[Banned]

Okay gentlemen, I know, there are numerous threads on this subject. I've read them all...I see my problem but I feel like its out of my control. I want to take control of this before it gets out of hand but I don't know what the fuck to do. I spent way too much time getting to know this chick after fucking her, and it's seriously fucking with my head.

I'm catching myself checking my fucking phone for her texts, when I have absolutely no right to be doing so! And there's this feeling of impending doom in the back of my mind I cannot shake, even though I know there is NOTHING WRONG. Like I have two minds, one logical, and one beta bitch.

I'm contemplating purposefully ruining things with this woman just to save myself the trouble in the future. Before I met her I was so set in my ways of being single, and loved it, and want to return to that life! Its like I can't remember who I was before, wtf.

This is, in fact, a sad little cry for help. What should I do in this situation? Break things off, or continue forward closely evaluating every move for the slightest hint of beta mentality? I tried fucking other bitches. I have 4 right now that i could easily hook up with this weekend, no problem. But I get an almost sick feeling when I think about it. I'm sick gentlemen. I've got the oneitis.

[456]

If you've been fucking others and it's been a while since you felt a little Oneitis, just let it ride and use it to practice your Deep Conversion™ game.

Or be vulnerable, fall in love, risk getting your heart broked. See if you can learn some good relationship management game while you're at it.

You'll come out the other side stronger.

[topdog]

^^^What 456 wrote, just don't get her pregnant. Never make permanent decisions/mistakes based on emotion.

[Banned]

Well, I fucked her brains out today and kicked her out, just to be safe. Done deal. Maybe it was the wrong move, maybe not. All I know is I do not need to be catching feelings for some young slut. (theyre all sluts right?)

I think the real problem was was longevity game. Holding on to prospects take some serious talent. More so than just fucking bitches.

[Windom Earle]

I came into this thread expecting the OP to be Banned.

My instincts were correct.

[PapayaTapper]

(12-12-2015 10:49 PM)Banned Wrote:  

Well, I fucked her brains out today and kicked her out, just to be safe. Done deal. Maybe it was the wrong move, maybe not. All I know is I do not need to be catching feelings for some young slut. (theyre all sluts right?)

I think the real problem was was longevity game. Holding on to prospects take some serious talent. More so than just fucking bitches.

You've done the hard part: your rational / logical brain recognizes the jeopardy your emotional mind has put you in. After all that's the "rub" of interaction with chicks isn't it? The level of caring whether you lose a particular one is directly corollary to the likelihood that you will.

You already know she's a temporary element to your life, it's just a matter of when she ceases to be that. There's no need to fear the truly inevitable. If you truly accept that the if is a given and only the when is unknown then there's no reason you can't immerse yourself in the enjoyment she brings to your life while she's in it. That's a pretty liberating place to be

[Cobra]

And why is your username banned? You think all women are sluts but you catch feelings for them. Have you reconciled the two?

[Banned]

(12-13-2015 02:12 AM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

The level of caring whether you lose a particular one is directly corollary to the likelihood that you will.

You already know she's a temporary element to your life, it's just a matter of when she ceases to be that. There's no need to fear the truly inevitable. If you truly accept that the if is a given and only the when is unknown then there's no reason you can't immerse yourself in the enjoyment she brings to your life while she's in it. That's a pretty liberating place to be

I understand what you are saying. I feel its more than just acceptance of the end of the "relationship". I would imagine this takes general acceptance of the inevitable. I think this level of acceptance would benefit many areas of ones life other than just areas of game. Something I've been working on for a few years, and have most definitely made improvements, but only after gaining general life experience. In other words, I agree, and I can see this mentality in my future, but it will take time.

Something I've realized, especially after reading around here awhile. Allot of these problems in life, and in game, revolve around developing a strong sense of self awareness.

(12-13-2015 11:32 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

And why is your username banned? You think all women are sluts but you catch feelings for them. Have you reconciled the two?

I explained my name in another thread, but it kinda just came to me. There's a very old song some DJ's use these days mixing up other tracks called "Face Down Ass Up" by the 2-Live Crew. The whole album is called "Banned In America" but that sounds lame, and wouldn't stir up nearly as much controversy . You gentlemen are a careful bunch, I've noticed.

As far as you're other question, I will admit, I have not. I'm really trying to, but in all honestly, i have a problem accepting the slut level of women. I realize that in the modern world there really is no escaping it other than in some red-neck farm town. I defiantly have a stronger attraction for less "experienced" and innocent women, but who doesn't. This may come to affect my notch count, but its who I am.

Its almost like when Roosh explained how he was either on his way to bring a girl home, or changing venue in a cab (I forget exactly which) when and she said she had sex with a homosexual man. And it completely ruined it for him. He called it off immediately and said something like "i wish you hadn't told me that", for fear of catching an STD. That's similar to the way i feel for sluts. Its like fucking an old rotten donut, it just doesn't sound appealing to me.

Banned

[LA Savage]

Bro what happened. You were just posting some good stuff in the Just Had Sex thread now your posting this.

Where is your abundance mentality mindest?
What is this girl providing to you that you don't already have?
Is she adding on positively to your life?
Is she making you happy in ways other girls can't?

Take a deep internal look at yourself and ask yourself do you really want to do this? Is she worth it?

Is thinking about her all day making you counter productive?

Write down a list of all the pro's vs con's of having her involved in your life and post here or make a decision on your own if she has enough value for you to invest in her.

Just don't make permanent decisions based off of temporary feelings.

We have all been there bro and it sucks. But at least you're honest with yourself and have reached out for help rather than be in denial like tons of other guys.