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(02-14-2016 06:26 AM)Wisetell Wrote:  

Really I'd say your problems lie in your confidence of yourself and your trust in others. You seem to think your friends don't care and that you are more of a loner. However true that may be Hold yourself in a position to where you are the highest, don't be an egotistical ass to your *friends* but hold yourself to where you think you are higher. You don't have to think your better than everyone else if you cant think it like that just think of yourself on their level. Its what i did and since i have actually been able to perform some game.
I suggest reading some books, the deep forum is nice, here's one I recommend (thread-51977...pid1158821 another one is thread-44196.html), find a girlfriend you don't have to start off with sex try a LTR and find what you like it worked for me but I cant guarantee it will for you. Read some Psychology or take the class if you can (if your high school has it) if not just try some simple videos. I loved the high school class and it actually gave me some insight on my own life. If you cant make a lot of friends try Band, it helped me become more social and not give a rats ass what people think. Get active in your school activities in general
Starting off is hard and I know, But hold yourself high. Know that those friends don't make you who you are but you make your own plot in life.

Now for your talking while trying to game. I'm no expert but Cobra has made good points and I agree with Inner Game things. While your confidence is not the greatest you have to actually approach to start. (seem as if you have in first one where you mention) But when not if WHEN you approach ask some questions. Read the forum get advice do approaches keep a log of it.

I've been reading alot on conversation when it comes to game itself. I have yet to find a conclusive thread though. I read How to lay girls so I have a general idea of how to say things but not what to say. There's so much contradicting information and so many different ways of going about it that it's difficult to find somewhere to start. If you guys know any conclusive conversation threads that explain sort of what you want to aim for in a conversation in terms of topics that would be cool. Most of the stuff I read seems to be what to do after the bang and not pre-bang.

[Gas]

First, stop being so hard on yourself. You're fucking 16. You're still a kid. If you start getting depressed about not having girls and being the cool kid when you're 16 you're going to be miserable.

When I was 16 I'm not sure I had even talked to a girl before. I lost my virginity at 18 and didn't bang another girl until I was 24. I found this forum at 25 and now I'm heading to 30 and I've done so much cool shit and banged girls of every color and traveled to a lot of awesome places. Best of all, I'm barely getting started.

You're growing up. Give yourself a chance to grow up. So you feel like a loser. Guess what. That's a part of growing up. Every kid felt like a loser at some stage. So don't be so hard on yourself. It takes time to become a man.

The fact that you want to try and start improving yourself is already a victory. At 16, I was playing video games and never thought twice about girls or lifting weights or anything like that. So give yourself props for coming to the right place and having the right mindset at such a young age.

My advice would be start taking up a martial art. Boxing or karate are good choices. Both are very focused on mindset and discipline. Both are also great for your confidence, and you'll make great friends there too.

Secondly, get a job. Any job. Learn to earn and save and invest your money. Mop floors if you have to. We all started somewhere. Develop a strong work ethic for your 20s.

Thirdly, talk to girls. At your age I wouldn't even worry about "perfecting your game" and reading books on pickup or anything like that. Just talk to them. Say hello. That will probably feel like a near-death experience already. That's good for your confidence. She'll probably just smile and say hello back. Even if she rejects you hard, you'll learn to brush it off. By the time you're 25, talking to girls will be nothing for you. Do you know how many 25 year olds are afraid to say hello to a girl? Almost all of them.

And lastly, relax. You're 16 man. Jesus. No one has their shit figured out at 16. No one has it figured out at 40. You're literally at the start line. If you talk to one girl this month, that's a victory. Next month will be two girls. Your first boxing class - another win. Earning your first dollar - another win. If you used to walk with your head down and tomorrow you walk with your head up - fucking huge win. If you concentrate on little wins like this you will be a fucking beast at 25. Don't feel like a loser because you're not as cool as the cool kid in school banging every hot girl. That's a rigged game. There will always be someone cooler than you.

The only person you need to compete against is yourself. As long as you're getting better each day, doesn't matter what anyone else is doing. That's why it's called SELF improvement. It's about you.

There's an exciting road in front of you.

Good luck.

[BlackFriar]

OP is headed in the right direction. You are wanting to improve yourself at an age when most people now can't even change a tire. I didn't want to start improving myself until just now and I am past 30 years old. Keep your head up. You are already on your way.

Start looking in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you want to make a change. If you do it enough, one day it will just click inside your brain and you will see things from a different perspective.

[Sigma]

I haven't read all the comments so I might be repeating some things but for a job, take a shot at something that would overlap with real world skills. Ie sales or maybe a trade related gig.

For hobbies I would strongly recommend yoga and swimming for your particular situation. Yoga will be good for posture, stretching, and helping you get comfortable around the ladies.

Swimming is weightless cardio that will broaden your shoulders, add lean muscle, and not wreak havoc on your joints later on down the line.

Don't bother trying to make yourself more interesting, that shit comes off as fake and in many cases douchebaggy. Find things that interest you and pursue them passionately. How do you find them? Close your eyes and throw a dart, you've received some great suggestions here, pick something that seems cool and give it a whirl.

No one ever complained of having tried too many things.