[arcterex]

I met this girl overseas- we lived in the same home for two weeks. So this is not a bang report or anything; logistically there is no way of us doing that now that we're thousands of miles apart. (I do realize that in the eyes of some I am wasting my time, but it's an opportunity to practice). There were some sparks between us and I will likely go back to the country, so I thought why not keep it alive.

When we started texting, I just did the normal thing. Then I thought, why don't I use something I read from Ross Jeffries something like 20 years ago. Girls have special associations with 'moments'- i think more than men do. So I asked her to think back to a moment of our time in the country that most stood out to her. She mentioned a park we went to. I pointed out how green it was, sloped- so it was green like on all sides. And she was like "Oh yeah!". And later said she "loved" it. It was like she came alive in the memory of it. Maybe the vividness of remembering the color. Then, in our text convo, the happiness and allure of it was spilling over into how she looked at me. (it also doesn't hurt that she's not one of these overly sarcastic chicks who could have kept breaking the moment by making comments like "all parks are green, duh")

It seemed conjuring up vivid images of peak experiences (it was a pretty park) brings back the emotions associated with it. We talked some more, and you could tell she was more excited; initiating more conversation.

Then, I did something more subtle. That park we stumbled into; after she said she loved it, I said "Some of the best things you discover by accident". She agreed and said they are "unexpected and wonderful". She then said she "LOVED" spending time at that park and gave the emoticon with hearts as eyes (sorry, this is kind of lame- but I'm trying to be descriptive). Her language and expression changed. Then on her own subtly referenced some physical stuff between us. It felt like she was bridging her emotions from the event for me; and this nebulous language I used might have helped bridge the two.

I do realize some may say I'm just being a beta-orbiter, but to me it's more testing what things work. I know that the "remember" stuff can get lame in the wrong context- like some blue pill dope being overly sappy about some minor event that has some overhyped significance to him because he got "feels" during it and the girl didn't. But I think if you know some moment mattered to a girl, it helps to bring it back - and she associates it with you or transfers her emotions from the event of it to you directly. Then with some subtle language, you can further bridge the event to yourself.

[kaotic]

Why aren't you practicing with girls locally ?

Talking to a girl a thousand miles away IS a waste of time, when are you planning to go back ? Months ? Years?

You don't think she's talking to other dudes and hopping on a dick ? Come on now.

Living in a memory/fantasy isn't something you should be focusing on, you've got a case of oneitis dude.

[arcterex]

Haha. It was just a text experiment, not to the exclusion of whatever else I'm doing. But yeah, you're right in that I really shouldn't waste any more time on it because I can't prove that it's working w/out getting the bang.

OnEdit: I wanted to add that my original post wasn't meant as advice. Clearly I did not get any results from it so it's not as though I am saying 'I know this works'. It was more me thinking aloud of something I tried and seemed like it had potential; and also curious if anyone has done something like this and gotten it to work.

[PapayaTapper]

(02-03-2016 01:23 PM)arcterex Wrote:  

Haha. It was just a text experiment, not to the exclusion of whatever else I'm doing. But yeah, you're right in that I really shouldn't waste any more time on it because I can't prove that it's working w/out getting the bang.

[XPQ22]

I know this guy who works at a club I go to who spends his free time texting with some girl who is spending 6 months in some country in Asia.

Posed the following question:

"If she called you up and said 'Hey. Been feeling a little lonely. Want to come spend a week with me? I'll pay for your airfare' would you go?"

Him: "Well yeah, of course!"

Me: "Right. You'd be on the horn to Cathay Pacific and getting your passport in order in a heartbeat. Now, if you shot her the exact same line, how would she respond?"

Him: "..."

Hmm.

[arcterex]

Thanks for the feedback all. Tough to hear, but it was spot on. I am taking a business trip nearby and kind of tried to see how warm she was in our meeting up while I'm there (I would have to take another flight for a few hours), and she wasn't exactly going out of her way to invite me. In the back of my mind, I thought I could keep her going so when I visited, she'd be down, but it's pretty much what people said above- I made it bigger than it actually was in my own head. That's what this forum is for- cramming the red pill suppository into unwilling patients- so I'm grateful for it. I will take a week or so to get over my self-loathing and then will try to get out there again.