[CJ]

I have little respect for most women, but family is family and I'll willingly hurt anyone who hurts the women I'm related to; this includes cousins, nieces, etc... I don't have a blood-related sister. I'm just wondering if you other fellas feel the same way.

[Moma]

(07-31-2011 03:27 AM)CJ Wrote:  

I have little respect for most women, but family is family and I'll willingly hurt anyone who hurts the women I'm related to; this includes cousins, nieces, etc... I don't have a blood-related sister. I'm just wondering if you other fellas feel the same way.

Do you mean physically hurt them or emotionally hurt them? What if a guy they liked never calls them back after a while?

Does that count?

[el mechanico]

Fuck yea CJ! You mess with ANY of my family members you are in for epic beat down!
Even breathe at my sis the wrong way will buy a trip to the emergency room.

Im not just talking here. I have had to 'handle' plenty of issues for girl cousins. We have a HUGE problem with any disrespect. I could remember the look my grandmother would give me when she was listening to some unpleasant story. She did'nt even have to say a word.

Guys who marry or date my cousins find out fast that we are crazy as fuck and they stay in check most the time.

[MiXX]

In my family, it's the opposite. Females are VERY protective of males. I have an incredibly hard time bringing any girls with me to a family function because my female cousins, aunts and even mother tear her apart.

Women are like this with all males of the family - we all have to sneek around with girls so our female family members do not go apeshit!

Mixx

[Nonpareil]

Well it's hard to be protective of my sister, married and living 3,000 miles away and all. She's pretty headstrong and has taken a few self-defense classes though, so I don't worry about her too often.

My mother, on the other hand, makes some dating decisions that I'd expect of a girl less than half her age. I have more than once had to provide a presence when some 45-year-old beta half my size met on PoF was trying to force chemistry, not like sexual chemistry, but you'd be surprised at how knowing a lady's 27-year-old son who's 6'3 200 being just a phone call and ten minutes away will keep a guy honest.

I've told her time and time again, 'The only guys on PoF are losers and guys trolling for easy sex, you shouldn't go into it expecting anything', and that (in less harsh terms) she's not going to get her 47 year old millionaire with no kids because she's playing a losing battle with hot twentysomethings, never listens.

And the ironic thing; like Mixx, she is the first to tear apart and find the flaws in any new girl I bring around. Any meeting between a girl and my mom is just usually a short 'We were in the neighborhood and thought we'd drop in.'

[Basil Ransom]

Nope. My sisters and cousins are all old enough to be responsible for their own situation. A woman's man problems are ultimately self-imposed, mostly. If a woman needs to be "saved" from a problem she created, intervening is a fool's errand. It will only crop up again. And once you intervene, you're saying she doesn't need to deal with the consequences of her bad decisions. Which just means she'll make more of them. Unsolicited help is unappreciated help. In this case.

But I'm not a 'family' kind of guy - if I don't enjoy your company, I won't try to hang out with you because we're related.

[azulsombra]

(07-31-2011 03:28 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

Nope. My sisters and cousins are all old enough to be responsible for their own situation. A woman's man problems are ultimately self-imposed, mostly. If a woman needs to be "saved" from a problem she created, intervening is a fool's errand. It will only crop up again. And once you intervene, you're saying she doesn't need to deal with the consequences of her bad decisions. Which just means she'll make more of them. Unsolicited help is unappreciated help. In this case.

But I'm not a 'family' kind of guy - if I don't enjoy your company, I won't try to hang out with you because we're related.

This.

[afronoob]

(07-31-2011 03:28 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

Nope. My sisters and cousins are all old enough to be responsible for their own situation. A woman's man problems are ultimately self-imposed, mostly. If a woman needs to be "saved" from a problem she created, intervening is a fool's errand. It will only crop up again. And once you intervene, you're saying she doesn't need to deal with the consequences of her bad decisions. Which just means she'll make more of them. Unsolicited help is unappreciated help. In this case.

But I'm not a 'family' kind of guy - if I don't enjoy your company, I won't try to hang out with you because we're related.

That's my own way right there. Only immediate family deserves protection,though. Here's a true story. 9 years ago at a funeral a cousin had a black eye. This year her husband went young Tyson on her putting her in the emergency room.
I told her older sister:"no man does that without a reason."
Predictably,she responded with choruses about "respect/what gives him the right/how," and all the other manufactured outrage women have internalised. Last month she tells me what up-the bitch is fucking her first cousin! Which to us is incest. She caught them red handed,after friends tipped her off-and her sister told her to fuck off (they were in public,though it was dark,WTF!) .
Invariably,women deserve their shit.

[speakeasy]

(07-31-2011 03:28 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

Nope. My sisters and cousins are all old enough to be responsible for their own situation. A woman's man problems are ultimately self-imposed, mostly. If a woman needs to be "saved" from a problem she created, intervening is a fool's errand. It will only crop up again. And once you intervene, you're saying she doesn't need to deal with the consequences of her bad decisions. Which just means she'll make more of them. Unsolicited help is unappreciated help. In this case.

But I'm not a 'family' kind of guy - if I don't enjoy your company, I won't try to hang out with you because we're related.

This is beautifully put. I have a sister that has been mentally fucked by a controlling asshole boyfriend. All my and my parents attempts to intervene have been for nought. She just goes right back to him anyway. She choose her path and I gave up trying to help someone that doesn't want to be helped and is too myopic to envision a different life.

Your post has helped me make peace with my decision. +1

[el mechanico]

My post here was more about violence and I have a very close family. Actually two reletives are here at my shop right now and about 5 more have visited today.

We have plenty of girls in our family that are with losers and thats their choice but, when one of those losers decides hes going to go on a crack binge , neglect his children and beat on my cousin..He's going to pay for that. We are passionate people, no way in hell would that fly around us.