelings for this woman and spill my guts to her. But how do I bridge the gap if she wants to respond to my advances without overreaching?

[Cobra]

1st post?



Didn't you read the recent thread where someone else asked the same question? Or was that you?

What's wrong with your marriage?

Here's an advanced course: please make your 2nd post a little more meaningful. You won't have to try hard. Trust me.

[DagNorbert]

(08-03-2016 10:39 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

1st post?



Didn't you read the recent thread where someone else asked the same question? Or was that you?

What's wrong with your marriage?

Here's an advanced course: please make your 2nd post a little more meaningful. You won't have to try hard. Trust me.

Cobra, that was not me but I will take my lumps. That is where I am at. I tried to abridge the usual shit by making a long story short. If details help please ask.

[Latan]

Why do you try to nail someone who knows your wife / friends / family / facebook?
There are billions other women which wouldn't cause this kind of problems.

[Ezio31]

If she knows you're married, stay the fuck away from her. Word will spread, and your wife will rape you in court. Even IF you manage to bed her, you've surrendered all your power to her. You open up yourself to blackmail, and women are natural manipulators, beautiful women even more so.
Tl;dr, next the bitch.

[Cobra]

Ok, I'll take a more serious bite.

Having been in similar situations as you, I will tell you it is a horrible idea to continue anything with this woman. Trust me when I say that you don't know the risks in a meaningful way. It's impossible to when you want this specific thing.

I think what the forum is trying to tell you, similarly, is that the likelihood of things going bad and affecting your marriage are high. It does not have to be a DIRECT effect, as in this woman confronts your wife. I'm talking about you neglecting your wife and her sniffing you out. I'm not sure you realize how good women are at that just yet.

So I think that in order to help you meaningfully, I would ask a few very relevant questions first:

1. How is your relationship with your wife?
2. If it's good, why are you seeking this out?
3. If it's bad, what have you tried to improve it?

Would you mind covering these specifics?

[Rhyme or Reason]

I actually opened this thread thinking it was the other one.

If a chick knows you're married and presumably is part of your social circle, you'd have to be borderline retarded to think you'd be able to get away with this. There will be blowback. In the real world, when two people are banging over the course of a few months, it's not uncommon for one of the two parties to end up hurt and spiteful. Add to that the fact she knows your married and she doesn't have to do much to seriously fuck your shit up.

[Noir]

Honestly mate, if just a bit of attention from a woman outside of your marriage is making you register on a forum and ask for advice, you need to re-evaluate your marriage itself.

A few pointers on why this is a shit idea:

- she has all the leverage, you don't
- you are going off 'what-ifs' and analyzing this scenario thus amplifying a desirable outcome with your bias (and we are telling you your desirable outcome is not desirable at all)
- you are treating this like a potential relationship, not a quick bang. Emotional cheating will have worse consequences than physical, down the line.
- she could just be using you for validation out of spite for her friend
- she could not be interested in you at all and you are misinterpreting her actions.

All of the above are off the top of my head and have lasting consequences.

Most of the married men I know (from my father/uncle's generation) just go to prostitutes to scratch that itch.

I am sure you are aware of this which is why I am asking you to re-evaluate where you stand within your marriage as this is more than just sex, it seems to me.

And no, I don't generally condone prostitutes but if sex is what you need, and an outlet, without confronting the issues in your marriage, then it is a better alternative than fucking someone in your social circle.