Has this happend to anyone else here?
Once you cross into your 30s suddenly your entire social network ends up in some combination of getting married, having kids, and getting "busy" .
I've put "busy" in quotes because we all know most people aren't really doing jack shit half the time, but that doesn't stop them and their wives from scheduling all sorts of shit from now until eternity. This makes hanging out often feel like pulling teeth.
How many times have you had a conversation that went like this, "Oh yeah dude that's awesome we need to hang more it's been too long." "Oh Wednesday?....err I've got cat yoga.....hmm Thursday the wifes breast pumping can't do that then...err uh how bout 15 weeks from now on Monday?"
As someone who has always liked to keep loose plans for anything over two weeks in advance so that there's room for random excitement in life I find this frustrating.
It feels like a god damned man date. There's the same amount of texting and back and forth involed in dating a woman but with none of the potential sexual payoff.
Your local tinder slammer isn't this hard to get out.
It's especially bad if you meet a cool dude and you are trying further the potential friendship / networking. It just feels too close to dating sending out feeler texts inviting a dude out for beers and then having to do the shceduling back an forth.
So great people of forum do I just sack up buy a calendar and see my college roomate the one day this lunar year that his wife hasn't planned something or just say fuck it and start pruning the old friendship tree to only include peopple who don't have so much shit planned they can actuall go out.
Once you cross into your 30s suddenly your entire social network ends up in some combination of getting married, having kids, and getting "busy" .
I've put "busy" in quotes because we all know most people aren't really doing jack shit half the time, but that doesn't stop them and their wives from scheduling all sorts of shit from now until eternity. This makes hanging out often feel like pulling teeth.
How many times have you had a conversation that went like this, "Oh yeah dude that's awesome we need to hang more it's been too long." "Oh Wednesday?....err I've got cat yoga.....hmm Thursday the wifes breast pumping can't do that then...err uh how bout 15 weeks from now on Monday?"
As someone who has always liked to keep loose plans for anything over two weeks in advance so that there's room for random excitement in life I find this frustrating.
It feels like a god damned man date. There's the same amount of texting and back and forth involed in dating a woman but with none of the potential sexual payoff.
Your local tinder slammer isn't this hard to get out.
It's especially bad if you meet a cool dude and you are trying further the potential friendship / networking. It just feels too close to dating sending out feeler texts inviting a dude out for beers and then having to do the shceduling back an forth.
So great people of forum do I just sack up buy a calendar and see my college roomate the one day this lunar year that his wife hasn't planned something or just say fuck it and start pruning the old friendship tree to only include peopple who don't have so much shit planned they can actuall go out.