[gustavofring]

Hey guys,

So i've been seeing this girl in college for a bit who seemed pretty cool until recently.

We've been banging for a couple of weeks and from what her friends have said to me and her general vibe, she seems pretty interested.

To give some background as i feel it may be relevant too how shes acting/aid anyone in giving me advice: i have managed to build up quite a bit of social fame in college for throwing parties etc and have become slightly notorious with regards to girls. My last fling ended pretty badly and publicly.

Everything was going smoothly until recently right before went to bed, I suggested that we hang out this week, then also said something with regards to a previous comment she made. She totally ignored my comment about hanging and replies to the other stuff; completely disrespectful.

I went cold on her for a couple of days and she then hit me up; we spoke briefly and i acted as nothing had happened and but now she is taking hours to reply each time. I feel as though she is trying to 'tame' me or something retarded like that, even though we have already had sex.

For some stupid reason which I cant fathom, i actually really like this girl and wouldnt mind seeing how things go in the long term with her. Its crossed my mind that like many girls from 18-22 she has rock solid game and im falling for it. What would you guys do in this situation? I dont want to play her petty little texting games as I feel im way to old for that stuff anymore, but dont want to let her walk all over me.

[kaotic]

(02-17-2016 03:49 PM)gustavofring Wrote:  

Hey guys,

So i've been seeing this girl in college for a bit who seemed pretty cool until recently.

We've been banging for a couple of weeks and from what her friends have said to me and her general vibe, she seems pretty interested.

To give some background as i feel it may be relevant too how shes acting/aid anyone in giving me advice: i have managed to build up quite a bit of social fame in college for throwing parties etc and have become slightly notorious with regards to girls. My last fling ended pretty badly and publicly.

Your gut is calling her out, you know somethings wrong. First step is acknowledging something is up.

Sounds like you've got good social game, throwing parties, and some notoriety with girls, awesome. You're ahead of the game.

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Everything was going smoothly until recently right before went to bed, I suggested that we hang out this week, then also said something with regards to a previous comment she made. She totally ignored my comment about hanging and replies to the other stuff; completely disrespectful.

I went cold on her for a couple of days and she then hit me up; we spoke briefly and i acted as nothing had happened and but now she is taking hours to reply each time. I feel as though she is trying to 'tame' me or something retarded like that, even though we have already had sex.

What exactly was her comment to you ?

Good, you did the right thing, you don't reward someone who is disrespectful and she chased you via text.

She's playing games, the best way to win, is not play her game. I wouldn't even both responding to her, unless she actually hits you up to hang out. She'll either go cold or she'll chase you, reset the frame, and make sure you don't take any BS from her.

You already had sex, you already won.

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For some stupid reason which I cant fathom, i actually really like this girl and wouldnt mind seeing how things go in the long term with her. Its crossed my mind that like many girls from 18-22 she has rock solid game and im falling for it. What would you guys do in this situation? I dont want to play her petty little texting games as I feel im way to old for that stuff anymore, but dont want to let her walk all over me.

You're already pedastalizing a girl you've know ONLY FOR A FEW WEEKS.

Think about that - you're already dreaming of an LTR with a girl you've barely qualified for even being in your rotation, let alone short term relationship.

You're LETTING yourself fall for her games, you need to knock that shit off ASAP. It's your fault you're letting this crap happen.

Get her off the pussy pedestal immediately, stop texting her as much.

If you're over this shit and you've got great social skills why aren't you gaming other women ?

Sounds like you've got oneitis and maybe some scarcity mentality.

Time to change the tune dude, start gaming other girls, forget about this broad playing games.

She wants to hangout with you? Fine, but only ON YOUR TERMS.

Either that or she can fuck off.

[SydneyD]

If she's disrespectful now do you think her attitude is going to get better or worse when you're 'LTRing'? (i.e When she knows she's your only option)

Chew on that.

[Gotzinho]

She's playing her game and she must have played it with a bunch of guys before. Don't get dragged into her mind games. I see you are looking for a LTR with this chick. Why? What's so different about her? You can have any chick on campus whom you could have a LTR with. Have a mindset that she is no different from the others and proceed.
If a girl wouldn't answer me when I ask her out on a date and play these texting games, I would meet up with her the next day in college, make it clear to her what I'm looking for and then get her to reply. It's either a yes or a no - you save much time by keeping life simple. Don't let her sway the way you think.