[TheDuncan]

I am only 26 and have family asking me when Im gonna settle or find a girl to marry, I usually just laugh but as I get older I wonder will people be giving me more and more shit.

If single, how old are you and do you get any shit from people about it.

[Kid Twist]

I think the worst part of it is that (you'll have to take my word for it) I have my shit together and am attractive. Lots of particular details, but when old or average people wonder why it is, I feel like "Isn't it obvious?" Why would I go out with the 5-6s that you act like I should just say ok to --- and don't give me a boner.

Now I know guys in particular think they should be able to easily outkick their coverage, but I'm being real here. The problem is that the age difference is such a cultural difficulty in stupid places like USA (re:women) ... and we all know what the 29-early 30s age group is ... for the most part, who wants'em

[ps - the real answer to your question is that they are just curious and can see their wheels turning, not really giving me "shit" --- probably thinking of a "nice" girl (read: not very hot) for me]

[RexImperator]

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as I get older I wonder will people be giving me more and more shit

As you suspect, they will if you are successful in other parts of your life, but, if you were to fail deeply and be seen by them as a "loser" then they won't.

[General Stalin]

Many (especially older) people are under the belief that having a GF/wife is an essential part of a successful life. It "completes" you and they are from the last generation that mostly believed that the whole point of building a good successful life was to settle down and raise a family.

If people ask me why I'm single I just say the right person hasn't come into my life yet or something to that effect. Depending on the person I may answer more candidly, though. I've had my fair share of "girls in my generation..." conversations too.

[Stimulus]

I mostly 'got shit' because I was the LTR guy. Now I'm single, they have LTR's/are married etc and they kind of envy me because of my freedom and doing whatever the fuck I want, when I want, with whom I want.

[nomadd]

Most of the older single guys look like miserable fat losers, so people think you may become one of those.
Honestly when I meet 40 years old single guy he looks like piece of shit and something wrong with him. If you look good and actually date women, you won't get shit don't worry.

[Silver_Tube]

Family, friends, coworkers, constantly asking me why I'm still single. You get into your 30's then suddenly everybody judges you like a predator because you haven't settled.

[Mess O.]

I've taken guff from much older relatives an occasion. Even my parents still don't quite grasp how some of the dynamics have changed. Remember when it was a big deal to get a number, like, back when it would actually ring up a house phone?

[bootyhuntah]

As long as people know you can pull thin and attractive women younger than you it doesn't really matter. When people understand how much fun you are having living your life on your terms, your situation (single or not) will explain itself for the most part. This doesn't mean that people won't try to knock you down and/or shame you in spite of these choices (due to jealousy, etc); the important thing to remember here is to never apologize to ANYONE for consciously making the choice to be single and bang multiple women.

[Kid Twist]

(03-04-2016 01:05 PM)Silver_Tube Wrote:  

Family, friends, coworkers, constantly asking me why I'm still single. You get into your 30's then suddenly everybody judges you like a predator because you haven't settled.

This is the distillation of what I've said above, especially when you realize that younger girls are cooler (even if unrefined "stupid" as the jealous elders would say) and you'd rather hang out and bang them instead.

[Shoubuliao]

Just turned 30 a couple months ago. One of my best friends has recently started to take on this very patronizing tone about me being single, as if to say I don't understand much about life because I'm not married. I find it highly annoying and it makes me not want to hang out with married friends.

Thing is, like everyone's said, very few of my married friends seem happy. They seem perpetually irritated with their spouse. Yet they can't understand why you're not eager to join the club.

[Khan]

If you're successful at anything in life, you'll get shit from others. Don't worry, it's something we all have to endure in this degenerate society of ours. Just keep calm and carry on doing your thing.

I do get shit (I'll be 30 this year), but it's only occasionally and even then when I do, it's very subtle and benevolent. It's mostly from people in my workplace environment.

Now that you mentioned, I remember several months ago I had an interesting conversation with two chicks at work. Both are in their late 20s, and one of them is getting married soon. We were chatting and gossiping, and the soon-to-be-married one began to tease me about how it's time for me to get married as well and all that shit. I brushed it off lightly and then decided to give them both a small taste of the red pill:

Me: (raising both of my palms in the air) Tell me, do you see a ring on any of these fingers?
Them: (confused) emmmm...no
Me: Do you know what that means?
Them: No?
Me: It means that I'm 100% in control of both my spare time and the money I make. Why would I get married then?

They took it really well and began to laugh and giggle. Then I flipped things on the bride and made it about her future hubby, teasing her about his future marital servitude to her, etc. You know what was the most fascinating thing? The vibe I got from her. She took my Senifeld-esque tirade without any insult, and even began to make jokes about her fiance.

I'm now pretty convinced that a lot of women are aware of what married life means for a man. They all get it. They know that they're in control. They know that he's completely unaware of game. They know that he doesn't have a clue about what he's signing up for. They know it's all about them and their need to cash in while they still can. They know everything.

And they know they can't get to you if you keep your frame strong.

From then on I've made it a habit of occasionally dropping some light red pill wisdom around. I've found that women usually react pretty well, provided that two assumptions are met: 1) you deliver the message in a playful tone, not with arrogance and frustration oozing from you and 2) the target audience is not SJW.

[bootyhuntah]

(03-04-2016 04:16 PM)Shoubuliao Wrote:  

Just turned 30 a couple months ago. One of my best friends has recently started to take on this very patronizing tone about me being single, as if to say I don't understand much about life because I'm not married. I find it highly annoying and it makes me not want to hang out with married friends.

Thing is, like everyone's said, very few of my married friends seem happy. They seem perpetually irritated with their spouse. Yet they can't understand why you're not eager to join the club.

This is very interesting. I'm 31 and have several married friends. I can't think of a single one (I'm speaking about the guys here) who speak down to me about being single. If anything, most of them love to live vicariously through my stories of living a life of freedom. While most of them do seem happy in their marriages, they do still very much seem to value my friendship. I think thus has to do with the fact that I probably serve as a direct connection to their past memories of bachelorhood, which is something that many men regard with fondness...whether the fondness is justified or not is another topic entirely.

[johnbozzz]

Yeah, I do, mainly from my father, who married my mother when they were both 28, but had been dating for three years. Of course, the times have changed.

[Merenguero]

Never. The kind of people who would give me shit have absolutely no place in my life and I don't deal with them. Some guys who in no way monogamous by nature get pressured to get married by their idiot families and friends and that rarely, if ever, turns out well. I actually think my family would freak out if I told them I was getting married, like they would be concerned about me getting played or something.

[Mr. D]

Sometimes. After I started using "I prefer to be free" as my standard answer, people pretty much stopped asking...

[The Black Knight]

Sort of.

I've lost several married friends partially due to being single.

These guys were all blue pill and their wives owned them. When I would try to interject some non-wife time in their lives (nothing dubious; just bro time), these women would start clamping down on their husbands to spend less time with me. Since these guys were bitches, this clamping down would sometimes manifest itself into making light of my lack of LTR in my life; despite them knowing how much pussy I was plowing though. So in that sense, I got shit on for being single.

Beyond that, I don't really ever get shamed into marriage. Some senior age relative went on a light speech about "when I was your age, I had x amount of kids..." It was a subtle friendly jab which I just countered with: "Have you talked to any young women today? Good luck trying to convince any of them to have a kid in their 20's."

[Suits]

Tell them that you're just waiting for the right girl to come along that can be a good mother to your children.

Ask them to introduce you to any women they know that might be a good fit (25 years and under, of course) and then fuck those women.

NOTE of CAUTION: Do confirm the attractiveness of any females before meeting them, especially if it's another female who is introducing you. Women have a bad habit of trying to set you up with their ugly, unmarriageable friends.

[BlackFriar]

Note: I have to admit that I was in no shape financialy or physicaly to "attract" some kind of mythical unicorned woman to sire my young ones. Or at least, this is what I thought in my head. None of this really matters, or is true.

I see lots of people still getting married and being relatively happy. I see a lot of people that are not happy. I also see lots of guys that do not give a rats ass....act like assholes/fuck ups and there are relatively good looking women following them in tow.

What I have known all along and every one on this forum will tell you is that men in our particular persuasion on this site have to better ourselves (for our ownself,) adopt a devil may care attitude and just carry on with life.

If people try to guilt trip you, because you are single: to hell with them. If you see these asses that dont have their shit together (get hot women) and it bothers you: to hell with yourself. Get over it....or try to. Realize that opinions are worth as much as peanuts. Do not get envious or caught up on other peoples successes and failures and definately do not get hung up on your own failures.

Live life the best way you can. Better yourself. Realize that people have faults and ones that criticize you for being single probably aint in the best position to be handing out advice themselves.

Strive to be the best man that you can. Success hopefully will follow. If it doesnt, just keep on trucking. Plow through life like a steamroller. You have nothing to lose. We all are going to end up dead, eventually.

Do you want to get old and be on your deathbed and look back on life and regret all the things that did not go right? Or do you want to have a glass of bourbon in your hand and take a drag on a cigarette and flick it in the devil's face and tell that SOB that you had a good life and you have no regrets? I choose to try and live with no regrets.

Live your life. Do what you have to do to get by and to hell with any and everyone else.