[Agreddor]

The experience I’ve had this year alone have made me realise that anything is possible, if one has the right circumstances and opportunity—“Fate” as many would call it.

The concept of fate has been excessively romanticised by society. The coincidence of events which have positive outcomes has been touted as fate.

Fate is essentially an umbrella term used to describe how lucky a person is; luck is euphemism for how probable an event is likely to occur.

The year would not have been what it had been had it not been for the work I’ve put into my self-development and those who have helped me along the way.

You make your own luck.

[BrewDog]

(12-30-2015 08:19 AM)Agreddor Wrote:  

You make your own luck.

There are lots of people that have experienced car wrecks, floods, cancer, and herpes who might disagree. Sometimes good and bad things happen. And it's not under our control.

[poutsara]

Everyone gets lucky from time to time.

[Truth Teller]

Don't confuse "luck" with making the right moves to be in the right position at the right time.

[RatInTheWoods]

The harder I work, the more luck I seem to have....

[Dantes]

It has been said that luck is preparation for opportunity. Many factors are beyond our control, but we can be prepared to take action when the forces that be present an opportunity.

[Mercenary]

(12-30-2015 08:19 AM)Agreddor Wrote:  

The concept of fate has been excessively romanticised by society. The coincidence of events which have positive outcomes has been touted as fate.

This is very true. The endless "fate" and "destiny" brainwashing propaganda is something that goes hand in hand with feminism and the bullshit female narrative of the last 40 years. I fell into this trap believing this nonsense for many years.

In reality good luck and amazing things only "just happen" to you if you are rich, famous, powerful or a good looking female between the ages 18 and 35.
If you're a girl all you have to do is look friendly and attractive and every day is full of "destiny" and "fate".

(12-30-2015 08:19 AM)Agreddor Wrote:  

The year would not have been what it had been had it not been for the work I’ve put into my self-development and those who have helped me along the way. You make your own luck.

Again, very true.
The only thing that really exists for you as a man is COINCIDENCES and OPPURTUNITIES. You need to be both smart enough to recognise them, and then strong enough to take advantage of them.

This can be a chance encounter with someone important who might give you a new job, a cute girl that gives you an IOI on the train, or just being in the right place at the right time when something important goes down and knowing how to use it to your advantage.

These moments are rare and short, but if you are a man of action you can then create your own good luck.

The only men who believe in destiny and fate are betas.

Alphas on the other hand are living manifestations of destiny.

[Heinrich von Geobbels]

Having escaped from a worldview that was fatalistic to the extreme (hyper-Calvinistic Christianity) when I left it for a more open Arminian-Wesleyan stance I learned that I couldn't blame God for my "bad luck" anymore and that is when I learned the very hard way that we make our own "luck."

Through the years, I have learned that people that others would call "blessed by Lady Fortune" have several traits in common: they 1) work hard, 2) build relationships/network, 3) focus on their strengths, 4) avoid toxic people, and 5) basically have an outlook on life that is a mature and good mix of optimism and realism. Yet, the predominant factor is the third one, an almost monomaniacal focus on what they wish to achieve.

I was recently encouraged to read the works of Abraham Maslow, especially his theories on self-actualization. As I have not yet competed my study I cannot comment, but he appears to agree with me but in a far more detailed manner.

[WanderingSoul]

"The harder I train, the luckier I get" - His Highness Sir Renzo Gracie

[WanderingSoul]

People who sit around and bitch about bad luck, tell other people how lucky they got, etc. are mentally weak.

If someone tells you you're lucky, it's a way for them to belittle your achievement and to make them feel better about themselves for not being able to do the same thing. "He didn't do it because he's better than me, he did it because he's lucky. I'm better than him, I'm just not so lucky.'

I can't count how many times I've heard "You've lived in Spain/Thailand/Philippines?!? You're so LUCKY!" which is total horse shit. I was able to do those things because I made them happen.

Is there some component of bad/good luck in life? Sure. Sometimes bad shit just happens and sometimes you're in the right place at the right time, but if you don't strive for what you want and try to make it happen, you'll never get it.

Luck is having a rich long lost uncle whom you've never met die and leave you his fortune.

Making moves and getting shit done to achieve what you desire isn't luck.

The Renzo quote above says it best.

[robreke]

(01-02-2016 10:35 AM)Dantes Wrote:  

It has been said that luck is preparation for opportunity. Many factors are beyond our control, but we can be prepared to take action when the forces that be present an opportunity.

Good point Dantes. Actually, the quote is "Luck is when preparation meets opportunity" meaning, if we are prepared and skilled in certain areas, then we must go through life until those opportunities present themselves.

At that point the maxim "Fortune favors the bold" comes to mind, because it is after all, the bold who recognize opportunity when they see it and engage it.

[Lizard King]

Absolutely.

[masoud_akbari]

when you get an opportunity, that is your "luck" and its up to you to grab it with both hands.

No one is born talented, or born amazing at a particular field. They work for it, they earn it.

Hate the "he is naturally talented" crap that people come out with when one particular person does well in an exam or gets all the women. Its rubbish, abosultely tosh

[Guitarman]

Not true on the talent. Some people are just naturally better at certain activities than others.
Music, sports, academia etcetera. No amount of effort can make up for natural talent plus effort.

[RichieP]

Definitely.

I've come to a similar conclusion. Now I see anything I do as a "little bet" - you can never know the outcome exactly, but you can have a good guess at the possible range of outcomes, especially if you test the waters and do smart research.

Then it comes down to taking the right little bets with high potential upside and an "acceptable risk" i.e. something where you can afford to get no return on whatever time/effort/money you invest, other than the learning.

This is how successful investors get rich. Lots of little bets with asymmetric risk profiles - high upside, limited, acceptable downside.

The opposite of this is pinning all hopes on a completely untested course of action that takes massive time/resources, and ends up being a mediocre ROI. That's what gets people stuck in years-long ruts.

[RichieP]

(01-05-2016 05:36 PM)RioNomad Wrote:  

I can't count how many times I've heard "You've lived in Spain/Thailand/Philippines?!? You're so LUCKY!" which is total horse shit. I was able to do those things because I made them happen.

Luck is having a rich long lost uncle whom you've never met die and leave you his fortune.

Making moves and getting shit done to achieve what you desire isn't luck.

Yes haha. Sometimes I just smile and go "yeah, pretty lucky I guess...", inside I'm thinking of all those hours grinding, searching, sacrificing, trying, failing, trying again that I've pushed through to make things the way they are.

I don't hold it against them. IMO this "you're so lucky" thing is just an attitude from someone who hasn't walked a big journey yet. Maybe they will one day, and get it, or maybe not.

[masoud_akbari]

(01-08-2016 11:54 AM)RichieP Wrote:  

(01-05-2016 05:36 PM)RioNomad Wrote:  

I can't count how many times I've heard "You've lived in Spain/Thailand/Philippines?!? You're so LUCKY!" which is total horse shit. I was able to do those things because I made them happen.

Luck is having a rich long lost uncle whom you've never met die and leave you his fortune.

Making moves and getting shit done to achieve what you desire isn't luck.

Yes haha. Sometimes I just smile and go "yeah, pretty lucky I guess...", inside I'm thinking of all those hours grinding, searching, sacrificing, trying, failing, trying again that I've pushed through to make things the way they are.

I don't hold it against them. IMO this "you're so lucky" thing is just an attitude from someone who hasn't walked a big journey yet. Maybe they will one day, and get it, or maybe not.

Hate people that dont recognise a man's achievements. Fucking winds me up.

"You are a footballer, oh how easy life must have been for you"
"So lucky that you are good looking"
"So lucky that you are naturally intelligent so walked into med school"


ALL FUCKING BULLSHIT

[BoiBoi]

delete.