[Sam Malone]

Some beta answered one of my 'casual encounter' ads.

What possesses someone to answer a m4w post on Craigslist with the (obvious) intention of trying to start shit ?

Quick prologue:
Occasionally my job takes me out of town on a Friday. In those cases, I hit Craigslist a couple days before and throw up a couple "Passive Pussy" ads. I run two ads, one has more graphic pictures and description than the other. So I run the ads Wednesday evening.
I get the usual spam, and every now and again there's a legitimate response. Sometimes they flake, sometimes I flake, conflicting schedules, or sometimes I find something in person.

Fast forward to Thursday morning:
I've got an email with the catchphrase I ask for in the subject line (from the graphic ad). I open it, and it's from some guy asking me, "Is that an std, douche ?" (one of my regulars is holding a can of Red Bull next to me).
Normally I'd have just deleted the message, but my morning was shitty, and this email came at the wrong time. I felt like fuckin' with this guy.
I respond, "Nah, that's your sister's hand. Recognize the nail polish ?"

He sends a couple more insults, and then I back up a little, and try to extend an olive branch.
"Hey, all jokes aside, if you want to improve your game instead of trolling Craigslist ads, I can point you to a couple of places online that can be helpful."

I get a barrage of insults, ranging everywhere from sodomy to bestiality to incest to necrophilia. So I end the conversation with, "I'm done with this, I'm on my way to bang a 23 year old in (town about half an hour away)." He sends a couple more insults, and I head over to the 23 year old's place (Mexican, nice body, 6.5 based on the Tinder pics).

On the drive over, for some reason the conversation is sticking with me. It's kind of pissing me off, not in an 'I need to validate myself' way, but that this schmuck actually took the time. The 'internet tough guy' balls this dude had to answer my ad and talk crap. But I'm not gonna let it screw with the impending notch.

Met up with the Mexican, and after a couple of drinks (at her place) we were making out and getting our clothes off. She was giving me head, and suddenly I had an idea.

I reached over to the end table, wrote the date (11-5-15) on a piece of paper, and set it next to the alarm clock. Eventually I was hitting it doggie, so I grabbed my phone, turned on the camera, and took about a 30 second video that opened on the piece of paper with the date, and continued with my plowing her from behind (got a semi-decent tit shot, too).

Then I sent the video to the guy from Craigslist with the message, "Here's what I did this morning. If you're interested in improving your game, let me know."
(Some guys need a smack in the face to realize the red pill. Maybe this will be his).

Within a minute, this guy responds that I'm a piece of shit, and that I had to drive half an hour for a piece of ass.

My response: "Hey, sport, while you were spanking it in your mom's basement, I was the one getting laid this morning. Keep that in mind while you're perusing Craigslist m4w ads."

That was the end of his emails, but it begs the question:

Now, I can possibly wrap my head around hating or being jealous of someone's ad on Craigslist. But to actually go to the point where you contact the poster to try and give them shit ? What the actual fuck ?

[Oz.]

[Seth_Rose]

Is it really worth your time? There's plenty of info out there for them--they can find it themselves.

[Onto]

Would need more detail about your post, what he actually said, how it made you feel, etc. Being aware (thinking) of the specific feeling that his comments brought about is the most important clue.

But suffice to say we only get upset with someone if we recognize some truth in what they are saying, or if they hit on some kind of worry we have.

For example, if a stranger walks up to you and says, "You've got the wierdest purple hair I've ever seen!", you're not going to be bothered by it. That is, if you don't have purple hair.

It's good you're in question about the whole thing. Show's a desire to know yourself.

[Sam Malone]

Seth:
Normally I would just ignore and delete the email. My week started crappy (needed auto work done, and a new roof on the rear of the house). Thursday morning I was waiting in the doctor's office, and the doc was running behind (as always, which is another story). Usually 25-30 minutes behind, that day it was 45 minutes and I was still in the waiting room.
I was basically killing time with the dude from the email.

Onto:
Pretty much like I said to Seth, the week sort of culminated with the guy's email.

Here's one of the cleaner emails he sent:
"No bad for you look outside your cardboard box you call home him I its about to burn you ass lick you loser you cant even hook up on craigslist you should hook up with your dog so you won't stay a virgin lol look at me I have an ad on craigslist look at me loser go lick your ass you mutt"

This guy actually took the time to respond to my email with the above. There's others with the whole incest/necrophilia comments (although he points out specific family members lol), but the above is one of the cleaner ones.

Constructive criticism (solicited or not) I have no problems with. But to go out of your (his) way to deliver that criticism ?

I understand the purple hair analogy, this (to me) seems akin to someone turning and following you down the street a block or two, JUST to tell you that you've got the weirdest purple hair they've ever seen.
Even if I had purple hair, the comment wouldn't bother me. Even if someone walking by sarcastically mumbled, "Nice hair".
The fact that the person would have went out of their way to make the comment to me would be more... troublesome.

So what bothered me more in this situation was that the steps the guy took to essentially try and belittle me in an email.

Which made me think to myself, "What kind of life does someone have where they intentionally go out of their way to do something like that ?"

On the drive over to the Mexican's, I rationalized (correctly, I believe) that this guy must be so blue pill/beta, that he had nothing better to do. I kinda felt bad for him (as far as him seemingly not knowing what may potentially be out there for him).

Honestly, part of me sent him the video to kind of say, "Fuck you, pal".

Another part of me sent it to maybe 'shock' him into a possible awakening.

Poor bastard, I have no sympathy.

[MrXY]

Whatever anyone succeeds at in life-getting laid, making money, getting fit, producing art, having adventures, anything else, there are always bitter spiteful people who will attack them for it. This guy is a loser with women, maybe a virgin even, and was lashing out at you to avoid dealing with his own failures. You can find these guys all over the web, since online is a safe way for them to attack better men; most are too cowardly to do so in person. They're the male equivalent of fat women who criticize slender women as" Barbie Dolls".

It's better to not waste time engaging them; let them sink in their own negativity and hatred.

[Onto]

Oh, I see. I misread the last part of your post. Sorry about that. I thought you were troubled about why you would take the time to respond to that guy, when you are actually troubled about why he would go out of his way to respond to you.

Whoever was writing to you is obviously not well in the head. The crazy can be fascinating. Look at all the horror movies we make and watch as a society. It's easy to get sucked into a conversation with a crazy, especially when it's at a distance like the internet where it's kinda safe to witness it, play with it, and just leave at anytime. We might even feel like we can help them, but why would we want to do that?

Maybe it's because, like someone said, "Most live their whole life never realizing the other person is"

On some level we're all crazy, but for the most part are strong enough to hold it together and be productive in life. It is sad when we see those who can't. They are fascinating, but don't let them drag you down into their world.

[The Beast1]

Sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away.

[Thomas the Rhymer]

(11-07-2015 09:20 AM)George is King Wrote:  

Now, I can possibly wrap my head around hating or being jealous of someone's ad on Craigslist. But to actually go to the point where you contact the poster to try and give them shit ? What the actual fuck ?

Why are you paying some random loser any time of day? The world is full of trolls. Don't feed the trolls. And unless you are willing to slowly sink down to their level of loserdom, don't pay them any mind either.

[Cobra]

Yes, feeding the trolls magically turns you into one too. Beware.

[Captain Gh]

I've been there too my friend! It's when you're not feeling that hungry since you know you've got a piece of ass on deck and you just want to make them feel stupid. But that's a big no no cause they're messed up to begin with, and making fun of them is simply motivating them to find a way to troll you, and they might get you if they really put their mind into it. I hope you fallow my lead on always fallowing this rule of CL: To never respond to any ad that sounds trollish or just too weird.