How my life would have turned out if I was born 40 years earlier.
I grew up in a typical working class small town in the midlands, I had a good family background and no major health problems. I attended a typical primary school and got a good education. I was average at English language, poor at creative subjects like art but excelled at maths and science.Discipline was strict both at home and in the classroom. I was encouraged to spend a lot of time outdoors by my parents and got plenty of exercise.I pass the 11 plus exam and got streamed into the higher ability group and went to the local grammar school. I score well above average and stay on into higher education and finally university. After graduating I go into the medial profession. I'm rewarded directly for my hard work. I gradually move up over the decades and earn well above average income.
Outside of working life I quickly meet an above average local woman thanks to the fact I have all the obvious indicators of being a good long term provider and family man. I get married at the age of 24 and end up having 3 children. I spend the rest of my life working, providing for my family and being a productive member of society.
How my life actually turned out
Being good at school was a major hinderance from the first day I arrived. Bullied by the less academically able kids was a near constant feature. This was fueled by lack of old fashioned discipline both inside and outside of the classroom.
I was constantly given "advice" on how to solve this problem. Unfortunately my well meaning but totally clueless parents were giving 25 years out of date advice that just didn't work in the modern world. Belittled as a cry baby for reporting bullying or fobbed off with a "just stick up for yourself" only to be treated like a criminal for responding with even the slightest physical contact.
Discipline inside the classroom was massively inconsistent, 2 kids could do the same thing wrong and get completely different "punishments". One female teacher at the age of 7 had her "favourites" (always girls) who could do no wrong.
There was no 11 plus exam anymore, mixed ability teaching was standard. The lowest ability kids struggled to keep up and the highest ability kids like myself sat around bored while the teachers were dealing with the ones who could barely read the instructions.
A lot of teachers were clueless when it came to enforcing discipline, one attention seeking idiot could destroy a lesson for the rest of the class and receive nothing stronger than a 15 minute detention in return.
By the age of 13 I was completely disillusioned with school and started to rebel. I managed to strike a balance between social acceptance and education by it meant that I massively underachieved.
I stayed on in education after 16 but it became clear that the schools primary goal was to get me in university no matter what. School never taught me once how to find a good job...….
I left school at 18 and went on a training program on schools advice which turned out to be a scam. I spent 2 years mixing temporary and part time work with long spells of unemployment. At one stage I was being paid more on benefits than actually working. I also discovered the qualifications that I got from school were not worth the paper they were written on out in the real world. I ended up working in a factory from the age of 20.
Then there was the women...…………………..
Clueless with girls due to a poor social life in my early to mid teens relationships with women were usually few and far between. I was terrible with breakups and regularly friend zoned. I was constantly told what a good person I was only to be ignored in favour of players and bad boys. Things came to a head when I lashed out and hit a women who cheated on me in my early 20s.
Meanwhile at work...………
I always believed the harder you work the better you get rewarded. Unfortunately it was the opposite in the modern work place as management just simply pushed the harder jobs in my direction while giving the people who didn't care and have no work ethic an easy life.
My 20s just got worse, I drank heavily surrounded by other 20 something males in the local pubs doing little more than watching football and gambling. By my late 20s half my friends were getting married/kids and half were doing nothing with their lives. I didn't feel like I belonged to either group.
At 27 I quit my job to go backpacking alone, I went on 3 trips over the next 6 years returning home for temporary work in between. I settled back into a better paid job in my earlier 30s with the lessons I'd learned in my 20s
Women suddenly seemed different...…………
I seemed to have a bit more luck with women in my 30s than 20s but I didn't know why at the time. Women who never paid attention to me at school were suddenly adding me as a friend on Facebook.
At 35 I started seeing an older women with kids behind her partners back. She was going to cheat anyway and I was never expecting it to be more than just a fling. This went on for 4 years and as time went on I became more and more attached to her. Eventually she left her partner promising we'd be together but suddenly finished with me at the time I was going through a family crisis at home.
Devastated and searching for answers...…………
I discovered the manosphere / red pill by accident while looking for online dating advice about 6 months later. I had a major crisis trying to get my head around with what I was reading and it took over 2 years before I fully digested the red pill.
I'm current 41 years old and making positive changes to my life...…..
I grew up in a typical working class small town in the midlands, I had a good family background and no major health problems. I attended a typical primary school and got a good education. I was average at English language, poor at creative subjects like art but excelled at maths and science.Discipline was strict both at home and in the classroom. I was encouraged to spend a lot of time outdoors by my parents and got plenty of exercise.I pass the 11 plus exam and got streamed into the higher ability group and went to the local grammar school. I score well above average and stay on into higher education and finally university. After graduating I go into the medial profession. I'm rewarded directly for my hard work. I gradually move up over the decades and earn well above average income.
Outside of working life I quickly meet an above average local woman thanks to the fact I have all the obvious indicators of being a good long term provider and family man. I get married at the age of 24 and end up having 3 children. I spend the rest of my life working, providing for my family and being a productive member of society.
How my life actually turned out
Being good at school was a major hinderance from the first day I arrived. Bullied by the less academically able kids was a near constant feature. This was fueled by lack of old fashioned discipline both inside and outside of the classroom.
I was constantly given "advice" on how to solve this problem. Unfortunately my well meaning but totally clueless parents were giving 25 years out of date advice that just didn't work in the modern world. Belittled as a cry baby for reporting bullying or fobbed off with a "just stick up for yourself" only to be treated like a criminal for responding with even the slightest physical contact.
Discipline inside the classroom was massively inconsistent, 2 kids could do the same thing wrong and get completely different "punishments". One female teacher at the age of 7 had her "favourites" (always girls) who could do no wrong.
There was no 11 plus exam anymore, mixed ability teaching was standard. The lowest ability kids struggled to keep up and the highest ability kids like myself sat around bored while the teachers were dealing with the ones who could barely read the instructions.
A lot of teachers were clueless when it came to enforcing discipline, one attention seeking idiot could destroy a lesson for the rest of the class and receive nothing stronger than a 15 minute detention in return.
By the age of 13 I was completely disillusioned with school and started to rebel. I managed to strike a balance between social acceptance and education by it meant that I massively underachieved.
I stayed on in education after 16 but it became clear that the schools primary goal was to get me in university no matter what. School never taught me once how to find a good job...….
I left school at 18 and went on a training program on schools advice which turned out to be a scam. I spent 2 years mixing temporary and part time work with long spells of unemployment. At one stage I was being paid more on benefits than actually working. I also discovered the qualifications that I got from school were not worth the paper they were written on out in the real world. I ended up working in a factory from the age of 20.
Then there was the women...…………………..
Clueless with girls due to a poor social life in my early to mid teens relationships with women were usually few and far between. I was terrible with breakups and regularly friend zoned. I was constantly told what a good person I was only to be ignored in favour of players and bad boys. Things came to a head when I lashed out and hit a women who cheated on me in my early 20s.
Meanwhile at work...………
I always believed the harder you work the better you get rewarded. Unfortunately it was the opposite in the modern work place as management just simply pushed the harder jobs in my direction while giving the people who didn't care and have no work ethic an easy life.
My 20s just got worse, I drank heavily surrounded by other 20 something males in the local pubs doing little more than watching football and gambling. By my late 20s half my friends were getting married/kids and half were doing nothing with their lives. I didn't feel like I belonged to either group.
At 27 I quit my job to go backpacking alone, I went on 3 trips over the next 6 years returning home for temporary work in between. I settled back into a better paid job in my earlier 30s with the lessons I'd learned in my 20s
Women suddenly seemed different...…………
I seemed to have a bit more luck with women in my 30s than 20s but I didn't know why at the time. Women who never paid attention to me at school were suddenly adding me as a friend on Facebook.
At 35 I started seeing an older women with kids behind her partners back. She was going to cheat anyway and I was never expecting it to be more than just a fling. This went on for 4 years and as time went on I became more and more attached to her. Eventually she left her partner promising we'd be together but suddenly finished with me at the time I was going through a family crisis at home.
Devastated and searching for answers...…………
I discovered the manosphere / red pill by accident while looking for online dating advice about 6 months later. I had a major crisis trying to get my head around with what I was reading and it took over 2 years before I fully digested the red pill.
I'm current 41 years old and making positive changes to my life...…..
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