Quote: (12-28-2015 04:32 PM)Roosh Wrote:
Have you read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius? He argues that anything that you can voluntarily do is in accordance with your own nature. You can read it as him saying that ANYTHING you do is in fact you. There are people who can't even fake confidence, so confidence is not in their nature.
I haven't read that, but I would if I had more time to do so. You're making me wonder whether I've always been a free-wheeling, happy, kind-to-everyone spirit who was tragically not allowed to be that way for the majority of his life. Maybe that's me. Maybe not. I don't know.
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The real question is "Do I want to present this part of me for as long as I want to keep her?" It's not so much presenting a part of you that is "authentic", but acting in a way that is sustainable and doesn't cause internal conflicts, mental fatigue, etc.
(This will meander a bit, but I'll keep it as tight as possible.)
My brother and I had this exact same conversation recently. We're pretty close, and he is four years younger than me. In our youth, he has always had significantly better social skills, but I've transformed into the more social one. He knows I study Game.
He has a 33 year old girlfriend with strong feminist tendencies, whom he describes as "on the outside looking in, regarding dating, for the majority of her adult life". She isn't ugly. She also knows that I study Game, and highly objects.
In Bang, you tell beginners they need definite, written-down goals. You say it's because Game has dry spells, and remembering your goals will power you through a dry spell. But I say it's because those goals will automatically come true, (whether they're consciously-known or not), so a newbie needs consciously-chosen, happy goals.
I asked him to guess my two goals, and he was wrong twice. They are (1) To take Game seriously, "like a college course", so that I can be an honest representative of what Game can do, (especially for an old-newbie). (2) To find the joy in every Game-inspired interaction, especially the ones that "go sideways" or break my heart.
He said that my goals were very idealistic, and he can't imagine himself either "putting in that amount of work" or "having to be on all the time".
I told him that two of my favorite moments came from having to switch myself on.
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The first happened shortly after you and I met. I'm in Sephora and I just want to buy moisturizer and leave. The two girls behind the counter aren't that cute. But one says to the other, "That guy who comes in all the time asked Aileen why she isn't thin like all the other girls."
My eyes light up, and after confirming he said that, I say, "I'm actually part of a secret internet community that focuses on hitting on girls, and as a member, I've gotta say that's an
excellent opener. Eight out of ten. Would repeat."
She asks if I'm serious. I tell her absolutely, and that I'm working on something to say to her, but my brain is a little slow right now.
So I look at her. Hispanic. Hair dyed blonde. Very tasteful. Curly hair is perfect. Make-up is perfect. Eyebrows are perfect. Lipstick is perfectly-applied, and not obnoxious. She has a small freckle bordering her upper lip that's the same color as her lipstick. Touchdown! I get my smirk on and say, "I've got it."
She interrupts by saying, "I really want to hear what you have to say!"
I reply, "I really like the color of your lipstick...(pointing to my own lips, where her freckle is)....even though it makes your lips look like they're
expanding right here."
She looks away, and laughs what I call the "I don't like it, but I approve of it!" laugh. It's my favorite laugh of all.
I reply, "That's the look I'm looking for. You have a nice day."
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The second happened last week. It's early in the morning. I haven't caffeinated yet. I just want to buy my food and coffee, then leave. The clerk isn't attractive at all.
She asks an unattractive female customer, "Is it big inside? (referring to a coffee cup)"
I practically grumble to myself, because I'm tired. But I cannot pass up that opportunity.
So three minutes later, I tell the clerk, "You know. I'm part of this secret internet community that focuses on hitting on women. So when you asked that other woman whether it was big inside...."
She interrupts by smiling, and saying, "Oh my God!" Her smile doesn't make her any more attractive, but it does make her happy.
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I still am a beginner in a lot of ways, but I admire Game's ability to discover and inject joy / hilarity into just about any conversation. I also know that when I get very tired, all I can do is think of titles that I cannot execute. (So my brain will say, "Agree and Amplify!", but it won't come up with a single example of that.)
But I really enjoy being able to perform this way when I'm mentally fatigued. The only hurdle I foresee is when a chick lives with me and sees just how the magic spell is performed.
So overall, you're right about the mental fatigue. But I think a man can willfully choose to become whatever role he wants, despite the threat of mental fatigue or damage from divorce / her annoyance.