[Mercenary]

Stirfry - Have you tried dating (and banging) multiple women at the same time ?

Having 2 or 3 plates in your rotation simultaneously is one of the best ways to develop abundance mentality and stop caring too much.

[mammal]

Lots ofgood thoughts and advice in the replies.

Only thing I would add, is "knowing your options" or "knowing your value in the marketplace."

We all know how this works with jobs, buying or selling a house or car, or renting an apartment.

You can love your job, and accept no raise or even a small pay cut. But too big a pay cut and you can change jobs (with the effort and uncertainty involved) and mke a side move.

You're buying a house or car. You have an idea of what similar cars/houses have sold for. You may love a house for personal reasons and may be willing to overpay a small amount but not much over market. There will be other houses for sale. Same with selling a house, you may be willing to sell for a bit under market for a fast sale, no contingencies etc.

The above presuppose that you know the market value. Overpriced houses don't sell, underpriced sell immediately.

You can love a woman (or house or job) but it's always good to know what else is out there. If you know you have good options, you don't need to put on an act about "caring less." And ifyou're overweight, have no dating skills after a long marriage/relationship, it's impossible to fake an "I don't care" attitude.

[XXL]

Final point:

Stay on your track. Never listen to your women when she tells you to stop working too much, stop dressing well, stop working out, stop eating well, etc. They don't think straight when they say that shit so you have to think for yourself and for them. What's even worse is that they are quite decisive and alluring and seductive and nagging at the same time when they bait you like that.

It's a trap. Do not give in.

They tell to stop being "the man" cause they just want more of your attention out of their selfishness or because of temporary bad mood or for any other reason there is. Emotionally it feels like they're right. And from time to time it's OK to put things aside from time to time and comfort them. But do not deviate in general. Cause their needs will never be satisfied. They will always want you to be with them instead of doing your thing. When you stay on your track they just get moody or sad and swallow their pain after lost battle of frame. Good. Little bit of pain in the ass has never killed anyone yet so don't be scared of her tears, sulks and whining. Cause when you actually listen to them and get lazy in general they lose attraction and get really pissed off. The countdown to break up begins. That's how tricky it is.

Similarly to maintaining your standards is to maintain expectations from her. The worse thing is to love unconditionally. That's the quickest road to disaster. A woman is much more motivated to be good woman for you when you're man enough to tell her something like this.. "I love you honey for many things, like your attractive character and I want you to keep that character and make the right decisions like you used to do before so do [X, Y, Z] because you're lovely when you do it, I want to stay happy with you and I don't tolerate anything less than a happy relationship". Something like that. Yes, it's fully conditional, so what? Even if you want her to just stay fit, it's still a character trait not god's gift. She has a choice, she can take care of herself or not. It's on her what she's going to do with what you tell her. Point is, in her mind she has to go "shit, he takes good care of me, he keeps himself attractive, other bitches want him but he prefers me when I'm good woman for him, I don't want to fuck it up". This way you have more "power" than Kanye ; )

No fucking "be yourself, do whatever you want to do, I'll love you no matter what" bullshit. Paradoxically, the more forgiving you are the bigger bitch you become. Your woman will feel that bitch inside you, she's good at it. She doesn't want to fuck a bitch so she will eat shit, treat you like shit and become unbearable until you snap. Guaranteed.

Keep your shit together and stay on track so that in case of an emergency you break up as an attractive man ready for the hunt.

[Stirfry]

I just wanted to thank everyone who contributed to my thread for their valuable advice and help. I do believe that the "abundance mindset" helps with the ability to "care less" and walk away when necessary, not just as an act, but to really mean it.

I'm still learning the nuances of game but even application of the basics has helped, as has everyone's advice.