[BambiNotForLong]

Edit I'm high on drugs

[Suits]

[The Lizard of Oz]

Here is some strong advice for you.

It sounds to me like you resent your brother for being hard-working and successful. You say "my brother, the fucking genius" in an obvious mix of envy and resentment.

These are extremely poisonous and loser emotions and you should let go of them, now. If you don't, none of the seemingly ready-made wealth that is waiting for you in that "shitty town" (that you look down on and only want to milk for a cushy position) will be of any help to you.

Think of this as an opportunity to learn something from your brother. Learn what it's like to run a business; learn what it's like to work hard and build something. You say you want to become a man? Good. But it's not going to happen by "self-reflection" or ruminating about what went wrong in the past; nor will it happen by assuming that your wealth is guaranteed by the hard work of others. If you want to become a man, learn to let go of your loser resentments, and of the lazy desire to get "rich as fuck" through the work of those you resent.

Don't be an ingrate by wasting your time thinking how "awful" your life has been. This is another loser move. You're young, you're healthy, and you have opportunities that many men don't; appreciate them and make a solemn decision to let go of your resentments, work hard, and make yourself worthy of the opportunity that has been given to you. That's how you will become a man; otherwise, you will simply be a loser.

[Rhyme or Reason]

Bambi you're one sketchy mother fucker.

[The Lizard of Oz]

Bambi,

I reread my post here from last night and I now feel it was much too harsh -- harsher than I meant it to be. Please accept my apologies.

I think you are going through a difficult period, so here are some things that could help:

-- Stay off the drugs, booze etc. It's not going to help you get better, it will just make you more depressed and unhappy over time. Try to improve your physical lifestyle first and foremost. Drink a lot of water, eat good, simple food, get good sleep every night. Don't overstimulate yourself.

-- Don't waste time ruminating about the past, brooding over your failures or your resentments. That part of my post is right. This won't help you in any way. You don't really need "self-reflection"; you just need to keep living life and be open to it and try to enjoy it, and also try to enjoy doing some useful work that you can learn to do and become good at.

-- Relax. You're very young, your whole life is ahead of you, the past is of no great importance. You can let go of all that like so much useless baggage. Don't beat yourself up or spend any time putting yourself down. Just try to to take each day for what it's worth and find something good or interesting about it.

Again, the main thing is to let go of all the drugs and the drinking etc. That stuff is terrible for you when you're depressed and your mind is in a bad way. Let it go, relax, go outside and meet some people -- not necessarily girls, just people you might enjoy talking to; find some places you like like a coffee shop that you can spend time in instead of always staying at home.

You'll be all right, if you do these things all the negative thinking will just burn out like a fever.

[Ringo]

So you're at it again.



I'm only posting this as a last resource to you and to make other members reconsider investing much time into this thread.

Bambi's history involves tonnes of self-sabotage and self-pity, banging hookers, trying to bang co-workers (#1, #2), starting threads while intoxicated, asking for advice and not putting it to practice, possibly using multiple accounts and worse of all, not working on improving himself despite the valuable feedback he has received from multiple members over different threads. You always have a sad story to tell.

Did you even go to Turkey? Or quit your job? Or did any of the things you said you would?

Tough love: if you're a real guy you're so lost and spineless it's sad. You need to get a grip on your tendency to self-sabotage and get real life help.

I'd recommend you try to meet up with some local, reputable RVFer (I'm sure there's a bunch in your area). But then again given your history if we were in the same town I'd probably think thrice before meeting up. I wouldn't want to spend any more precious time in vain.

You're likely getting banned soon, but if you're not either crap or get off the pot.

[Leonard D Neubache]

I for one can't help but think that the fruits of this thread will not only empower the OP to reach new heights but will also spiritually enrich us all.