Hello lads, have an interesting story for you.
I'll try to make this as concise and short and possible so here goes:
Met a girl last summer, she is my "10" in every way possible in terms of looks. She's gorgeous to the point where her phone will non-stop go off the hook from guys trying to hit her up and she'll ignore / be rude to most of them. She let me look through for my pleasure because a lot of the messages come from buddies of mine and other people I know so it's interesting to see.
She was still in a relationship when I met her. And up untill a few weeks ago, she was in this same realtionship for about 2 years. So though we flirted and whatnot, she would not even kiss me.
Anyways, she lives in a small town about 45 min drive out of my city (Edmonton, Alberta, Canada). She came down about two weeks ago to go out for her girlfriends birthday. She hits me up to tell me she'll be in the city and wants to see me. I show up at the bar her and her friends are at, I start talking to her, my one buddy starts chatting up her friend. All is well. Her and I start making out. I leave the bar early because I had a personal matter to attend to. My friend tells me she spent the rest of the night looking for me and asking where I went. A good sign. I then get a snapchat from her as she's leaving edmonton saying "I already miss you."
So the next day we are talking a bunch. She is saying she can't stop thinking about the night before and she misses me and whatnot. The next day after, she breaks up with her boyfriend of two years. She comes down to edmonton again a few days later for a double date. She brings one of her girlfriends down, I bring one of my boys. Again all is well and we are having a good time.
EXCEPT, I think I am now starting to fall for this girl. I'm feeling jealous, insecure, needy, just overall super beta. Haven't felt this way in a long time and it literally made my chest and stomach tighten up.
So after the double date, they drive back to their small town. She gives me the most passionate kiss goodbye and simply didnt want to let go of me. I can't admit I didn't feel the same way.
So now, I want to take her on an actual date one on one. And this was last thursday. So again, she drives down to Edmonton by herself this time (45 min drive) and I take her to a restaurant I used to work at. I got a picture of us taken at the restaurant that I can PM to members on the forum that I know/trust so they can see just how gorgeous this girl is. Legit motherfucking rocket. I actually really like this girl at this point. I don't even want to have sex with her. I want her to be my girlfriend. I didn't want to push for a bang or anything because I liked her well beyond just sexually. Anyways, after we eat I tell her we can go get some ice cream somewhere. There's an ice-cream spot near my apartment so I drive us there first just to give her a quick tour and kinda show off that I have my own place (this is an 18 year old small town girl so yeah). At my apartment, we start making out. My hands find themselves in certain places and before you know it our clothes are off and I'm inside of her. It was the most amazing sex ever. Kinky dirty rough amazing sex. We did everything to each other and I still think about it today.
So now here is where things get weird. I dropped her back off to her car (we didn't even end up getting the ice cream lol) because she's got school tomorrow and it was already like 9:30-10PM. That same night (it was a Thursday night) she sends me a snap chat of her in Edmonton. I was out and about at the bar with my one buddy so I snap her back asking if she has a friend for him and she says "no sorry haha." I'm like okay whatever. Then I see her at the bar with this chick and these two dudes! She comes and says hi to me and hugs me and whatnot and tells me they are leaving and I was just like "who are those guys?" I'll admit, I was level 10000 jealous/insecure/beta about this situation. Completely stifled me and ruined my night to the point where everyone could see the bitter look on my face.
Anyways, I haven't heard from her over the next few days. And when I reach out and talk to her, she's cold and distant with me. Total 180 change in her. I can pickup right away the vibes that she's going cold on me so I send this last-resort hail mary type text - I go all soft and send her a long message along the lines of: "I really enjoyed my time with you, I miss you a lot and hope to see you soon. But I know you also got out of a breakup recently so if you wanna do your thing for a bit I can give you some space and maybe we can talk sometime in the future"
She responds with: "I'm gonna do my thing. thanks"
Now, there's no way I can capture the essence of what happened over text and I'm admittedly not that good of a writer. But she was 10/10 into me and receptive to me and totally wanting me to turning straight into 0/10 or possible -1/10 interest in me. And this all seemed to happen after I banged her.
I have two scenarios in my head of what happened and I would like for your insight on this:
Scenario A: She was into me. Soon as I started actually catching feelings for her and getting all lovey-dovey and soft with her, she backed away because it turned her off. Or she could somehow pick up that I was becoming really into her and liking her which again turned her off. If this is the case, I have no idea how I'm going to get into a true relationship. A girl will only like me when I treat her like a whore and then run away as soon as I start liking her and actually treat her well?
Scenario B: She got over a breakup and used me, the player "badboy" for sex.
I'll try to make this as concise and short and possible so here goes:
Met a girl last summer, she is my "10" in every way possible in terms of looks. She's gorgeous to the point where her phone will non-stop go off the hook from guys trying to hit her up and she'll ignore / be rude to most of them. She let me look through for my pleasure because a lot of the messages come from buddies of mine and other people I know so it's interesting to see.
She was still in a relationship when I met her. And up untill a few weeks ago, she was in this same realtionship for about 2 years. So though we flirted and whatnot, she would not even kiss me.
Anyways, she lives in a small town about 45 min drive out of my city (Edmonton, Alberta, Canada). She came down about two weeks ago to go out for her girlfriends birthday. She hits me up to tell me she'll be in the city and wants to see me. I show up at the bar her and her friends are at, I start talking to her, my one buddy starts chatting up her friend. All is well. Her and I start making out. I leave the bar early because I had a personal matter to attend to. My friend tells me she spent the rest of the night looking for me and asking where I went. A good sign. I then get a snapchat from her as she's leaving edmonton saying "I already miss you."
So the next day we are talking a bunch. She is saying she can't stop thinking about the night before and she misses me and whatnot. The next day after, she breaks up with her boyfriend of two years. She comes down to edmonton again a few days later for a double date. She brings one of her girlfriends down, I bring one of my boys. Again all is well and we are having a good time.
EXCEPT, I think I am now starting to fall for this girl. I'm feeling jealous, insecure, needy, just overall super beta. Haven't felt this way in a long time and it literally made my chest and stomach tighten up.
So after the double date, they drive back to their small town. She gives me the most passionate kiss goodbye and simply didnt want to let go of me. I can't admit I didn't feel the same way.
So now, I want to take her on an actual date one on one. And this was last thursday. So again, she drives down to Edmonton by herself this time (45 min drive) and I take her to a restaurant I used to work at. I got a picture of us taken at the restaurant that I can PM to members on the forum that I know/trust so they can see just how gorgeous this girl is. Legit motherfucking rocket. I actually really like this girl at this point. I don't even want to have sex with her. I want her to be my girlfriend. I didn't want to push for a bang or anything because I liked her well beyond just sexually. Anyways, after we eat I tell her we can go get some ice cream somewhere. There's an ice-cream spot near my apartment so I drive us there first just to give her a quick tour and kinda show off that I have my own place (this is an 18 year old small town girl so yeah). At my apartment, we start making out. My hands find themselves in certain places and before you know it our clothes are off and I'm inside of her. It was the most amazing sex ever. Kinky dirty rough amazing sex. We did everything to each other and I still think about it today.
So now here is where things get weird. I dropped her back off to her car (we didn't even end up getting the ice cream lol) because she's got school tomorrow and it was already like 9:30-10PM. That same night (it was a Thursday night) she sends me a snap chat of her in Edmonton. I was out and about at the bar with my one buddy so I snap her back asking if she has a friend for him and she says "no sorry haha." I'm like okay whatever. Then I see her at the bar with this chick and these two dudes! She comes and says hi to me and hugs me and whatnot and tells me they are leaving and I was just like "who are those guys?" I'll admit, I was level 10000 jealous/insecure/beta about this situation. Completely stifled me and ruined my night to the point where everyone could see the bitter look on my face.
Anyways, I haven't heard from her over the next few days. And when I reach out and talk to her, she's cold and distant with me. Total 180 change in her. I can pickup right away the vibes that she's going cold on me so I send this last-resort hail mary type text - I go all soft and send her a long message along the lines of: "I really enjoyed my time with you, I miss you a lot and hope to see you soon. But I know you also got out of a breakup recently so if you wanna do your thing for a bit I can give you some space and maybe we can talk sometime in the future"
She responds with: "I'm gonna do my thing. thanks"
Now, there's no way I can capture the essence of what happened over text and I'm admittedly not that good of a writer. But she was 10/10 into me and receptive to me and totally wanting me to turning straight into 0/10 or possible -1/10 interest in me. And this all seemed to happen after I banged her.
I have two scenarios in my head of what happened and I would like for your insight on this:
Scenario A: She was into me. Soon as I started actually catching feelings for her and getting all lovey-dovey and soft with her, she backed away because it turned her off. Or she could somehow pick up that I was becoming really into her and liking her which again turned her off. If this is the case, I have no idea how I'm going to get into a true relationship. A girl will only like me when I treat her like a whore and then run away as soon as I start liking her and actually treat her well?
Scenario B: She got over a breakup and used me, the player "badboy" for sex.
Grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference