A few days after my 26th birthday, I had sex with just the 2nd girl in my life.
My first relationship, and when I lost my virginity, I was 22. It lasted for six months. And when it ended, I wouldn’t have sex for another three-and-a-half years.
The 2nd girl I’d ever had sex with was on a second date. This was three months after I started learning game. She was an exceptionally cute Mexican girl, raised in the States with nice tan skin, and very large breasts. After she left my place for the night, I was thinking, “I did it.”
The previous two months, I had read through Day Bang (and Bang). I approached her using the method straight out of Day Bang.
“I can’t wait,” I thought at the time, “until she's my girlfriend. I’ll tell her the story about how I opened her using an ‘elderly opener’. And this thing called ‘GALNUC’, how it was a strategy I used to ask for her number. Wait until I tell her these things, it’ll be such a funny story.” (I cringe writing this...)
Game had worked. I went to bed satisfied. I could relax and let up the hard work of approaching. I didn’t need to learn more game. I was done with game.
A week later, we had our third date. It was at a wine bar near her, and we walked back to her place. I thought to myself, this is awesome. We’re going to have sex again.
We sat on her bed, and when I went to kiss her, she said, “No. Not here my apartment is really small, not here.” I tried one or two more times, but she resisted quite strongly. For a kiss.
“Hmm. That's strange.” I thought, "Okay we’ll just do it at my place." I’ll invite her over for something at my place, like to cook. She came over to cook dinner. We made dinner, but she insisted that we eat outside. And when we were done eating, she told me she had to go.
This wasn’t looking good.
We went on one more date, before she made it clear she just wanted to be friends. We had sex just once.
I was upset of course, but optimistic it wouldn’t be long until I found another girl…
A girlfriend, or a fuck-buddy, or someone you’ve had sex with multiple (at least three) times. In my opinion, anything less is not a girlfriend. It’s a girl you’re still getting to know.
For the players reading this, how long did it take you to find a girlfriend/fuck-buddy upon starting to learn game and what was that like for you?
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I started learning game in May 2014
It took two years.
Two years.
Easily one thousand approaches, probably closer to 1,500 approaches.
260 phone numbers.
It took going out almost every Saturday night for 15 months.
It took first dates with 50 different girls.
It took sex with 12 girls.
It took all of this until May 2016 where I could say I was with my first girlfriend/fuck buddy. A girl I was sleeping with regularly, who I banged at least three times, who I enjoyed, and she enjoyed being with me.
When I first started game, I’m not even sure my main goal was to find a girlfriend. I just never thought it would take two years. It certainly would have been cool to be with someone I liked hanging out with, and have some certainty in my sex life.
You’re probably going to do better than me.
It’s probably going to happen to you in less than two years.
But if you told me from the day I got phone number, it would take me 259 more phone numbers before I could confidently say I had a girlfriend/fuck-buddy, I might have given up right there.
Even if you never learned game, you could find a girlfriend. Millions of people do. Why was it so difficult for me? I don’t know.
Just know that:
1. Game doesn’t end. I thought it did once you found a girlfriend. You might choose to file it away for the time being, you might already be in a relationship, but that relationship will end. You’ll need to go right back out there. Even if you are in a relationship now, start. Make an approach tomorrow.
2. It might take longer than you ever anticipated. I can almost guarantee you will do it faster than me.
3. Don’t be discouraged if it takes a long time. You’ll have tons of crazy life experiences along the way. Experiences most men will never have.
But back to the girl I mentioned at the beginning for a second. Let’s say I was better at my game at the time, and we got into a relationship. Eventually we’d break up. I’d be right back to where I left off.
So I’m glad I had those two years of going out alone on a Saturday night and making approaches.
I’m glad I approached the girl at the gym who I never could get out on a first date, or the one at the park who never returned my text.
I’m glad it took that long.
Because it forced me on to this forum to ask questions when I wasn’t succeeding.
It forced me to go out and approach that girl on the bus who I met up on a first date then never saw again. Or that girl at a nightclub on a Sunday night who came back to my house 45-minutes later and gave me the best blowjob I’ve ever had. It forced me to say to myself, even though I've never done this before, I'm going to go on a capture-the-flag trip. It took me over a month to prepare, and overcome all sorts of hurdles, but while there I succeeded. Nothing comes close to the ups and downs of that trip.
I wouldn’t have had any of these experiences if I was in a relationship. I’d be spending my time with one girl.
So I’m bitter it took two years. But more than anything, I’m glad.
P.S. Game Goal 1 for 2016, accomplished.
My first relationship, and when I lost my virginity, I was 22. It lasted for six months. And when it ended, I wouldn’t have sex for another three-and-a-half years.
The 2nd girl I’d ever had sex with was on a second date. This was three months after I started learning game. She was an exceptionally cute Mexican girl, raised in the States with nice tan skin, and very large breasts. After she left my place for the night, I was thinking, “I did it.”
The previous two months, I had read through Day Bang (and Bang). I approached her using the method straight out of Day Bang.
“I can’t wait,” I thought at the time, “until she's my girlfriend. I’ll tell her the story about how I opened her using an ‘elderly opener’. And this thing called ‘GALNUC’, how it was a strategy I used to ask for her number. Wait until I tell her these things, it’ll be such a funny story.” (I cringe writing this...)
Game had worked. I went to bed satisfied. I could relax and let up the hard work of approaching. I didn’t need to learn more game. I was done with game.
A week later, we had our third date. It was at a wine bar near her, and we walked back to her place. I thought to myself, this is awesome. We’re going to have sex again.
We sat on her bed, and when I went to kiss her, she said, “No. Not here my apartment is really small, not here.” I tried one or two more times, but she resisted quite strongly. For a kiss.
“Hmm. That's strange.” I thought, "Okay we’ll just do it at my place." I’ll invite her over for something at my place, like to cook. She came over to cook dinner. We made dinner, but she insisted that we eat outside. And when we were done eating, she told me she had to go.
This wasn’t looking good.
We went on one more date, before she made it clear she just wanted to be friends. We had sex just once.
I was upset of course, but optimistic it wouldn’t be long until I found another girl…
A girlfriend, or a fuck-buddy, or someone you’ve had sex with multiple (at least three) times. In my opinion, anything less is not a girlfriend. It’s a girl you’re still getting to know.
For the players reading this, how long did it take you to find a girlfriend/fuck-buddy upon starting to learn game and what was that like for you?
--
I started learning game in May 2014
It took two years.
Two years.
Easily one thousand approaches, probably closer to 1,500 approaches.
260 phone numbers.
It took going out almost every Saturday night for 15 months.
It took first dates with 50 different girls.
It took sex with 12 girls.
It took all of this until May 2016 where I could say I was with my first girlfriend/fuck buddy. A girl I was sleeping with regularly, who I banged at least three times, who I enjoyed, and she enjoyed being with me.
When I first started game, I’m not even sure my main goal was to find a girlfriend. I just never thought it would take two years. It certainly would have been cool to be with someone I liked hanging out with, and have some certainty in my sex life.
You’re probably going to do better than me.
It’s probably going to happen to you in less than two years.
But if you told me from the day I got phone number, it would take me 259 more phone numbers before I could confidently say I had a girlfriend/fuck-buddy, I might have given up right there.
Even if you never learned game, you could find a girlfriend. Millions of people do. Why was it so difficult for me? I don’t know.
Just know that:
1. Game doesn’t end. I thought it did once you found a girlfriend. You might choose to file it away for the time being, you might already be in a relationship, but that relationship will end. You’ll need to go right back out there. Even if you are in a relationship now, start. Make an approach tomorrow.
2. It might take longer than you ever anticipated. I can almost guarantee you will do it faster than me.
3. Don’t be discouraged if it takes a long time. You’ll have tons of crazy life experiences along the way. Experiences most men will never have.
But back to the girl I mentioned at the beginning for a second. Let’s say I was better at my game at the time, and we got into a relationship. Eventually we’d break up. I’d be right back to where I left off.
So I’m glad I had those two years of going out alone on a Saturday night and making approaches.
I’m glad I approached the girl at the gym who I never could get out on a first date, or the one at the park who never returned my text.
I’m glad it took that long.
Because it forced me on to this forum to ask questions when I wasn’t succeeding.
It forced me to go out and approach that girl on the bus who I met up on a first date then never saw again. Or that girl at a nightclub on a Sunday night who came back to my house 45-minutes later and gave me the best blowjob I’ve ever had. It forced me to say to myself, even though I've never done this before, I'm going to go on a capture-the-flag trip. It took me over a month to prepare, and overcome all sorts of hurdles, but while there I succeeded. Nothing comes close to the ups and downs of that trip.
I wouldn’t have had any of these experiences if I was in a relationship. I’d be spending my time with one girl.
So I’m bitter it took two years. But more than anything, I’m glad.
P.S. Game Goal 1 for 2016, accomplished.