What do you do when a girl gives you IOIs(sexual look/stare) in a group situation?
05-05-2016, 04:14 PM
I'm not socially skilled enough to know how to proceed next. This is like in social circle situations.
Most of the time, since I don't really have many friends, this would be a group I'd just met or only have talked with a few times, and likely the group is together and knows each other well. I don't know how well the nightclub line "let's get out of here" would work especially if she wants to be with her friends too.
I've realised this is probably the main bottleneck in my game. I've got strong body language and "alpha" vibe/behavior and middling social/conversational skills(because I'm autistic, I think this is amazing). Edit: Oh, and my frame/teasing is quite good too
To describe my recent thought process, another post here on RVF(thread-53899...pid1287559) revealed I was way too focussed on HBD/evo psych theories of "value". My main hang ups were depression lowering my inner game, and how often a "low value" girl would reject me, or a girl I actually liked would flake or seem uninterested(when it's likely because she's distracted or whatever). Now looking back with this lens it's highly likely when (hot) girls have stared into me it's because they liked me.
Because of this, I've been way too focussed on trying to "drop value" and subtle DHVs, and being disappointed when I got nothing and guys who were almost objectively worse than me got girls. Now I realised a lot of girls already liked me, but I just didn't know what to do next, and let it fall through.
So if I can solve this I could have some major breakthroughs in my game.
Most of the time, since I don't really have many friends, this would be a group I'd just met or only have talked with a few times, and likely the group is together and knows each other well. I don't know how well the nightclub line "let's get out of here" would work especially if she wants to be with her friends too.
I've realised this is probably the main bottleneck in my game. I've got strong body language and "alpha" vibe/behavior and middling social/conversational skills(because I'm autistic, I think this is amazing). Edit: Oh, and my frame/teasing is quite good too
To describe my recent thought process, another post here on RVF(thread-53899...pid1287559) revealed I was way too focussed on HBD/evo psych theories of "value". My main hang ups were depression lowering my inner game, and how often a "low value" girl would reject me, or a girl I actually liked would flake or seem uninterested(when it's likely because she's distracted or whatever). Now looking back with this lens it's highly likely when (hot) girls have stared into me it's because they liked me.
Because of this, I've been way too focussed on trying to "drop value" and subtle DHVs, and being disappointed when I got nothing and guys who were almost objectively worse than me got girls. Now I realised a lot of girls already liked me, but I just didn't know what to do next, and let it fall through.
So if I can solve this I could have some major breakthroughs in my game.