[toejam]

Scenario 1:
I was out with this chick saturday. I had just parked near a basketball court. As we got out we saw a younger couple (teens , maybe highschool) walking past us and past the basketball court. They were holding hands. Some guy playing basketball, shirtless, notices the girl (holding hands with the dude) and he says "hey girl let me talk to you right quick. " "come over here lemme get your number. "

Scenario 2
This happens alot when im on the train. Couple will be standing there or sitting and some guy would walk through the train, notice her, and say "hey girl you fine let me holla at you" "Hey girl let me get your number" etc

Scenario 3
This happens more times then I can count at the club.

Now this has happened to me but less as I gotten older. What is the general protocol for dealing with this if you're the guy? What if you're running first date bang recipe and this gets thrown in the mix what's the proper way, if any, to deflect this without going to jail.?
DO YOU handle it differently if its a girl you haven't banged versus a girl that's your LTR ?

[Gustavus Adolphus]

Kind of sounds like what guys used to call the apocalypse opener. High risk, high reward. These don't bother me at all.

There are many examples available that you can use to turn up the heat on her and have her laugh and dismiss the approach.

If you have a chick in the rotation that you want to keep around for a while, I think one of the only scenarios that should get your attention is a player with better game.

When I'm out, my girl is going to look good, other guys want a piece of that. Comes with the territory. It's how you react that makes the difference. Jealousy and insecurity is not a good look.

As the saying goes, "she was never yours, it was just your turn."

And, in corollary, making yourself the priority and not giving a fuck what she does seems to make them stick like super glue.

[Quintus Curtius]

This happens more than it used to happen, say, 20 years or so ago. Lot of guys (and girls) don't respect boundaries like they used to.

But you can't overreact to it, because then that shows insecurity and weakness. You need to give off the vibe that, "Hey, I have options. I have a lot going on. If you want to walk, go ahead and walk. You can be replaced."

You have to really BELIEVE this. Once she senses this, you will be on the right track.

A few of the old blues singers (I think it was B.B. King) even had songs about this. I think I remember a line that sounded like, "You ain't no big thing, baby, you can be replaced right away."

If a guy is hitting on your girl, don't focus on him, focus on her. See how she reacts. Girls will play this game to mess with you. If she's not putting the other guy in check somehow, or if she's not laying down boundaries and respecting your "ownership", then she's basically not respecting you.

A little bit of this sort of flirtation is normal, even with married couples, and you have to let it roll off your back. But if it keeps happening, then it's a big warning sign that your girl is not respecting you, or that she's not happy with what you're bringing to the table.

[WestIndianArchie]

(07-21-2016 07:11 AM)toejam Wrote:  

Scenario 1:
I was out with this chick saturday. I had just parked near a basketball court. As we got out we saw a younger couple (teens , maybe highschool) walking past us and past the basketball court. They were holding hands. Some guy playing basketball, shirtless, notices the girl (holding hands with the dude) and he says "hey girl let me talk to you right quick. " "come over here lemme get your number. "

If he's just cat calling, ignore.

If he's on the run up, you usually have more value to the girl and you can ignore. Maybe a laugh.

(07-21-2016 07:11 AM)toejam Wrote:  

Scenario 2
This happens alot when im on the train. Couple will be standing there or sitting and some guy would walk through the train, notice her, and say "hey girl you fine let me holla at you" "Hey girl let me get your number" etc

Driveby game is weak. If you react, you're losing

(07-21-2016 07:11 AM)toejam Wrote:  

Scenario 3
This happens more times then I can count at the club.

Now this has happened to me but less as I gotten older. What is the general protocol for dealing with this if you're the guy? What if you're running first date bang recipe and this gets thrown in the mix what's the proper way, if any, to deflect this without going to jail.?
DO YOU handle it differently if its a girl you haven't banged versus a girl that's your LTR ?

A mere comment shouldn't elicit much attention. Imagine that dude was 12. That's what little boys do. A one liner wouldn't make her react, it shouldn't make you.

Maybe a look at your chick, "is this dude serious?" Smirk.

The hardest part about this is controlling your impulses.

You haven't really outlined a serious problem yet.

Serious problems from most common to least

1) she gives him some rhythm - she's receptive to other offers. She's not really yours. (Can a chick ever be?)

2) he makes a real approach

3) he puts his hands on her

WIA

[TornadoByProxy]

I agree with WIA's comments
If they're far away, I laugh at them and ask the girl if she's into that shit. Of course she isn't. If the guy is close, I clown him mercilessly to the girl. I only talk to the girl. I don't even acknowledge the guy.
"Did this clown just finish a pickup artist course?"
"Look at how this clown is dressed."
"Give him the number to your dentist. His breath stinks."

Worst case he puts hands on her. If you don't know her well, you gotta let her decide how to handle it. Don't get caught in "lets you and him fight". If you know her, consider it harassment and take appropriate action.

[Sarmale]

What I do is make it seem hes talking to me and say "sorry I'm taken". Hahaha