[kbell]

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Forecast is dark and cloudy on the joyful titty fuck.

She also has momface too. One second a way from scolding you.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Momface

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It's when an attractive young adult a female has a worn out expression due to children, or if the young female has a worn out look in general.

[CRR]

This woman is yet another mediocre middle-aged white woman who is mad that desirable men won't settle down with mediocre women.

She also makes the mistake that so many like her have done of using a college degree as a barometer for both men and women. Many men don't care about a woman's education.

If she thinks men, especially men with all these options as she describes it, should settle down, then the onus is on women to provide an incentive to do so. And having a college degree alone won't cut it. Neither will being worn out, chubby and/or sarcastic. Women like this are trying to change the social contract that has existed forever, which was basically that women can desire what they want, and men can do the same. They want to determine the latter, it's not working, and yet they blame it on men as to why there are so many bitter spinsters.

[General Stalin]

I didn't read the article, but I'm getting the jist of it by reading the comments and excerpts.

Her blame for her displeasure with the current state of gender dynamics and family in the current age and culture is grossly misdirected. Her observations are simply not backed up be reality.

Men are not forgoing marriage and children because we prefer not to. We are not "swiping for a new pair [of tits]" because it is our preference. This woman is living in a bubble where she sees no accountability or effect of the change of women's lifestyles and personal expectations in the current age/culture.

Women are the ones who don't want to settle down young and start families. Women prefer to spend the first several years of their adulthood in higher education, and afterwards pursuing careerism and financial/pforessional/personal successes that are wholly removed from the idea of settling down, getting married, and having kids. Those things "get in the way" of living the "fulfilling" life of working in an office, making money, buying a condo, "exploring your sexuality," and a host of other hedonistic pursuits that modern women have been taught they need.

Modern young women, half of which were raised by single mothers, have been told their entire lives they are strong, independent, and "need no man" - what the fuck did you think was going to happen?

I can tell you that most any man would gladly trade a life of endlessly chasing strange pussy for a life of being with a quality woman who will have his babies and take care of him and the family while he happily and dutifully provides. Unfortunately, due to the unforeseen longterm cultural effects of 2nd/3rd wave feminism and women's liberation, this cannot be a reality. Not until the pendulum swings back the other way and women change their values; as women are the ones that control the sexual market.

[John Michael Kane]

In the comments to the linked article, the author mentions that she has daughters. She's acting in self-interest to try and have a world where her girls have a chance to marry high-quality guys, a worthwhile goal in itself. Her real problem is that her article is one-sided. Yes, porn has a detrimental effect on men's desire to be productive, and for some men, video games too. That being said, her article is very utilitarian. She makes no effort to address the one-sided family courts, the 40% of American women who are obese, that women need more than a boobs and a vagina to inspire a man to commitment, etc. Her article could have been decent if she actually bothered to explore why so many men aren't interested in marriage compared to the old days. Incentives matter!

[Renzy]

(06-24-2016 12:46 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

She makes no effort to address the one-sided family courts, the 40% of American women who are obese, that women need more than a boobs and a vagina to inspire a man to commitment, etc. Her article could have been decent if she actually bothered to explore why so many men aren't interested in marriage compared to the old days. Incentives matter!

Yeah, but if she did all that she'd end up making a convincing case for why modern men should not get married.

It would be sort of hard to highlight how:

- 70% of divorces are initiated by women
- 97% of alimony goes to women
- 84% of time the woman gets custody of your kids

and then go on to say how these statistics imply getting married is a good choice for men. Especially in light of recent studies showing that the more pre-marital sexual partners a woman has had the more likely she will be to get divorced. Modern women with their double-digit N-counts are simply put, a bad risk.

And of course, the above list doesn't even address men's increased risks for suicide, alcoholism, depression, and estrangement from their children post-divorce.

It's not an accident that the narrative relies on shaming rather than taking an honest look at statistics and incentives, because the statistics and incentives aren't on their side.

[John Michael Kane]

No-fault divorce is a sure-fire way of crumbling a society. The marital bond needs to be for life, absent a compelling reason (child abuse/neglect, alcoholism, serious gambling addiction, cheating, etc.). You mentioned some compelling reasons why men in the United States should have pause for marrying most American women. There's a minority of marriage quality women here in the US, and the demand for them is still solid. That being said, you're right to mention that the author discounts or ignores these risks for men. Women, as a group, and as individuals are the more inherently selfish sex. Given that they are the sex that has to get pregnant and raise children, that is somewhat understandable.

The real problem is, that women as a whole lack empathy towards male conditions, with a few exceptions here and there. Patriarchy was in place to help men get a share of the sexual spoils via marriage and commitment, in exchange for women giving up political and economic power, and often marrying a man who they weren't all that attracted to. Right now, due to economic liberation, women need not marry those who they aren't attracted to, due to the fact that they won't starve if they chose not to marry. These are all rather unsettling things to ponder, and is beyond the typist's understanding or depth of thought.

[therealpoder]

I agree that easy access to sex has made men lazier but I think this article puts too much blame on men and some of the comments here put too much blame on women. Also, I don't like her statement that it is better for men to be sexually starved than for there to be a surplus of women. It sucks for men who can't get dates.

Due to birth control and abortion on demand, sex is less costlier, so of course there is going to be more sex. So women don't have to worry about getting pregnant by a deadbeat. And if she did, she has welfare.

Both men and women who act in traditional ways are punished. A woman who remained a virgin until marriage and was looking for marriage wouldn't get dates. And guys that seem like they want a relationship are ignored by women. It's like the only way to get dates is by being a player or slut.

Marriage has less benefits and more costs to men. In addition, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are not seen to leading to marriage. People no longer feel that marriage is permanent.

The only way to get the pendulum swing the other way is:

1. Ending abortion
2. Restricted birth control
3. Slut shaming of men and women
4. Shaming of spinsters, childless women and old bachelors
5. Reducing the welfare state
6. End no fault divorce
7. Imposing the expectation that dating is only for marriage
8. Promoting married mothers as ideal instead of the career girl
9. Shaming divorcees
10. Shaming fat women
11. Shaming unemployed men

Since none of that is going to happen anytime soon, the only other way is pain. By that I mean, a generation of childless unmarried women and lower economic growth due to unmotivated, unmarried men.

[John Michael Kane]

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Also, I don't like her statement that it is better for men to be sexually starved than for there to be a surplus of women. It sucks for men who can't get dates.

In China where there is a surplus of men, the men have taken the extraordinary effort of importing women from Vietnam, Africa, etc to pair up. In metro China where there's plenty of wealth, hypergamous women are out of control. Ask any man who's flown in these social circles and he'll tell you just how lopsided things are. For a society to have a best chance of prosperity, there needs to be a balance of men and women.

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Due to birth control and abortion on demand, sex is less costlier, so of course there is going to be more sex. So women don't have to worry about getting pregnant by a deadbeat. And if she did, she has welfare.

That's why incentives matter. There should be no bailouts for single mommies. Harsh, but necessary. Women need to have a healthy and real fear of raising single kids. The current US bastard rate of 41% is a death knell if we don't get it down.

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A woman who remained a virgin until marriage and was looking for marriage wouldn't get dates. And guys that seem like they want a relationship are ignored by women. It's like the only way to get dates is by being a player or slut.

I know several girls who are virgins. They are, without fail, devoutly religious. Most of them are Catholic, but a number of them are various shades of Protestant, plus a few Orthodox ones for good measure. They live at home with their parents, saving money and working or are in college studying. A common theme here is that they all have alpha fathers. Men that have set ground rules, and enforce them. I've met these dads, they don't make it easy to date their daughters, but game or the art of charm works on men as well as women. There's a couple of these girls I'm weighing right now as potential wife options. The key is, you need to immerse yourself in the right social circles if your end-game is marriage and kids. You don't need the average American woman, you need the Exceptional American woman. Likewise, these guys that want to date these types of girls have to have something to bring to the table. That's why I stay fit, lift weights, have an active social circle, work hard to earn financially, etc. Quality attracts quality. Both men and women need to up their game.

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Marriage has less benefits and more costs to men. In addition, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are not seen to leading to marriage. People no longer feel that marriage is permanent.

People model their behavior on that of their parents'. Given the horrible job that baby boomers did, little wonder why so many lost souls are wandering around without a clue. It will take strength to find purpose in a society that discourages it.

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1. Ending abortion

Absolutely. 53 million and counting here in the United States. Women are collectively capable of incredible violence if you let them. Abortion is the ultimate enabler of female irrisponsibility. It also allows cads to get a "do over", which also encourages promiscuity.

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2. Restricted birth control

Birth control has huge health and mental effects on a woman, all of them negative. There's really no case for birth control at any time. It is a pandora's box of evil.

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3. Slut shaming of men and women

Yes, women need it more than men, just because they are the gatekeepers to sex. That being said, if there was enough social shaming of cads, they can be kicked out of social circles with strong men who don't appreciate their behavior. That won't stop women from being attracted to him however, which is why ultimately, female slut shaming is the most effective method of social control in this regard.

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4. Shaming of spinsters, childless women and old bachelors

Yes and no. There are people who are valuable who don't have children. Many great scientists and others don't have time for personal relationships. Not every single person has to have kids. I know a few older men and women who never married but are very helpful to their married friends. The key is not to embelish the Entourage or Sex in The City lifestyles.

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5. Reducing the welfare state

Agreed. It is already coming to an end as soon as the money printing stops. There just aren't enough tax paying men to keep the whole ponzi scheme alive forever.

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6. End no fault divorce

Yup, see my last post.

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7. Imposing the expectation that dating is only for marriage

I have quite a few Asian friends, a lot of them are very traditional. Dating is taken very seriously. You date to find a spouse. Having been in parts of Asia, the more traditional cultures in some places make it harder to find casual sex, but the quality of women for marriage is much higher. I know a fair number of Vietnamese young women that actively work on trying to find a husband. These girls are busting their butts to be attractive (long hair, saving money, active socially, etc.). They will reject lazy or immature men, choosing to stay single. I'm rather impressed by their behavior. Americans in general could learn a little bit by traveling.

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8. Promoting married mothers as ideal instead of the career girl

Motherhood is beautiful and natural. We need that to be a major marketing campaign.

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9. Shaming divorcees

Starts with getting rid of the no-fault version of it. Divorce should only be given a pass for an extremely grevious offense.

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10. Shaming fat women

Yes, and for obvious reasons. Men don't want to wife up a whale. I'd go a step further, also fat shaming men. Men being fat is unattractive to look at, and shows laziness or lack of self-control. Self-control is a great masculine discipline. Not to mention, women do care about how men look, they aren't born without eyes. Lastly, if a man wants a wife and kid, he should maintain his health for the safety of his family.

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11. Shaming unemployed men

Yes, this sounds good in theory, but I think has marginal returns. There simply aren't enough decent jobs out there due to outsourcing and automation. Also, kicking large numbers of women out of the workforce would allow for those higher paying jobs to go to men, making them more attractive potential mates. Lastly, women adding to the job force suppresses wages, something we don't need. Gets back to the fact that most women should be at home watching kids, unless of course they are a nun, pre-school teacher spinster or are taking care of an elderly family member.

[Rhyme or Reason]

The major thing feminists like this author fail to acknowledge is that the main point of most everything men do (conscience or subconsciously) is sex. The beta bucks strategy is still a sexual strategy, however ineffective it may be. We've all heard it outlined: get good grades, get into a good university, work hard, graduate cum laude, get a good job, climb the corporate ladder...find a nice girl and raise a family. (there's a reason why it was last on the list). It's an antiquated strategy based on the "women love providers" canard.

Feminism and it's offshoot ideologies have destroyed men's incentives to work and create wealth beyond what he needs to survive.

Women are so clueless. They don't get that their pussy is their most valuable asset, and that it depreciates with use / time. Never have women been more unlovable, yet despite their innumerable flaws, I still see men everywhere so strongly desire to love women.

(06-24-2016 12:44 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

Not until the pendulum swings back the other way and women change their values; as women are the ones that control the sexual market.

Can we finally lay to rest the idiotic idea that "women are the civilizing influence on men"? This cuckservative line of thinking needs to be shown for the lie that it is. Look around; who's got all the advantages in the sexual market and everywhere else? Women have never had it easier...and the social fabric of society has never been more fucked. Yet even our "conservative" talking heads can do nothing but tell men to man up.

Controlling women's base urges is a necessity for a functioning society...and for some reason men are horrified to go there.

[John Michael Kane]

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The major thing feminists like this author fail to acknowledge is that the main point of most everything men do (conscience or subconsciously) is sex. The beta bucks strategy is still a sexual strategy, however ineffective it may be. We've all heard it outlined: get good grades, get into a good university, work hard, graduate cum laude, get a good job, climb the corporate ladder...find a nice girl and raise a family. It's an antiquated strategy based on the "women love providers" canard.

Women do love providers. They just prefer alpha providers over beta providers. Men need to be taught how to up their masculine qualities. Imagine if you could teach your average beta husband to pin his wife against the door when he walks in from work, grab her around the neck and kiss her like it is the last kiss she'll ever have, then pound the living daylights out of her. Women want to be desired by men who have some serious balls. Pulling off a move like this is beyond the reach of timid men, but then again, men need to be less timid. I'd say less than 20% of women are true sluts that only ever want sex. Many women act slutty in an effort to wrangle in a man, and their sluttiness is a byproduct of much trial and error. They'd still prefer a provider. Some women are happy with their average beta male if he treats them decently. These are the women that tend to be happily married, along with the women who married alpha male providers.

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Women are so clueless. They don't get that their pussy is their most valuable asset, and that it depreciates with use /time

That's why in wiser times, fathers and brothers acted as gatekeepers to allowing cads into the home to whisk off with their women. Patriarchy wasn't perfect, but it kept the cads in check.

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Controlling women's base urges is a necessity for a functioning society...and for some reason men are horrified to go there.

That's why either by Islam, war of some sort, or economic collapse, patriarchy is going to make a comeback. Women can go kicking and screaming, or come willingly. Either way, there will be change in our lifetime.

[EDantes]

(06-24-2016 05:22 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

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The major thing feminists like this author fail to acknowledge is that the main point of most everything men do (conscience or subconsciously) is sex. The beta bucks strategy is still a sexual strategy, however ineffective it may be. We've all heard it outlined: get good grades, get into a good university, work hard, graduate cum laude, get a good job, climb the corporate ladder...find a nice girl and raise a family. It's an antiquated strategy based on the "women love providers" canard.

Women do love providers. They just prefer alpha providers over beta providers. Men need to be taught how to up their masculine qualities. Imagine if you could teach your average beta husband to pin his wife against the door when he walks in from work, grab her around the neck and kiss her like it is the last kiss she'll ever have, then pound the living daylights out of her. Women want to be desired by men who have some serious balls. Pulling off a move like this is beyond the reach of timid men, but then again, men need to be less timid. I'd say less than 20% of women are true sluts that only ever want sex. Many women act slutty in an effort to wrangle in a man, and their sluttiness is a byproduct of much trial and error. They'd still prefer a provider. Some women are happy with their average beta male if he treats them decently. These are the women that tend to be happily married, along with the women who married alpha male providers.

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Women are so clueless. They don't get that their pussy is their most valuable asset, and that it depreciates with use /time

That's why in wiser times, fathers and brothers acted as gatekeepers to allowing cads into the home to whisk off with their women. Patriarchy wasn't perfect, but it kept the cads in check.

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Controlling women's base urges is a necessity for a functioning society...and for some reason men are horrified to go there.

That's why either by Islam, war of some sort, or economic collapse, patriarchy is going to make a comeback. Women can go kicking and screaming, or come willingly. Either way, there will be change in our lifetime.

Yeah, the author made some legit points.

I think if anything the abundance of porn might be one of the things encouraging beta male behavior today. When a guy can just beat off to porn all night then there's less of an incentive to self-improve and attract real life women. Much as video games are taking over real-life competitive sports in popularity.

It's basically sexual "affirmative action" for guys who aren't able to see a pair of tits in real life.

[John Michael Kane]

Yes, porn is sexual affirmative action of sorts. It allows men to have an endless stream of 7,8,9&10's that he wouldn't have access to in real life. He might be able to get an overweight 4 or 5 if he tried hard enough. The problem is, when the reward is so low, the willingness to put in the effort wanes. Porn gives men access to hot women, regardless of the man's personal achievements. This isn't good for personal growth or civilization. The prize needs to be worth winning for men to want to compete.

[bacan]

Yes, this is true.

Have you noticed that guys who have easy access to fast sex all the time aren't the types to become billionaires?

In my own life can recognize all the situations where I passed up a chance to work hard on something for some new hot girl I want to bang.

[EDantes]

(06-24-2016 07:38 PM)bacan Wrote:  

Yes, this is true.

Have you noticed that guys who have easy access to fast sex all the time aren't the types to become billionaires?

In my own life can recognize all the situations where I passed up a chance to work hard on something for some new hot girl I want to bang.

Another poster here said that Napoleon Hill mentioned this in his "think and grow rich book"; he said in order for a man to be motivated to do great things he has to conserve some of his "sexual energy" and redirect it into a productive outlet that doesn't involve just chasing tail.

Unfortuantely I think the media puts too much emphasis on "sex" as an end into itself - guys watch films like the Wolf of Wall Street which isn't a really accurate picture of how most self-made millionaires actually live, and want to imitate his "playa" lifestyle, but the end result is they focus too much on short term gains with women and not enough life planning.

[Captainstabbin]

(06-24-2016 04:06 PM)therealpoder Wrote:  

I agree that easy access to sex has made men lazier

Isn't marriage supposed to be the easiest possible access to sex?

(06-24-2016 04:06 PM)therealpoder Wrote:  

Both men and women who act in traditional ways are punished. A woman who remained a virgin until marriage and was looking for marriage wouldn't get dates.

If the only thing a woman is bringing to a potential relationship is virginity, then she'll have a tough time. If she's pretty, in great shape, intelligent, has an amazing personality and sincerely wants to be a traditional wife, she'll have her pick of high-value men in most areas of the country...wouldn't hurt if she gave handies or BJs. But she has to be ready for a quick engagement. If her goal is years of dating, she's got a problem.

The thing you have to watch out for is the 22 - 25 year old virgin (or older). If a girl can stay a virgin for a whole decade after becoming sexually aware, she's got a bad attitude toward sex and usually men in general. Or her vag is so beat up with miles of plastic dicks that she may as well have been on the carousel.

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(06-24-2016 07:14 PM)John Michael Kane Wrote:  

Yes, porn is sexual affirmative action of sorts. It allows men to have an endless stream of 7,8,9&10's that he wouldn't have access to in real life. He might be able to get an overweight 4 or 5 if he tried hard enough. The problem is, when the reward is so low, the willingness to put in the effort wanes. Porn gives men access to hot women, regardless of the man's personal achievements. This isn't good for personal growth or civilization. The prize needs to be worth winning for men to want to compete.

Yes, tinder is sexual affirmative action of sorts. It allows women to have an endless stream of attractive men that she wouldn't have access to in real life. She might be able to lock down an overweight average joe if she tried hard enough in reality. The problem is, when the reward is so low, the willingness to put in the effort wanes. Tinder gives women access to hot men, regardless of the woman's personal achievements or attractivness. This isn't good for personal growth or civilization. The prize needs to be worth winning for women to want to compete.

Summary: Men have porn. Women have Tinder.

[Foolsgo1d]

Why learn to fish or buy a boat when the fish just wander into your net on the shore line?

You could pull up any western Tier 1 through to tier 3 city on Tinder or POF, look at the women on there and see what they're after.

Vast majority of men are invisible to most women on similar levels.