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Polyamory, consent and left politics
10-31-2015, 10:22 AM
More personal ramblings about myself, to give you some ideas about who I am and so that you can expose my biases:
As we know since women have birth control the feminist revolution has destroyed traditional marriage. Nowadays if you are a man in a western country it’s most likely that the laws changed marriage into something where a man can only loose and has nothing to gain from such a contract which sets him for:
- extremely high risk of economical and financial loss
- no guarantee of sex or quality companionship
- loss of independence
I believe most of us in this forum have had sex with a large number of women, and therefore most of us are sluts - or Casanova - same thing I don’t believe men should be praised and women should shamed for it. I believe it's neither a good or a bad thing, it is relative. If it makes someone happier to fuck a large number of people then go for it, men or women. Good or bad is how you treat the people you fuck. If you give fake promises and lies to someone in order to fuck them, then it’s probably unethical. If you fuck raw random people, then it’s probably unhygienic and the risks to catch AND SPREAD some STDs are higher. And expecting women to do different sounds like cognitive dissonance. I love sluts and whores because they maximise their sexual availability (and as long as they fuck ethically and hygienic, I see nothing bad about what they do). I think they provide a great deal of service to society, and I have nothing against traditional wifes who throughly please their husband sexually. However I want to be clear that I deeply despise double standards women who for instance claim to be feminists while letting guys buy them drinks or foods and expecting a guy to provide for her. In my opinion, unless in a traditional marriage where the woman takes seriously her duty to sexually satisfy her husband, and let her be the leader, or in the role of a prostitute, a woman deserve no money or material advantages whatsoever from me. In this regard, she is like another dude to me. If we are friends, we can offer stuffs to each others but globally I make sure that it’s gonna be balanced and we remain financially independent. Most women have actually double standards, but I don’t let them apply me.
Personally, I have never felt that lifelong exclusive monogamy was something I wanted to live. I have never felt that it made sense for me to want to control who somebody else has sex with and I always felt that I would never accept to let somebody else decide who I have sex with. I have always felt that I don’t want to have sex with only one person. Physically, I like all kinds of girls, blonds with blue eyes, brunettes with green eyes, blacks with round ass, asians with smooth skin, etc.... And different women fuck differently. And different people have different personalities and life experiences. If I eat the same thing every day, I end up bored to death about the food I am eating. Same if I fuck only one same girl, meanwhile there are many other different women that I feel I want to be with. Whereas when I eat 2-3 different foods regularly, and 1-2 other foods occasionally or when I fuck 2-3 girls regularly plus 1-2 other girls occasionally, then I feel a satisfying variety. Everybody is different, personally I prefer long term relationships with about 3 regulars plus a rotation of 2 occasionals. I am nomad so that means I try to keep contact with the women who live in the places that I like and want to go back, more than half of them I can fuck again when I come back. I don’t enjoy one night stands, I usually don’t do that, the handful of times this happened it wasn’t me who decided. However I can enjoy paying for some special sexual service.
So when a woman asks me if I have a girlfriend, I answer: I don’t like to have a girlfriend and I want to remain childfree. I like to meet friends. With some friends if we feel like we can share affection and even love, and I like it to remain open: they can see and love other friends, same as I do. Most women who fuck with me pretend they fuck only me and try to shit test me to see if they can get me to be monogamous with them. Some also try to push me to fuck them raw and impregnate them. I don’t let that happen.
On the other hand, I put high emphasis on safe sex, I get tested regularly and I systematically wear condoms unless the other person is able to show me a test which is less than 3 months. There is only a handful of exceptions in my life where I took the risk to fuck a girl raw without seeing her tests results, and I believe each time it was very stupid to have done so. With regards to Roosh’s posts in one of his blog, I am probably a 8 or 9 when it comes to safe sex:
“I think of safe sex as a scale from 1-10. A 1 has never bought condoms and only uses them when the herpes is flaring up while a 10 needs signed laboratory tests from her partner before going raw.”.
I also put a high emphasis on consent. But I believe “affirmative consent” is not the best approach as it does not account for gender passive/active differences. I believe the best approach is the use of a safe word. I simply use “safe word” for the safe word. Many women (about 50% or more in my experience) are indeed reluctant to give affirmative consent or are just turned off by this as it feels awkward to them. But they actually want to fuck, while they also want to know that the guy is gonna stop if it becomes uncomfortable or is not gonna force her into something she dislikes. A lot of girls want to feel “ravished”, if not act some kind of “rape fantasy”, while not actually being raped of course and being able to stop anytime.
Sometimes I try to get affirmative consent, often for the first move cuddling her. But more and more, when the girl is shy and I have no clue if she wants to fuck, I will say something like “ok I feel like playing with you now, if you want to stop just say ‘safe word’ and I will immediately stop what I am doing and let you some space. I expect the same from you when I say ‘safe word’.” Then to make sure she understood, I tickle her until it becomes unbearable and at the same time I tell her “No matter what you say I will continue, but as soon as you say ‘safe word’ I will stop.” After a little while, she surely gets it and will say “safe word” and I stop. After that, I just do whatever the fuck I want, probably starting with kissing her in her neck or on the mouth, and every time so far I quickly and fluidly escalate to fucking her. She sometimes says “safe word”, I stop, we talk to know what’s going on, and then resume to fuck most of the time.
I usually don’t mix alcohol with gaming or fucking, it makes me sleepy and stupid, and numbs my senses. When I am drunk I can’t seem to be able to get rock hard with a condom on my dick anyway.
I am all about consent, so as I said, I don’t want to forcefully participate in procreation. So if there is an accident such as a condom broke and the girl is not on any birth control (I personally consider IUD and the pill the only valid birth control methods), I always stay with the woman, go to the pharmacy or family planning center with her and make sure she eats the next day pill. I happily pay for it if needed. And if she is reluctant to do so, I use all possible rationalisations, manipulations and psychological pressures to make her eat the damned pill. I can’t really physically force a woman to swallow a next day pill (let me know if you know how to), and I never had to, but if I could and had to, I would do it. I guess depending how you see it, I have some sort of double standard about “consent” on this matter. It occurred once that I had a very minor accident with a condom in the Philippines, Manila. Most women there are not on birth control and there is no next day pill, you have to make her eat 8 normal pills and the side effects are shitty. I didn’t cum, but there could have been some precum (I often have some white precum, I know some of my friends never have any but I do, I don’t know if it’s fertile but I just don’t want to take any risk to have kids). She was super worried about the side effects and didn’t want to eat the pills, I talked her for hours into eating the pill, and then got really upset at her and went in the other room. After that she took the pill. Later she had strong side effects, knowing the risk she got pregnant was almost zero without the pill, I felt bad for her… But that’s the kind of (hormonal) control I am willing to exert forcefully on a woman’s body for the sake of my own peace of mind, which makes me a fucking patriarch I guess. Well if the law were different and women were more responsible for getting pregnant, I would not have to do that. Meanwhile, I don’t want to mutilate my testicles with a vasectomy. So yeah, I guess this is some double standard.
As far as the protection itself, I feel male condoms suck and are not very reliable. But that’s what most people know, so that’s what I use most of the time. But technically we would be better off using vaginal condom that the woman wears, and anal condoms also.
As far as sex is concerned, I like anal sex. I really like to switch back and forth from the ass to the pussy (caution, she needs to wash down there with water before and after - or if we had anal condoms available, she could wear a vaginal and an anal condom and I could go from ass to pussy to mouth randomly). Or just fuck her ass while I play with her clit and shove my fingers in her pussy. I like pussy too, but it’s the default stuff that you always get anyways. I like group sex, starting with 3 somes. Including with another guy, I’ve had several 3 some with a few good friends, most with one of them (he is 100% straight for those who wonder). I also like 3somes with 2 girls, especially if they are already busy fucking each others. I have been in swingers clubs and met swingers couples at home. If I like how the girl smells, I like to lick her pussy. I like to fuck her, lick her pussy, fuck her again, lick her again, etc…
I like long term relationships, but I don’t like to live with someone (the main problem being this is a logistical cockblock: most girls for the first time want to be fucked at the guys place out of fear of being slutshamed in their neighborhood)
My favourite kind of girl is first a good friend, with whom I also share affection and who has no interest whatsoever in getting money from me or impregnating her. She’s significantly smaller and lighter than my own small stature of 174cm (5’9”) and 65kg (143lbs) probably around 20% bodyfat, possibly less than 50kg (110lbs) and less than 155cm (5’1”) (or she can be taller if she has small body with long legs). She is sexually adventurous and kinky, bisexual and loves anal sex. She arranges for me to fuck some of her females fiends separately or in the occasional MFF 3some and she enjoys that I do the same for her separately or in the occasional MMF 3some. Less than 5-10% of the 45 women (90% from online gaming) I fucked so far in my life (I don’t count here paid fucking prostitutes or women I fucked while swinging, this would probably double the cunts count) resemble this ideal kind of lady friend. A good 30% or more share some components of this ideal kind while having some despicable “wrong feminist” double standards. A good 40% want everything, and are full of cognitive dissonance shit: want to work, want equal wage for women and men, want men to pay for everything (I don’t let that happen with me), want a monogamous lifelong marriage and at the same time want to fuck random guys (but some guys in seem to want to fuck a lot of random girls and at the same time complain that there is no more virgin traditional women to marry: to these guys I say you can’t have both if there is no sluts out there)…
I have never ever met a single woman who had any remote idea of what it is to have the role of a man in seduction, what it is to have to be the active partner of seduction. Women have 0 empathy about that, and when they realize what kind of efforts a man puts in game it totally freaks the shit out of them. They cannot even grasp that the mere fact of sharing a roof with a woman is a huge logistical cockblock, even if she is 100% cool with me banging other chicks in the same bed. Exception to the cockblock would be if the girl actively seeks swingers couples and set me up to fuck some of her hot female friends... the latter happened once.
I am French. I have been rather sedentary in the french riviera for 6 years with a corporate job after I graduated a 5 year university degree in science and technology. In 2011, aged 28, I quit and organized a more and more minimalist nomadic lifestyle. I currently change city and country about every 3 months carrying only a flight cabin bag. I was introduced to Roosh's blog in august 2014 by a woman friend I was visiting in Vancouver BC.